I’ll try to keep this as short and general as possible and if being more specific is necessary I can provide details.
Bottom line is I don’t want to do this anymore. My wife and I got saved together and although we both cleaned or lives up and God made drastic changes and blessed us HEAVILY she has not changed internally. She’s a very negative person with a bad attitude towards everything. She hates fellowship, she hates serving, she’s not content or satisfied with the life we’ve been blessed with. She won’t let me lead and tells me I’m chauvinistic and want to control her because I try to help her and say she should head my advice when I show her scriptures. She’s always turning the tables around and pointing out all of my flaws whenever I try to help her, very defensive, extremely prideful and hasn’t changed in these areas in the slightest. We don’t talk about things, she just shuts down and tells me I ramble and just wants me to shut up. I’ve changed how I approach her a thousand different ways but she still says I’m the problem. I’ve been told she has no compassion for me, she doesn’t love all that comes with me, that she was young when she married me and now she’s “grown up”, she’s deleted me from fb, removed my last name from her fb, made her profile picture just herself.
And this is the bare minimum and as general as I can be and it all just weiiiighs me down so heavily. And I don’t understand how she can be a Christian woman and be the way that she is; she doesn’t bear any fruit of being born again. We did elementary together where I ran the lessons myself and she had to Do a five minute demonstration; she complained her way out of doing that. We run a youth group where I make the lesson from scratch and present the lesson, she just has to find a game, 9/10 she doesn’t find a game and still complains about having to do that, they asked her to help do PowerPoint; she’s done nothing but complain and ask to quit that. I want to walk and serve God and I want to walk this life with my wife but she just isn’t on the same page with me. There’s much much much more to say about it allbut the bottom line is being married to Her has been detrimental to my walk with God and my life in general. I don’t think she loves me, I don’t think she has God at the center of her life, And it just gets worse and worse. We’ve talked to pastors who have told her things, watched sermons that told her things, done devotionals that told her things; but she remains the same.
Why can’t I leave?surely this is not what God wants for me, “well you married her Craig now you’re stuck ha ha ha ha” that’s not God. God loves me and cares for me, He hates divorce, but surely He doesn’t want this for me. I’ve loved her unconditionally but it’s literally weighing me down more and more everyday. Advice?