My first marriage, her second.
I trust you and her talked about her never bring up her first marriage, good or bad, before you two decided to get marriage. The past must be put into the past, as much as possible.
It started with my low self esteem getting crushed by her tough exterior.
Was this hidden from you before you two decided to get marriage? If not, then why bring it now? Work through it with communication using gentle/soft words.
My jealousy kicked into high gear quickly when I realized she wasn't really attracted to me and I was nothing like the huge muscular guy she dated before me.
Comparison between present relationship to former is only asking for fights and unhappy partner. Did you not see things in her before you two came together as husband and wife? I find this hard to believe, thta there were no signs of this behavior before one year in up in your marriage.
She married me for my love for God.
Really? because you said this:
This lead to her hiding conversations with her guy friends from me which made things worse.
Where is her love to God? Married women do not have guy friends
~no such thing exist. If men just want to be your friend, then they DO NOT fine you too attractive! Men desire more than just friendships! No married women has the right to have "guy friends"~now she can be friends with her husbands friends WHEN HE'S AROUND!
They exchanged profile pics and she saved his pic to her email. This seems like the act of a woman interested in the guy to me.
Seems to me that you have a problem to address now.
She's very angry that my jealousy got the better of us both, she stayed at her mom's place the last two nights and she has blocked me on FB
No older women would EVER think of doing this to her husband, only young fools. FB could be an outlet for women to met men, and it is in many cases. Of course the same is true for men. Men DO NOT have the right to speak with other women WITHOUT the right for the wife to view whatever she desires to read and see. Her husband body is her, since they are one flesh, he belongs to her, and vice versa.
What I've listed above is tame compared to the threats and nasty things she said during the two days of her staying at her mom's place. I also said something I truly regretted and I've since apologized. But apologies are not her thing.
You do not have a marriage, and if you truly want one, then both of you must seek help either through your church, or professional help. Her parents were wrong allowing her to stay there. If it was my daughter, she would be home with her husband working through any and all problems. You need to move fast, since it seem you are losing this marriage fast. It seems to me also, that you need to be more of a man, and maybe these things would not had happen. But, I do not know that to be so, since I am limited in my knowledge of this. I took the leadership of my home early on, and my wonderful wife has follow me, without very much resentment, none in the last forty years or so, only in the beginning which is to be expected.
1st Corinthians 16:13~"Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong."