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Offline ru4outoo

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Not sure anymore
« on: Fri Nov 06, 2015 - 02:16:03 »
Hi Im new here and found this site anyway Im not sure if I want to stay in my marriage. My wife and I have been married almost 6 1/2 years and right now things are not going to well for me. I lost my job in september, I was basically told to resign or be fired because of my health. I had 2 heart attacks in 2014, had to have 3 stents put in and in August I thaught I was having another heart attack. So about a month later I lost my job.  So now my wife isnt happy about our situation money wise,we are really hurting. We have had quite a few fights in the past month and I dont want or need this stress plus the stress of not being employed.  I have said some things as well as she has said somethings and I am about ready to give up. Part of me is saying to give up while the other is saying dont give up. I just dont know what to do.

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Re: Not sure anymore
« Reply #1 on: Fri Nov 06, 2015 - 02:26:46 »
What to do? What that part says, don't give up. Fire comes, and it does a good job testing things, and what makes it through is more purified than it was. A righteous man would endure the fire, so do your best to do so. Can't say much about your financial situation as I don't know enough about it, other than trust the Lord and try to do what's wise.

It would help to know a bit more about the fights.

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Re: Not sure anymore
« Reply #2 on: Fri Nov 06, 2015 - 04:15:19 »
Have you and you wife been married before? Are you both Christians?
Does you wife work?
I am guessing that you are getting some sort of sickness or disability benefit?

The thing is that she made a promise when she married you to be there for richer and poorer, and if she really trusted God then she wouldnt be getting at you about money. Its the last thing you need. Its at times like this that our faith is tested and we find  out if we trust God as our provider or not. What does she expect you to do? 

However walking out isnt an option really, marriage is all about surviving and working through hard times, and some good marriage counseling may well help you both.

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Re: Not sure anymore
« Reply #3 on: Mon Nov 09, 2015 - 00:35:21 »
Have you and you wife been married before? Are you both Christians?
Does you wife work?
I am guessing that you are getting some sort of sickness or disability benefit?

The thing is that she made a promise when she married you to be there for richer and poorer, and if she really trusted God then she wouldnt be getting at you about money. Its the last thing you need. Its at times like this that our faith is tested and we find  out if we trust God as our provider or not. What does she expect you to do? 

However walking out isnt an option really, marriage is all about surviving and working through hard times, and some good marriage counseling may well help you both.

Both of us have been married before, this is my second marriage. Same with my wife and we both are christians. At the moment we are living off my wife's paycheck. I dont get unemployment because I worked at a church and churches are exempt from unemployment.

    Basically we have been fighting about money, not blowing it on non essential items and so on. In a way I could be over reacting because Im not happy with the situation and I feel at fault with everything right now. I am also angry at the church where I worked at for causing this..anyway thanks for the advice and am still trying to figure things out.

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Re: Not sure anymore
« Reply #4 on: Sun Dec 06, 2015 - 15:37:10 »


Go back to the church and explain this to them !   They should be willing to 
help in finding you a job  or  getting the government to help you ! 

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Re: Not sure anymore
« Reply #4 on: Sun Dec 06, 2015 - 15:37:10 »

 

     
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