Dear sister in Christ, there are no easy answers to the trials of our faith such as you find you in, but we can without doubt believe the word of God that He will make the way of deliverance with it.
1 Corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it, and I know that this is easier said than done but that's where our faith comes into play.
Knowing that in Romans 8:28 we're told, And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Father, I'm ready to faint in the mess I find me in and You're telling me it is for my good?
You did say in your post that you wants God's will, but does God really want me to feel this way? Evidently, for as Paul our test pilot in these things said in Philippians 3:8 ". . I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ." And this does not refer to winning his salvation; he is wanting the best God has to offer him.
We are being conformed into the very image of our Savior and the work is hard, but the rewards great. Don't bail out on your very training in the purpose of God's will for you in the very thing He has ordered just for you. At this time I have no idea what He has for your husband, but God is not slack in His love for him either.
Life itself is confusing until we just trust that God loved us enough to send His Son to die for us when we were enemies in the world, but what do you think He thinks of us now that He sees only His Son Jesus in us? Oh, there's that wonderful child of Mine I want to make a joint-heir with My Son; glory to God, and He's carrying you at this time through the hard times of your life, or you wouldn't even be here; none of us would be. I have marriage seminars that may truly help if you want them to possibly share with your husband posted on these forums at the following link. Each link is about two pages in length.http://www.gracecentered.com/christian_forums/christian-marriage-forum/marriage-seminar-links/
Dear Father, this dear sister is at the end of her rope in the trials You have allowed, and I ask that You ease the burden she is under. Please provide their necessity as You will, and encourage her husband to aid her in her task. Thank You Father for hearing me tonight, and bless this family as only You can in Jesus' precious name. Amen.