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Offline Carwhisperer

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Any reconciliation success stories? Love to hear them.
« on: Tue Dec 07, 2010 - 23:02:16 »
Can anyone share a reconciliation success story? If so, please make it about yourself or someone whom you know really well. Not your cousin's friend's brother.

If you can share, please state how long you were separated, what was the major reason, whose idea it was and who first sought reconciliation. Please keep it to longer separations, say 6 months or more. I'm in a 1.5 year separation right now and I'd love to hear from some who have experienced reconciliation.

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« Reply #1 on: Wed Dec 08, 2010 - 14:06:17 »
I know of a couple (my homegroup leaders and friends from my church) who were apart about three years in total and have been back together a long time. They argued alot, there was a lack of love,  husband left and had a relationship with someone else. He later wanted reconciliation. His wife was on the brink of getting the divorce when he became a christian and she had a big enough heart and an attitude of faith that God could work things out once he had become a christian, and so was willing to try again. They have a new marriage that still needs work but its wonderful (all do, its like a precious plant that needs conscious tending, marriage)

Maybe there are some on the Fireproof website you could read.

For every christian marriage that is saved by God, there is at least one that is not rescued. I do not know why...free will maybe. I have seen God heal physical things instantly and other times there is no healing, I have no idea what the differences were. I guess marriages are the same. It painful but i am trying to accept that mine appears to be one that will not be healed.

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« Reply #2 on: Thu Dec 23, 2010 - 16:22:24 »
I found one also. I knew about this but had forgotten it when I posted. A Christian neighbor was married to a Christian musician. He cheated on her and they separated. He sent her flowers and stuff. For a while she cut them up and threw them away. Eventually she began to accept them and they got back together after a year or so. He passed away at a young age about 10 years back. She is convinced that she did the right thing. Her now grown children have thanked her for what she did for them.
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« Reply #3 on: Sun Dec 26, 2010 - 22:00:40 »
And here's another one. Sad to say but I didn't know that my sister and her husband lived in separate homes for 5 years. Needless to say I'm not very close with her. It was a drug abuse situation but he also had an affair. She said it took 5 years for her to trust him that he had gotten off of meth. They have been married 22 years now and she is glad she gave him another chance.

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« Reply #4 on: Wed Dec 29, 2010 - 08:31:57 »
Many years ago, my husband and I decided to separate after 14 years of marriage. He had served God from a very young age, but had somehow become disillusioned with our church and the hypocrisy he witnessed there. Instead of trusting God and intreating His intervention through prayer, he found himself slipping into despondency. Unfortunately, he sought solace in worldly minded friends who eventually led him into a life of vice on a prodigal journey. He didn't break the law, thank God, but he broke many hearts including his own.

Many people blame his spiritual instability on his overly strict mother who never let him 'find himself' as a teenager. I tend to believe his unfaithful, alcoholic father did more harm than her with his ungodly lifestyle examples. After their untimely deaths (both before my husband turned 28) he sort of 'went wild' so to speak. We were separated for nearly 4 years while he drank, ran around with women and wasted his living on a life of sin. I prayed daily and hourly for his salvation and that he would return to me and our three children. I kept loving him through thick and thin and forgave all his transgressions just as Christ has readily forgiven mine. Our children prayed and forgave him, too.

When my husband returned to God and to us, it was with a more contrite and loving attitude than he had ever shown. All self-righteousness and self-will had been replaced with gratitude for God's great mercy. Today, we are both ministers who work together in family ministries, sharing the work of reconciliation to Christ with other victims of fractured families. One of our sons is also a minister and all of our children share the witness of our family's miraculous reconciliation. The key to healing a troubled marriage is unconditional love, forgiveness, and complete submission to God's will. All else is just the trimmings.

By the way, we look forward to celebrating our 39th anniversary in February, 2011. God also healed both our parents' marriages before they died. Praise the Lord for His goodness! The cycle of separation and divorce can be broken when people are willing to forgive completely, forget and trust Jesus for direction.

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« Reply #5 on: Fri Jan 14, 2011 - 17:42:27 »
A success story ... 5 years in the making ...

My DW and I have now been married for 23 years ... two boys, both grown ... the oldest (31 yrs. old) lives in Indiana, and the youngest (22 yrs. old) still lives at home with us ...

My wife had an affair in '04 ... lasted a year ... even after I found out about it, she kept it going ... we tried to put things back together, but there were a lot of "unresolved issues" that remained ... over the intervening time, we tried to move on ... I was laid off from my job of 18 years in January of 2008 ... and have been unable to find work since ... and this set in motion a series of events which lead to her wanting a separation one year ago ... we had lost our home, which we had built together, when I lost my job ... and had found another place to live fairly quickly ... but that soon turned out to be a disaster when it was discovered that we had Chinese Drywall ...

I was devastated ... she was cold, bitter ... and angry ... I was the root of all her resentment and frustration ... and I was crushed ...

And it was at this point that I gave myself ... and my life ... over to GOD ... there wasn't going to be anything that I could do, of my own effort, to change her ... that would be up to GOD ...

I just knew that I had to get myself right with GOD ... and that nothing would change, if anything was going to change, until I did that ... so I began the process ... alone

I started going back to church ... by myself ... it wasn't about trying to do what I thought she would want me to do ... it was about allowing Christ to make me over into the man HE needed me to be ...

Progress was slow ... and painful ... I was lonely ... but I had to see this through ...

and gradually ... she began to soften her position ... until last June, when we went to church ... together

It has now been a year since I began the process ... we are together ... our marriage is much better ... stronger ... we are closer than at any time since we were married ... and we have a new focus for our lives ... serving the LORD and
witnessing to others ... she doesn't like to talk about what happened, but she supports my efforts to share and encourage others ...

GOD has blessed both of us ... and we believe that the best years are still ahead of us ...

May GOD bless all of you ...restoration is possible ... be STRONG ... and have FAITH ...

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« Reply #6 on: Mon Jan 17, 2011 - 19:57:44 »
Does DW stand for divorced wife? If so that doesn't really make sense in this context.
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« Reply #7 on: Mon Jan 17, 2011 - 21:19:22 »
Does DW stand for divorced wife? If so that doesn't really make sense in this context.
Brian

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« Reply #8 on: Tue Jan 18, 2011 - 04:50:04 »
Correct ... DW = Dear Wife; DH = Dear Husband, etc.

My bad ...

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