Christian Based Help With Marriage Needed

[fe1ixthecatt]

My wife is constantly accusing me of lying and doing things behind her back.  After 5 plus years of marriage I have not cheated on her and I never wanted to.  But I am getting very tired of the constant accusations.  My friends at work tease me because I will not give any other woman the time of day.  I just want to stay married and raise my children with two parents.  It makes it very hard when you are constantly attacked and accused when you're actually trying so hard to be a good man & husband.  I'm weary.  Has anyone else been through this?  What can I do?

[charlie]

Either she has some reason to suspect something, she is in need of some psychological help, or she's been listening to people who have gotten her thinking bad thoughts. Either way, you need to talk to her about this and listen to what she has to say. It's not as simple as, "what do I gotta do to make my wife quit bein' mean to me." It sounds like there's a serious breakdown in trust and communication between you two. You might want to think about going in together to your minister or a marriage counselor.

Why do you think she distrusts you?

When did she start behaving like this?

[St. Rubicon]

[!--QuoteBegin--][/span][table border=\"0\" align=\"center\" width=\"95%\" cellpadding=\"3\" cellspacing=\"1\"][tr][td]Quote (fe1ixthecatt @ Feb. 23 2004,12:02)[/td][/tr][tr][td id=\"QUOTE\"][!--QuoteEBegin--]My wife is constantly accusing me of lying and doing things behind her back.  After 5 plus years of marriage I have not cheated on her and I never wanted to.  But I am getting very tired of the constant accusations.  My friends at work tease me because I will not give any other woman the time of day.  I just want to stay married and raise my children with two parents.  It makes it very hard when you are constantly attacked and accused when you're actually trying so hard to be a good man & husband.  I'm weary.  Has anyone else been through this?  What can I do?[/quote]
You might wanna check out the book Boundaries Face to Face by Cloud and Townsend.  They speak about communicating about difficult matters.  Let me know how it goes if you feel comfortable doing so.
Robert

[s1n4m1n]

You may an try and contact Family Dynamics which is a ministry run by Joe Beam who writes articles for Grace-Centered Magazine.

Ken

[janine]

One other angle-- sometimes a spouse gets over-accusing like that, when he or she has been tempted to cheat him/herself.  The guilty conscience, you know.

I hope that isn't it... prolly more likely an issue of feeling threatened or devalued or something in the relationship.  May have nothing to do with your actions at all.  Keep up communications and get some counselling if you can.

Praying, babe.

[admin]

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