Food.

[.Brian]

My wife .kelli will barly eat anything.
For example: Today she ate a small bowl of oat meal in the morning. Some vitamins, and at night a peice of fish half the size of my palm.
She believes that she has to strictly stop intake of anything that is partially bad... She is crying, and overwhelmed.
She fears she will be sent to hell if she eats anything wrong because she says it goes along the lines of harming your body.
What do I do to help her? In my opinion she is starving herself, and I would think that not eating is a form of harming your body. Another example is she won't even boil her food in city water she has to use bottled. I need advise how to help her please?

[Norton]

.Brian

I can give no advice except to say that I would get her professional help. My prayers are with you and her.

[yesult]

I second the above, particularly counselling from a or some good christian counsellors (there can be some less then good ones out there.)

Put your request on the prayer forum too if you like (and on other christian forums.) The more the better.

Something like this always has some emotional root. It just isn't natural for a woman to do this.

Adding my prayers  



PS. And this isn't necessarily anything to do with you. It might be, it might have some little strands and it might have absolutly nothing at all, so be careful about taking it onboard and feel as though you've failed her somewhere. Things like this can be so complicated and even stem back to childhood trauma that've long been blocked out or forgotten (even happening when a child was too young to remember the actual event but still bear the emotional wounding.)

God is a great healer, just do your best to be unjudgmental and loving (and listen in any way you can which can be a great comfort) and pray. You can't do what you can't do.

[.kelli]

My wife .kelli will barly eat anything.
For example: Today she ate a small bowl of oat meal in the morning. Some vitamins, and at night a peice of fish half the size of my palm.
She believes that she has to strictly stop intake of anything that is partially bad... She is crying, and overwhelmed.
She fears she will be sent to hell if she eats anything wrong because she says it goes along the lines of harming your body.
What do I do to help her? In my opinion she is starving herself, and I would think that not eating is a form of harming your body. Another example is she won't even boil her food in city water she has to use bottled. I need advise how to help her please?

I didn't take vitamins and I ate a little later...

[lightshineon]

 Kelli, do you think God is telling you this?

[chosenone]

has she always been like this? She seems to have an obsessional fear that needs to be dealt with. Some deep prayer and ministry from some godly people.Are there people in your church who will help you?

[lightshineon]

 My sister in law Lisa, has the same fears, that is why I ask kelli.

[farouk]

Peter's vision in Acts 10 (read verses 1-18) can help a believer to allay fears about dietary restrictions.

[phoebe]

She needs a doctor.  Crying.  Overwhelmed.  Not eating properly. 

Bad breath?  Vomiting?  Damage to teeth?  Dark circles under/around eyes?  Weight loss?

Not eating does more harm to a body than eating the wrong things. 

How much harm our legalistic religions/culture/media have done to our young women!  Paranoid.

(About the city water, though... she has a valid point.)

[lightshineon]

She needs a doctor.  Crying.  Overwhelmed.  Not eating properly. 

Bad breath?  Vomiting?  Damage to teeth?  Dark circles under/around eyes?  Weight loss?

Not eating does more harm to a body than eating the wrong things. 

How much harm our legalistic religions/culture/media have done to our young women!  Paranoid.

(About the city water, though... she has a valid point.)

 You are so right, also though I am not diagnosing, not qualified, but have seen this in my maternal grandmother, my brother, and SIL ( which is the current one) They all three had different diagnoses,  ranging from OCD, to Lisa with schizoprenia , my brother maybe a form of OCD, mixed with bipolar. This is why Kelli, needs help, really, really, bad. She so needs a psychiatrist, not a psychologist. I do not know maybe even a deliverance. The first place to start is prayer ( husband), the next step is, maybe even the ER, she may need EOD, ( Emergency order of detention). If she will not willingly  Be admitted into a hospital. I will pray, my goodness I have seen the torment this brings. may God help you, and keep you, he certainly loves you Kelli, so do not be afraid.

[dallasapple]

Kelli,

There is nothing wrong with not eating certain things and only eating what is the best healthiest foods.But you have to stop listening to the news or reading about how what it basically sounds like everything is poisoness.

I get crazy with that too and I second guess every thing I eat now because Im "worried" that its contamiated somehow.

We have been made to feel afraid to even eat.That is sad...

But I agree with everyone to a point.Not eating enough can be so unhealthy for you that it damages your  kidneys ..YOu will go into starvation mode which affects your brain and pancreas..

So even if you have certian foods you feel safe with eat a little more of that.

Food is good.Its good for you..Eat small portions frequently.Invest in seasonal fruits and nuts..(like almonds they are AWESOME for you and have protien and good oils)Canteloup and this time of year things like "greens".

A cut up tomato with a tad of salt and pepper and maybe a little yogurt?

SOY is awesome for you...Soy silk milk has LOADS of protein and its a legume..

Try not to worry about things like its contaminated".

The air we breath has contaminents in it honey.But that doenst mean we shouldnt breath anymore.

Just eat small meals but 6 times a day instead of 2.

Do not starve your self.

And dont be afraid of the water.I've done my reaserach and dehydration is something you want to avoid big time.

Eat apples too..they have lots of water in them.Just peel the skin.(and they have LOTS of vitamins)

((((HUGS)))

Dallas

[leeford]

.Kelli and others,

Saying that I'm a health nut is an understatement. You should see all the supplements I take in a day. Each day I take, 12-15 capsules/grams of fish oil. 2-3 capsules of the following: Saw Palmetto. Green Tea. Pumpkin seed extract. Grape seed extract. Pomegranate extract. Magnesium. Tea Tree oil. Peppermint oil. Kelp (for iodine), a liquid multivitamin mixture and then I add things here and there to see how it affects me.

As far as my diet, I don't drink soft drinks ever (okay, like maybe 3-5 times in the last 10 years). I don't eat shell fish or unclean meat (pork, catfish, shrimp). I stay away from pasta. I eat a lot of salads.

So anyway I think it can be said that I'm a health nut. I am also a germaphobe. I do not touch door knobs unless it can't be helped. In public bathrooms (which I HATE) I use a paper towel to grab the door knob (I honestly don't know why everyone doesn't do that). Shoes are not allowed to be worn in my house.

So there. I have my quirks. So to .kelli I offer this tidbit. Rely on antioxidants. If you're afraid of toxins in food and other things, and there is certainly some reason for concern in certain situations, make sure you get a lot of antioxidants to clean up and absorb the toxins. That's the job of antioxidants. Things that also help are olive leaf extract and oregano oil. That way maybe you'll feel like you have some back up and don't have to worry quite as much.

But I certainly understand wanting to take care of your body since the Bible tells us to treat our bodies like the temple of God and to honor Him with them.

[lightshineon]

 Lee, I can understand you being a healthy person. Kelli is not healthy, in anyway, by the way it sounds. I maybe stepping out of bounds but she seems to have a misconception of the nature of God. I wonder if she has been sexually, physically, or emotional abused, I could be way off base here, but, maybe not. I am a woman who struggles with things at times myself, it gets better, and the bad, then better. I will only eat one food, because I crave it twenty four seven. If I am wrong or out of bounds Kelli, I sincerely apologize to you, if I am not please seek help.

[JohnDB]

.Kelli and others,

Saying that I'm a health nut is an understatement. You should see all the supplements I take in a day. Each day I take, 12-15 capsules/grams of fish oil. 2-3 capsules of the following: Saw Palmetto. Green Tea. Pumpkin seed extract. Grape seed extract. Pomegranate extract. Magnesium. Tea Tree oil. Peppermint oil. Kelp (for iodine), a liquid multivitamin mixture and then I add things here and there to see how it affects me.

As far as my diet, I don't drink soft drinks ever (okay, like maybe 3-5 times in the last 10 years). I don't eat shell fish or unclean meat (pork, catfish, shrimp). I stay away from pasta. I eat a lot of salads.

So anyway I think it can be said that I'm a health nut. I am also a germaphobe. I do not touch door knobs unless it can't be helped. In public bathrooms (which I HATE) I use a paper towel to grab the door knob (I honestly don't know why everyone doesn't do that). Shoes are not allowed to be worn in my house.

So there. I have my quirks. So to .kelli I offer this tidbit. Rely on antioxidants. If you're afraid of toxins in food and other things, and there is certainly some reason for concern in certain situations, make sure you get a lot of antioxidants to clean up and absorb the toxins. That's the job of antioxidants. Things that also help are olive leaf extract and oregano oil. That way maybe you'll feel like you have some back up and don't have to worry quite as much.

But I certainly understand wanting to take care of your body since the Bible tells us to treat our bodies like the temple of God and to honor Him with them.

You and my wife...LOL

I am exactly the opposite. It drives her nuts. I eat whatever I want and as much as I can hold. Saturated fats always are a plus. I eat for calorie denseness....you know like salami, nuts and cheeses...if it has pork fat or butter it is always good. Potatoe chips are my favorite vegetable accompianment to any meal. (eating some now)

The problem with all this is...I am skinny. Not overly skinny but trim. I also have muscle tone and definition. I only have had one cold over a two year period of time. My wife isn't so fortunate. and she does like you do.

I work construction with all kinds of germs and bacterias and chemical pollutants everywhere...Our only bathroom is usually a port a potty...always needing service.

she took all kinds of fruits and vegetables for lunch today...I am eating potatoe chips and pasta with chicken, procuttio, and alfredo sauce. (some tortelinis too)

Drinking koolaide to wash it down (outta sodas at the moment...but I did have some chocolate milk with it yesterday)

When working I must eat somewhere to the tune of 2500 to 3500 calories a day to maintain my weight. And that is always annoying. fish isn't usually on my diet but shrimp and crab always are.

My wife hates the diet I keep...and must eat. She tries to consume only around 800 to 1200 calories a day. Obviously there is a meal issue around our house during dinner. She likes fish...I eat it but consider it a waste of time unless it is fried. Beurre blanc though is her newest fancy...she loves the stuff but won't eat it any more.

Bacon is the stuff of breakfast...at least a pound...toast, juice (110-220) Pancakes, syrup and some chocolate donuts start my day...for her a cantelope slice and water.


One of them things. Teasing her is only going to aleinate her and distance her from you...just love .kelli. If she starts looking ill from malnutrition...then worry. Until then leave her alone.

[lightshineon]

 This is more than, she wants to eat healthy problem, trust me. I am not a healthy eater, I like ricecakes, and Ice and diet soda. I have food issues, or obsessions. I have according to my mom, been this way since a infant. I become obsessed with one food, and nothing else matters. I do not think it is sinful to eat certain foods,  Jesus, Paul and others tell us. I am just a weirdo, no one likes to go out and eat with. I tgalk, and push food around the food on the plate.