Hi Everyone again....update on the reason I started this forum....the relationship with the guy that I had all these problems with has ended.....(suprise to any?)
Here's what happened: In the beginning, he was so great to me, called and messaged me all the time, saw me any time he could. Things got cut back a bit because he started school and had less free time, and I was understanding through it all.
His gradmother passed away. I put myself out there for him and his family and said let me know if you need me for anything, I'm here.....I can go to the funeral if you want, let me know, he said he would, but never called.
I understand the circumstances, and knew it was a hard time, but I felt, that the least respect that I deserved after dating for like 4 months was a 10 second return phone call to say don't come, or thanks, but I'll talk to you in a couple days. I finally called today and was saying how I was dissapointed and thought that I deserved more respect because I would have done anything to help comfort him.
He said he didn't give a #### if he upset me or anyone else and didn't care that he was being selfish because that was ok to him. I told him he had nothing to be upset about, he replied, 'DON'T f!@#$^% TELL ME THERE IS NOTHING TO BE UPSET ABOUT'.
Conclusion: I think there really is a difference between a believer vs. non-believer's attitude. If someone passes in a very poor state, I feel that of course there is a lot of sadness with it, and it may take a long long time to get over it, but ultimately, you have to realize that they are hopefully at peace with Jesus Christ so in a way it should be more of a celebration.
If i'm upset, the first thing I want to do is talk to my boyfriend, he could not share this feeling with me and didn't want me to comfort him. I feel really disrespected at this point. I don't see how someone could say all that and blow up on someone who they shared so much with. I know I could never to that to someone, but I guess that's why I just don't understand.
What I do know is that God put me in this situation for a reason. I am so much closer to Him because of it. I also know even more now that I should never have to ask for respect from a boyfriend, they should want to give it to me more than anything and I should expect nothing less. I also feel that if this boy had a strong faith, he would be able to deal with everything a lot better. I think to sum it up, he just doesn't get it. I need a man who does.....