Grabing and groping, how often?

[Charles Sloan]

about 3-5x a day
about once a day
about once a week
rarely

Just curious

My wife hates when I grab or grope her, but she likes to do it a few times a day.

Go figure.

Hmm, does she do it when you're working on the car, or any other time you are trying to concentrate? lol

Most of the time its like a grope-and-run.

[janine]

If he's being so heedless as to endanger my health by his affectionate display, he will certainly get an earful from me.  And likely a smack.

Fortunately I think he's gotten the massage.  Hasn't happened lately.

And there's a big difference between small children seeing Daddy and Mommy sharing a quick hug or kiss or something -- and what was described above.  That was not... tasteful.  I sympathize, dallasapple.

[Bocephus]

If he's being so heedless as to endanger my health by his affectionate display, he will certainly get an earful from me.  And likely a smack.

Fortunately I think he's gotten the massage.  Hasn't happened lately.

And there's a big difference between small children seeing Daddy and Mommy sharing a quick hug or kiss or something -- and what was described above.  That was not... tasteful.  I sympathize, dallasapple.

Endanger your health?

[janine]

If you were handling a big pot full of boiling grease and your spouse sneaked up behind you, reached around and grabbed a big handful of... um... your manly attributes... thus potentially causing you to inadvertently fling the oil all over yourself... Would that not be endangering your health?

[Bocephus]

If you were handling a big pot full of boiling grease and your spouse sneaked up behind you, reached around and grabbed a big handful of... um... your manly attributes... thus potentially causing you to inadvertently fling the oil all over yourself... Would that not be endangering your health?

Possibly.  If my wife did it, I would tell her, make sure the oil isn't boiling and the kids are taking a nap.

[phoebe]

Look, no one wants to be groped 24/7.  At that point it isn't about being desired, it's more of a compulsive behavior, and there is no real desire or respect for the person.  IOW, any old body will do.  Done enough, it will make one not want to be touched at all.

Maybe some men just don't know how to touch a woman in a way that gets the desired response.  Grabbing and groping usually isn't the way.  Maybe listen to that old Pointer Sisters song:

I want a man with a slow hand
I want a lover with an easy touch
I want somebody who will spend some time
Not come and go in a heated rush
I want somebody who will understand
When it comes to love, I want a slow hand

Now, boys, when they say "love", they mean "sex".  OK?

When it's just habit, it doesn't mean anything.  Just feels like one of the kids tugging at her, needy, needy, needy, wanna, wanna, wanna.  Try giving.

[Bocephus]

Look, no one wants to be groped 24/7.  At that point it isn't about being desired, it's more of a compulsive behavior, and there is no real desire or respect for the person.  IOW, any old body will do.  Done enough, it will make one not want to be touched at all.

Maybe some men just don't know how to touch a woman in a way that gets the desired response.  Grabbing and groping usually isn't the way.  Maybe listen to that old Pointer Sisters song:

I want a man with a slow hand
I want a lover with an easy touch
I want somebody who will spend some time
Not come and go in a heated rush
I want somebody who will understand
When it comes to love, I want a slow hand

Now, boys, when they say "love", they mean "sex".  OK?

When it's just habit, it doesn't mean anything.  Just feels like one of the kids tugging at her, needy, needy, needy, wanna, wanna, wanna.  Try giving.

boys?

[dallasapple]

If he's being so heedless as to endanger my health by his affectionate display, he will certainly get an earful from me.  And likely a smack.

Fortunately I think he's gotten the massage.  Hasn't happened lately.

And there's a big difference between small children seeing Daddy and Mommy sharing a quick hug or kiss or something -- and what was described above.  That was not... tasteful.  I sympathize, dallasapple.

Than you hun..

So Im not an insubordinate witch?

Love

Dallas

[dallasapple]

Look, no one wants to be groped 24/7.  At that point it isn't about being desired, it's more of a compulsive behavior, and there is no real desire or respect for the person.  IOW, any old body will do.  Done enough, it will make one not want to be touched at all.

Maybe some men just don't know how to touch a woman in a way that gets the desired response.  Grabbing and groping usually isn't the way.  Maybe listen to that old Pointer Sisters song:

I want a man with a slow hand
I want a lover with an easy touch
I want somebody who will spend some time
Not come and go in a heated rush
I want somebody who will understand
When it comes to love, I want a slow hand

Now, boys, when they say "love", they mean "sex".  OK?

When it's just habit, it doesn't mean anything.  Just feels like one of the kids tugging at her, needy, needy, needy, wanna, wanna, wanna.  Try giving.

He even acted that way when I breast fed for 14 months..

I felt EXACTLY what you are saying(kind of already did) He mimincked nursing .(like he was a baby) And I was like IM TIRED of being a HUMAN peice of flesh to satisfy a nursing child and a man waiting in the wings to pounce on me the MINUTE I put down the child .

And I had other (older children too)..Adn I made sure we had "times".

I have been pawed and clawed at to the point I wanted to leave..I felt like a steak dinnner..(even berfore and after nursing that just nursing made it worse )

I couldnt even BE flattered anymore.

I wanted to HIDE..I wanted to be able to just be a person that wasnt a sex object.(at that point and many points ROOMATE sounded like a VACATION)

I dont think some of the people posting here men and women realize what "high libido" means.I dont think they realize what #1 need is when its "affection". And specifically when is a man on woman thing.

I dont think they get that its "intrusive" and reaches a point that you just want to hide.

Its like jumping in a river with those fish that devour a cow in minutes..Starts with a P.

Its horrible.YOu are beign "accosted"(constantly).Then you have to be in the "mood".

[dallasapple]

QUOTE PHOEBE:Look, no one wants to be groped 24/7.  At that point it isn't about being desired, it's more of a compulsive behavior, and there is no real desire or respect for the person.  IOW, any old body will do.  Done enough, it will make one not want to be touched at all.
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Its like that..It like you are "1 choice and if you wont then I will "refuse to live like a roomate".Its like 95% of your interaction with the person is SEX.Going to have sex ,just got done having sex..groping as this topic is ,the COMMMENTS in between havign sex and the gropings..

BUT hey do not DEPRIVE one another and HEY its TOTALLY not balanced if I or MANY women like me CONTROL the sexual side of marriage because the one that wants to have sex every time they see you or grab you or grope you Is going to be so "damaged" like his whole soul is at risk if you arent a constant YES .

I wouldnt want to "defraud" anyone.

Love

Dallas

[tennman]

Dallas, I'm going to pray for your poor husband...and for you. Sounds like you're depriving not just him, but yourself with this chip on your shoulder.

[phoebe]

Dallas, I'm going to pray for your poor husband...and for you. Sounds like you're depriving not just him, but yourself with this chip on your shoulder.

"poor husband"??  deprived??  chip on HER shoulder??  You have got to be kidding.  You have no idea what you are talking about.

Her husband has a sex obsession.  He's worn her out.  He needs help, or she needs to get him a bunch of concubines.  Good grief.  Unless he's an an animal with no self-control, he needs to learn to be considerate, respectful, and patient.


DALLAS -
Do they still put saltpeter in hot dogs?  Feed him some!  Go on a month-long vacation w/o him.  Give yourself a much-needed break!  And consider counseling.  He won't go, but you go.

[dallasapple]

Dallas, I'm going to pray for your poor husband...and for you. Sounds like you're depriving not just him, but yourself with this chip on your shoulder.

Thanks..

Its a "chip" on my shoulder that I dont want my husband announcing to everyone at a family gathering that when we get home he is going to "tap that ***"

YOur right I have a "chip".

My chip is I'm not here to be a sex object .

And trust me he isnt "poor".

But thanks for praying for his "deprivation" and mine.

Love

Dallas

[Charles Sloan]

Look, no one wants to be groped 24/7.

Speak for yourself.

[dallasapple]

Dallas, I'm going to pray for your poor husband...and for you. Sounds like you're depriving not just him, but yourself with this chip on your shoulder.

"poor husband"??  deprived??  chip on HER shoulder??  You have got to be kidding.  You have no idea what you are talking about.

Her husband has a sex obsession.  He's worn her out.  He needs help, or she needs to get him a bunch of concubines.  Good grief.  Unless he's an an animal with no self-control, he needs to learn to be considerate, respectful, and patient.


DALLAS -
Do they still put saltpeter in hot dogs?  Feed him some!  Go on a month-long vacation w/o him.  Give yourself a much-needed break!  And consider counseling.  He won't go, but you go.

Sometimes I dont even believe what some men and women say.Phoebe.

And they call him "poor" and "deprived".

Its unbelievable.

Its as if I cant have any bounderies.Its only about his sex needs that dont stop at any point I say "no".

Because that would be so "sad" for him...and me havign a "chip" on my shoulder.

I was not married to be ravenged and torn apart for his "sex " needs.

Hey Gary..did you ever think maybe HE had a chip on his shoulder?

I mean serioulsy you guys are pretty scary.And I've been through it.

Its seems to me ya'll condone sexual abuse in marriage.And then blame it on the woman when she says "enough" and then feel "sorry" for the husband.

And you call that a "chip" .

How sad..I will pray for you and your wife.

Love

Dallas