Being a Prude is a Sexual Sin?

[courtgirl72]

Thank you Gary.

[chosenone]

Thank you Gary.

 why what has he done?

[lightshineon]

 Are you possessed with some kind of sexual demon ( kidding sort of), I mean perversion is sinful also. If my husband wanted the family pet to join us, or family friend, or insert objects, hurt, demean me in anyway that is sin. Get your mind right, on to something besides sex. What if someone is injured and could not have sex in a marriage? what if they just had a baby, or could not because thy were pregnant, and against medical advice for some reason.  marriage is more than sex. I am serious why are you controlled by it so much? I mean a high sex drive is good if used in a proper manner, but goodness, it does not always equate with love. Filling the void with sex is no substitute for love.

[Tantor]

Hey.. if anyone was married to a prude it was me with my first marriage.  And I never wanted to do perverse things.. all I ever wanted was to talk about things we liked and disliked.  Mostly to find out how I could be a better husband to her from a sexual point of view.

Things like that were just never talked about and I would get the evil eye if I ever strayed within 100 yards of the subject.

Which is one of the most awesome things about my current wife, we can talk about anything and everything and have no problems with it. 

As far as sexual appetite, I only enjoy it when we are both into it... sex from a selfish point of view is very unsatisfying.

[chosenone]

Hey.. if anyone was married to a prude it was me with my first marriage.  And I never wanted to do perverse things.. all I ever wanted was to talk about things we liked and disliked.  Mostly to find out how I could be a better husband to her from a sexual point of view.

Things like that were just never talked about and I would get the evil eye if I ever strayed within 100 yards of the subject.

Which is one of the most awesome things about my current wife, we can talk about anything and everything and have no problems with it. 

As far as sexual appetite, I only enjoy it when we are both into it... sex from a selfish point of view is very unsatisfying.

 

I agree tantor. hubby's first wife was rather like that and she made him feel like a pervert if he wanted sex more than  once a week, and said that he wasn't 'normal' because of that. Also he could ever ask her to do anything in sex because she always took it as a criticism of her and she also controlled when they had sex and he could never initiate it.Then she wondered why he got bored and felt emotionally distant from her 
Things are very different for him now though.

[lightshineon]

Hey.. if anyone was married to a prude it was me with my first marriage.  And I never wanted to do perverse things.. all I ever wanted was to talk about things we liked and disliked.  Mostly to find out how I could be a better husband to her from a sexual point of view.

Things like that were just never talked about and I would get the evil eye if I ever strayed within 100 yards of the subject.

Which is one of the most awesome things about my current wife, we can talk about anything and everything and have no problems with it. 

As far as sexual appetite, I only enjoy it when we are both into it... sex from a selfish point of view is very unsatisfying.

 

I agree tantor. hubby's first wife was rather like that and she made him feel like a pervert if he wanted sex more than  once a week, and said that he wasn't 'normal' because of that. Also he could ever ask her to do anything in sex because she always took it as a criticism of her and she also controlled when they had sex and he could never initiate it.Then she wondered why he got bored and felt emotionally distant from her 
Things are very different for him now though.

  I am not suggesting frigid (LOL), but, I know some friends where their husbands demand sex four or five times a day. There is wash to be done. (LOL)

[courtgirl72]

"why what has he done?"

I think he moved the comments from the other thread.  I can't be sure.  I posted something on one of the other threads towards Rppearso and somehow ended up in this thread.  I don't know if Gary did that or not.  BUt he was upset that things were getting off topic.   And he also threatened to delete the offending comments.  It was on one of the other treads. 

[kensington]

He took down disgusting remarks... changed some, and put them in here, rather than in someone's thread started for advice.  He did good.

[chosenone]

Hey.. if anyone was married to a prude it was me with my first marriage.  And I never wanted to do perverse things.. all I ever wanted was to talk about things we liked and disliked.  Mostly to find out how I could be a better husband to her from a sexual point of view.

Things like that were just never talked about and I would get the evil eye if I ever strayed within 100 yards of the subject.

Which is one of the most awesome things about my current wife, we can talk about anything and everything and have no problems with it. 

As far as sexual appetite, I only enjoy it when we are both into it... sex from a selfish point of view is very unsatisfying.

 

I agree tantor. hubby's first wife was rather like that and she made him feel like a pervert if he wanted sex more than  once a week, and said that he wasn't 'normal' because of that. Also he could ever ask her to do anything in sex because she always took it as a criticism of her and she also controlled when they had sex and he could never initiate it.Then she wondered why he got bored and felt emotionally distant from her 
Things are very different for him now though.

  I am not suggesting frigid (LOL), but, I know some friends where their husbands demand sex four or five times a day. There is wash to be done. (LOL)

haha yes 4 or 5 times a day is somewhat excessive in my opinion lol. There is a balance isnt there. Dont these guys go to work or anything???

[chosenone]

He took down disgusting remarks... changed some, and put them in here, rather than in someone's thread started for advice.  He did good.

 

oh OK. that is good isnt it. I am quite surprised at what some peope are allowed to post here in the sense of offensive and crude remarks without being banned.

[kensington]

Actually, I think the mods have done very well, I've seen numerous times this had been watched, edited or changed.   No one is being allowed to do anything ...  Not just Gary.. other Mods too.

[chosenone]

Well thats good then.

[fanuvmxpx]

haha yes 4 or 5 times a day is somewhat excessive in my opinion lol. There is a balance isnt there. Dont these guys go to work or anything???

Haven't done that since the honeymoon, no time.

[lightshineon]

haha yes 4 or 5 times a day is somewhat excessive in my opinion lol. There is a balance isnt there. Dont these guys go to work or anything???

Haven't done that since the honeymoon, no time.

 Or the energy, at least I do not.

[Warppig]

I'm pretty sure the Bible says the marriage bed is undefiled. I read this as meaning that married couples may and should enjoy sex.