I agree...but should one on one discipling or friendship be banned, or would that perhaps still be effective, even more so actually?
I would say one has to decide on an individual basis. Eventually one may come to a point when they realise they just can't help someone.
I've done that twice with two different people.
One was a fellow that I knew frem when he was a just teenager. Seemed like a decent kid. Came from a broken home with no father figure. I tried to be a role model & a friend. It did no good. As a man he became a drug addict. Even then I tried to help him for years. It seemed when he was always at the very bottom he showed up at my doorstep. I'd feed him, house him, clean him up, get him healthier, pay him to do some work for me. Witness to him best I knew how. This went on for years. Eventually he stole a van from & I haven't seen him since. I still pray for him. I don't know if he is alive or dead. though he maybe dead because one of his school mates called me almost a year ago wondering if I had heard from him because he hasn't. All that said, I have to admit it is relief not having to deal with him anymore.
The other fellow liked to come visit. Liked to way over stay his welcome. He was one of those full of doubtful disputations. Claims he is a Christian, but lives a life completely opposite. He seemed to enjoy debating off the wall doctrines. Our last visit he wanted to show me pictures on his phone of him doing "things" with a woman. It was shocking. I think he did it just to make me blush. I told him he can't live that way, it's just wrong. He left. Then later he got mad & cussed me over facebook messenger, then blocked me so I could not reply. That was definitely a relief. I still feel sorry for him. I still pray for him, but not a lot.
It is VERY difficult, because usually by the times things have come to that, our emotions have lead us in anger...or am I the only one that struggles with that?
I know it is a needed part of the balance of a sincere walk with Christ, but are we in balance or have we tipped so far to the side of a quick rebuke and condemnation?
I don't really struggle much with anger. Not that I don't have any triggers, I do, but they are very few.
The quick rebuke thing may well be the nature of how forums on the internet conditions people. Just about every commenting section everywhere on the internet seems adversarial enabling folks to easily be so or just seem so.
Like dealing with any emotion such as anger, we all need to work diligently not be so because of how our brains work. Scientifically they now use the term Amygdala Hijack. Emotionalism stems from our primitive fight or flight instincts & too me it seems internet conversations, the adversarial conditioning, helps enable these responses. I've posted videos about these things before; Amygdala Hijack & Neuroplasticity. One of the reasons why prayer works. We engage the area where higher brain function resides & it shuts down the primitive negative emotional area. I kind of nerdy on things like this. I find it fascinating how God designed us, & even the solutions He gave us.
I think what really astounds me is how much ahead the Bible really is. Seems it has just been recently that the some science is just catching up. Paul explained "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. "
When we engage our minds with the the true, the honest, the just, the pure, the lovely, the good, the virtuous, the praiseworthy, we're literally reprogramming ourselves. Creating new neural pathways & the more we use them the better off we are.
It seems the devil knows this because his media is full of the stuff that drags us down & reinforces negative thinking & emotions.