I briefly read the other replies to your thoughts. I must say that everyone has an opinion and view point. However, I truly feel in my heart that the church was WRONG and I mean DEAD WRONG!
Why is it that Christ can forgive and throw our sins in the sea of forgetfulness and we can't? Why do people judge others because they view that person's sin more WRONG than the next sin? Well guess what people....including myself....SIN is SIN and all SIN leads to death.
That's what the word says in Romans 6:23 " For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ out Lord." Therefore, yes she sinned in the church and if she repented to God and he has forgiven the sin, then her soul is still right in HIS EYES.
As far as you...Boatrocker, I commend you for standing by your wife!. We are such JUDGEMENTAL people. That is your wife and you are her covering! Its a blessing you and your wife figured out where issues were raised in your marriage. You don't need to tell us any of it. I like that you keep your post simple and to the point.
It's a good thing you shared it. So yes, back to the issue at hand...the church was WRONG. I do agree with another member that it was good for you two to leave because you will be looked upon differently.
However, that's why the church is here for fellowship, prayer, and unity. Leadership should have called you two in the office for prayer and counseling. Furthermore, Boatrocker...remember they want to keep a clean surface to look good and receive more members.
BUT what about the ones that are in your church and sin ( see imagine if we see the sin they do behind closed doors). Then the church might have to close all doors.
Don't worry! God sees all and knows all. This is a testimony for your wife. The Lord is going to use this situation in a mighty way for you two. I will pray for your marriage because faith and prayer is the power that moves mountains.
God is always first! Family is second, then the church! Remember WE are HIS temple...so act like it people!
Encourage your wife that this is not the end. Also, remember that that was a spirit behind all of this anyway. God told me to always love the person because the spirit is what we war against daily.
When it comes to speaking what's right I can write a book. Be bless Boatrocker...to your wife and family as well.
You are correct, but the action of the church is not about forgiveness. Clearly the church has a social dilemma to resolve, and they do that by asking the couples to leave.
I don't think they ask the people involved to drop church altogether, I think their advice is they should go to a different church. And that is a wise request.
The fact that the church may pray for these people and forgive them has nothing to do with asking them to go elsewhere.
Do not forget, the church also has an obligation to the sitting members.
How would you feel if (leading) members of the church engage in a-moral practices on church premises, and the leadership of the church forgives them and allows them to continue their exemplary position as teachers?
What if your pastor has an extramarital affair and everybody knows about it. Would you simply accept the apology, let him keep his position and gather under his sermon again next Sunday?
Do not forget, the church also has an obligation to those outside the church.
Any idea what impact it will have for a church if no tangible action is taken? What do you think a non-believer will say if a woman is caught on church grounds having an affair, and the church lets her stay on in her position?
The church was absolutely right asking these couples to leave. If both couples go to another church than that's where they can heal.
They are not separated from God, they are still connected...but elsewhere. The church absolutely made a wise decision and the only correct decision.
But after all is said and done, there is something that I really have to get off my chest.
A woman is found on church premises, during service, in a dark room having an extramarital affair. Where has the respect gone?
I can imagine someone having an affair...but IN A CHURCH and DURING SERVICE??? If it was me I would expect God to strike me dead on the spot, right then and there.
And someone actually has the audacity to criticize or complain about the decision by the church to ask them to leave???