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How to Be a Better Wife
« on: Wed Dec 09, 2009 - 11:58:12 »
How to be a better wife.

This is an interactive list. For this one, please list only suggestions on how wives can be better wives. This thread is NOT for personally attacking your spouse. You may list specific issues that would help her and wives in general be a better wife but don't refer to your wife by name. There's also a thread on how to be a better husband.

So let's start helping wives be better wives.

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How to Be a Better Wife
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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #1 on: Wed Dec 09, 2009 - 21:59:36 »
Ok, I guess I'll start it to.

I think that a lot of wives I've noticed could be a better wife by returning compliments rather than just saying, "Thank you" all the time. Sometimes, "thank you" is fine, but guys like to be complimented on their looks too.

Next...

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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #2 on: Wed Dec 09, 2009 - 22:02:56 »
 My husband said I could spend more time, with him and talk to him more, except during Carolina games. I wrote for him, hope it is OK.

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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #3 on: Wed Jan 20, 2010 - 16:41:04 »
Have no thoughts, dreams, fears, plans, etc. that are consistently more available/complete/honest when shared with others, than they are when (if) shared with the husband.

Have some traits that are uniquely male for which you praise the husband; praise those traits through the Word--directly (scripturally) or indirectly (contextually, or by implication through the scripture)


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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #4 on: Wed Jan 20, 2010 - 16:48:13 »
How to be a better wife?

1.  Study my wife.
2.  Emulate.

More later.  I'm going to meet her at the church building for supper.

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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #5 on: Wed Jan 20, 2010 - 16:53:23 »
How to be a better wife.

This is an interactive list. For this one, please list only suggestions on how wives can be better wives.

The first thing that comes to mind is...be a better husband.

Lists will only cause us to judge their actions; and...who are we to judge?

Love them as Christ loved His church...then give...give...give of yourself; a completely healed husband can heal a wife living with guilt and pain.  If a husband is not healed of sin and past hurts...he is of no value to his wife.

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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #6 on: Wed Jan 20, 2010 - 17:16:28 »
How to be a better wife.

This is an interactive list. For this one, please list only suggestions on how wives can be better wives.

The first thing that comes to mind is...be a better husband.

Lists will only cause us to judge their actions; and...who are we to judge?

Love them as Christ loved His church...then give...give...give of yourself; a completely healed husband can heal a wife living with guilt and pain.  If a husband is not healed of sin and past hurts...he is of no value to his wife.
There is nothing in scripture that supports this idea of "if you live this way, you will heal your wife", nor the idea of the iimplication hiden within that:  the idea that a wife who is looking to become a better wife is only doing so because she has wounds that need to be healed (by a husband), and only then will she be OK.

There is no list that "causes us" to judge another.  The Bible is full of things that we can put into lists, but makes it clear that our heart condition is that which makes us judgmental--if we're going to be!

Somebody who is Spirit-filled, who asks, "how can I be better for you?" Is saying "I want to be responsible to become more like Christ, in relation to you.  Give me some feedback on those things that would help me to do that, since I don't want to do this without your valuable feedback."  They then can listen for all things that don't cause them to step outside the Word of God, and go for it.  Those who would abuse that step of vulnerability should be confronted with that, and steps should be taken to readjust, should he/she refuse to STOP abusing it.

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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #7 on: Wed Jan 20, 2010 - 17:25:58 »
How to be a better wife.

This is an interactive list. For this one, please list only suggestions on how wives can be better wives.

The first thing that comes to mind is...be a better husband.

Lists will only cause us to judge their actions; and...who are we to judge?

Love them as Christ loved His church...then give...give...give of yourself; a completely healed husband can heal a wife living with guilt and pain.  If a husband is not healed of sin and past hurts...he is of no value to his wife.
There is nothing in scripture that supports this idea of "if you live this way, you will heal your wife", nor the idea of the iimplication hiden within that: 

Love never fails...

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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #8 on: Wed Jan 20, 2010 - 17:36:17 »
How to be a better wife.

This is an interactive list. For this one, please list only suggestions on how wives can be better wives.

The first thing that comes to mind is...be a better husband.

Lists will only cause us to judge their actions; and...who are we to judge?

Love them as Christ loved His church...then give...give...give of yourself; a completely healed husband can heal a wife living with guilt and pain.  If a husband is not healed of sin and past hurts...he is of no value to his wife.
There is nothing in scripture that supports this idea of "if you live this way, you will heal your wife", nor the idea of the iimplication hiden within that: 

Love never fails...
Amen!  Biblical love, applied God's way, for God's purposes, never fails to do what God promises it does!  No argument with that, brother.  It's only the additive, about wounds, and husband being the assigned healer, that I believe came from the world (since it's not in the Word); that's what I meant.

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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #9 on: Wed Jan 20, 2010 - 17:46:15 »
How to be a better wife.

This is an interactive list. For this one, please list only suggestions on how wives can be better wives.

The first thing that comes to mind is...be a better husband.

Lists will only cause us to judge their actions; and...who are we to judge?

Love them as Christ loved His church...then give...give...give of yourself; a completely healed husband can heal a wife living with guilt and pain.  If a husband is not healed of sin and past hurts...he is of no value to his wife.
There is nothing in scripture that supports this idea of "if you live this way, you will heal your wife", nor the idea of the iimplication hiden within that: 

Love never fails...
Amen!  Biblical love, applied God's way, for God's purposes, never fails to do what God promises it does!  No argument with that, brother.  It's only the additive, about wounds, and husband being the assigned healer, that I believe came from the world (since it's not in the Word); that's what I meant.

Ephesians 5:25-27...Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. 26to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, by holy and blameless.

When the husband is healed; he is fully able to love as Christ...his wife can be heal.  We are called to love...it is the most excellent way.

The world wants you to believe it is impossible...

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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #10 on: Wed Jan 20, 2010 - 17:50:24 »
I saw what you meant about the husband imitating Christ's endeavor to wash the wife through the Word; I just don't see anything about wounds (???) or healing (???)

NO DENYING the power of the awesome Word, nor its rightful place; where is the talk in the scripture about wounds being at the heart of anything in the Christian's life?

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« Reply #11 on: Wed Jan 20, 2010 - 18:00:42 »
where is the talk in the scripture about wounds being at the heart of anything in the Christian's life?

Wounds are everywhere in a Christian life...divorce creates wounds, adultry creates wounds, incest creates wounds, porn creates wounds, any sin that hurts another will create wounds in the Christian life.  Until we are healed of our own wounds; and love is the great healer...we are of no value to our wife.

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« Reply #12 on: Wed Jan 20, 2010 - 18:42:24 »
where is the talk in the scripture about wounds being at the heart of anything in the Christian's life?

Wounds are everywhere in a Christian life...divorce creates wounds, adultry creates wounds, incest creates wounds, porn creates wounds, any sin that hurts another will create wounds in the Christian life.  Until we are healed of our own wounds; and love is the great healer...we are of no value to our wife.
I see what you mean; I've heard man's explanation of wounds.  I just don't accept holding the scriptures responsible for endorsing what man has said.  Even Isaiah 43 said we are already healed--and it was talking about the sin that had not yet been paid for.  It said that Jesus' death on the cross was the great healer, and that it is finished.

It is psychology that calls our ailments wounds, and says that we do what we do because of still being wounded.  The Word just never said that.  The Word said that we WERE wounded--but no more.  It talks about our being unclean, or not filled with the Spirit--but not wounded.

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« Reply #13 on: Wed Jan 20, 2010 - 19:04:59 »
It is psychology that calls our ailments wounds, and says that we do what we do because of still being wounded.  The Word just never said that.  The Word said that we WERE wounded--but no more.  It talks about our being unclean, or not filled with the Spirit--but not wounded.

If our past hurts affect us (we are wounded)...say; we are impatient...or quick to anger.  That would be the opposite of love.  Or maybe we harbor bitterness or un-forgiveness...again, that would be the opposite of love...we would need to be healed of our past wounds that cause these things. 

Through His Spirit (which is love) He can heal us of these wounds, and we can become whole though His love and become the most patient man/husband in the world, we will hold no records of wrongs, we become slow to anger and so on. 

If we are free from the wounds (through love) caused by others or caused by ourself...we can by grace then, free others from the same things.  Healed people heal others through love...hurt people hurt others because of their wounds...

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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #14 on: Wed Jan 20, 2010 - 19:52:49 »
One way a wife can be better is by not thinking that she has a rule or govern over her husband in the way that he does with her. 

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« Reply #15 on: Wed Jan 20, 2010 - 22:23:48 »
Have sex with your husband often and on a regular basis. This is the main way that he RECEIVES love from you.

If your husband feels like he's starving sexually....that he is constantly rejected by you (even if you don't intend it as rejection) then all the other loving things that you do for him....making his meals, leaving him notes, getting his car washed....all these things will fall on deaf ears. In his mind he will think or at least feel, "That's sweet, but you don't desire me." "Thanks for the backrub, but really, I repulse you don't I?" "Thanks for the meal, but I can make my own dinner and that's NOT what I'm hungry for."

Sure, we need to work on that attitude. I sure do. But that's what its like just the same.

(Caveat: everyone is different. I don't speak for all men. I do however claim to speak for a majority of them.)

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« Reply #16 on: Thu Jan 21, 2010 - 08:17:19 »
I agree with Hot Ice and there is something profound buried in there, again, like a broken record, is this notion that women are wounded....and thats the excuse (lacking a better word) for shortcomings. men, however, I guess are wounded, but what, wounded ourselves? We brought the wounds on US, and we foisted wounds on THEM?

im not talking about after a bitter and long acrimonious marriage etc, after much sinning one against the other...Im talking about the condition of a man and wife as they stand, before they had a chance to do so much wrong to one another

This un-Biblically takes any  responsibility off her....for sin even....and places HER sin on HIS back. because after all, we are talking about the overt actions that come FROM the woundedness right? And those actions are generally SIN. Sorry, but Your sin is YOURS, male or female.


Further, I cant as HI said find this Biblical loophole, or this emphasis on woundedness, rather I see emphasis on healing and healED. Pop psychology has crept into our midst and we find "wounds" why? Because we look for them assuming they are there.

Im not too hung up on that, wounds, there or not....its the behaviors that COME from the so called wounds that get this thing sideways. We are responsible for our own actions/reactions. The doctrine of the Biblical marriage model has grown like tentacles in so many directions its taken what are very simple admonishments and made an entire Christian psychological discipline out of them.

Washing the women, I just do not believe that is about healing, as much as sanctifying...as a spiritual leader, men lead her to holiness, thats my belief....Its a fine line but an important one. I cannot HEAL my wife no matter how I lead. Expressions like "love never fails" and "love heals all wounds" and such are funny ....funny strange, in that they are true and easy to agree to in the general. Then everyone walks away muttering agreement and goes back and all do VERY different things, having all agreed on what they should do. In other words they are vague enough to sooth ANYTHING. Its great to rally around those thinsg that are true. But people then get somehow stuck, and almost refuse to dig deeper into application, where HUGE differences of interpretation reside. Its great that for YOU, or anyone, "love never fails".....but when you use that as if its instructional, it doesnt mean the same thing to different people, so sort of avoiding the details( because when folks see thingss slightly differently) just by saying again and again "love never fails"   isnt as helpful as it may seem.

There are differing starting points to any relationship. The assumption that everyone marries carrying deep wounds and then the husband has to heal all that, kind of diminishes Gods power in my opinion. I see it almost as an Oprafication of Gods power.

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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #17 on: Thu Jan 21, 2010 - 08:32:49 »
There are differing starting points to any relationship. The assumption that everyone marries carrying deep wounds and then the husband has to heal all that, kind of diminishes Gods power in my opinion. I see it almost as an Oprafication of Gods power.

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I agree...it is all God's power working through us; His Spirit...we can do nothing on our own.  Matter of fact...without Him, we are nothing...

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« Reply #18 on: Thu Jan 21, 2010 - 08:41:30 »
I cannot HEAL my wife no matter how I lead. Expressions like "love never fails" and "love heals all wounds" and such are funny ....funny strange, in that they are true and easy to agree to in the general. Then everyone walks away muttering agreement and goes back and all do VERY different things, having all agreed on what they should do. In other words they are vague enough to sooth ANYTHING. Its great to rally around those thinsg that are true. But people then get somehow stuck, and almost refuse to dig deeper into application, where HUGE differences of interpretation reside. Its great that for YOU, or anyone, "love never fails".....but when you use that as if its instructional, it doesnt mean the same thing to different people, so sort of avoiding the details( because when folks see thingss slightly differently) just by saying again and again "love never fails"   isnt as helpful as it may seem.

Again, I agree; saying it (love never fails) does nothing...we are to love in action and truth.  And again, it is only God's power through us...that gives us this hope.  God never fails...is more accurate.


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« Reply #19 on: Thu Jan 21, 2010 - 11:03:23 »
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« Reply #20 on: Mon Jan 25, 2010 - 22:59:06 »
After reading a few good posts elsewhere, I've got something to add to this:

  Guard what influences you allow into your life, regarding your husband.

make sure those influences are GODLY, under the control of the Holy Spirit, concerned with Holiness, not just religion--and certainly not fleshly interests.

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« Reply #21 on: Wed Mar 10, 2010 - 09:28:40 »
"Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much." (James 5:16)

If we are still sinning, I'd say this can mean we still have what makes us *open* to Satan so he can get to us and get us to sin. So, what makes us open could be wounds, or something like this that needs to be "healed". And we *both* have what makes us still able to give in to the devil. So, I'd say the man needs to confess to and pray for his lady, and the lady needs to confess to and pray for her man; he is her "head" (Ephesians 5:23) to lead her by being the example of this, while she is his helpmate to help him do better in this, including encouraging him by joining him in this mutual confessing and spiritual character healing prayer.

James 5:16, to me, means we all are ordained by God to have such power to have mutual confession and mutual healing prayer; God commands this; so God is committed to make this work, by means of His own love's power to get us "healed" of whatever in our *character* that still can give in to sinning. And this healing, "of course" (I would say), involves sanctification; the power of God's own love flows through us (Romans 5:5) as living, loving "water by the word" (Ephesians 5:26); this is in His Holy Spirit (John 7:37-39); this flowing of God's own love through us cleanses and *cures* us so we become like this love that is sin-incapable. Because the living waters of God's love has God's own almighty immunity against sin, making us more and more like we have in 1 John 4:17, "as He is, so are we in this world." (in 1 John 4:17)

So, with my wife, I would want her to expect me to be her example of confessing, and of humbly trusting God and her that she prays for me to do better. I trust her to love and care for all people as ourselves, and not to just make some big deal out of me like I am so more and greater than anyone else ::smile:: After all, there are other Christians who are more mature than we are; so they are more like Jesus; so if we really appreciate Jesus, we will like these people more, because they are more like Jesus, than we are. And this humbling ourselves to appreciate more genuine people can keep us from dwelling on too much on each other with our overrating each other. Once we fool ourselves into overrating one another, then we can discover the real truth and be so much more disappointed and hurt, than if we had evaluated honestly, in the first place ::idea:: Instead, we can be busier with positive confessing and prayer, and being more involved with our good examples, instead of just being so much about each other and our inferior pursuits of trying to gratify our own selves and struggling and fighting for this, and stressing.

So, I need to become her example of having "the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." (in 1 Peter 3:4) Be first about being pleasing to God, instead of how I want her to please me. And see if she is getting this with me. Make sure this is the intimacy that we are getting into, of God's own love with so better than I have been seeking ::doh::

But what about practical things I might want? Trust God about what she does for me; let Him and her enjoy surprising me. Don't be so dictatorial about how she has to be, and what she has to do: "be content with such things as you have" (in Hebrews 13:5). She will grow as a Christian; I need to be open to discovering who she will become, and what she will be doing, then ::smile:: I keep finding how God surprises me with better than what I have been wanting; so why limit a Christian lady to what I can hope ::idea::

"You are not restricted by us, but you are restricted by your own affections." (2 Corinthians 6:12)

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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #22 on: Wed Mar 10, 2010 - 11:48:41 »
Hi all.  I'm new to the forum and this is my first post.   Her are my thoughts about being a better wife.  A woman can be a better wife to her husband by being one with him.  I mean she should share a life together by talking with him, working with him, planning with him, having sex with him (not just physical intercourse), supporting him, comforting him, and just being with him.  She could be sensual, funny, and interesting for her husband (this helps to keep his eye from wandering).  The ideal marriage in my mind is a husband and wife who are together as one.  The wife's part would be to be with her husband to form the togetherness.

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« Reply #23 on: Wed Mar 10, 2010 - 13:30:51 »
It sounds dull but respecting your husband and holding him in high regard goes a long way in being a good wife. Also doing "good for him all the days of her life".He needs to knows he can always count on her to be on his side..... his loudest cheerleader, best friend and play mate.

Sorry I don't get the "wounded" stuff??

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« Reply #24 on: Thu Mar 11, 2010 - 21:17:40 »
One way a wife can be better is by not thinking that she has a rule or govern over her husband in the way that he does with her. 

Are you married?

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« Reply #25 on: Thu Mar 11, 2010 - 21:18:55 »
Not sure where it fits in but I was discussing both the male and female version of these threads and he just said 'being with you makes me want to be a better husband and a better man'. 

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« Reply #26 on: Thu Mar 11, 2010 - 21:26:04 »
I suspect one becomes a better wife if she becomes a better person, and a better Christian.

It also helps if she has a good husband. ;)

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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #27 on: Thu Mar 11, 2010 - 21:28:46 »
One way a wife can be better is by not thinking that she has a rule or govern over her husband in the way that he does with her. 
A wife has no desire to escape the rule/governance of a husband worth the pain.

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« Reply #28 on: Thu Mar 11, 2010 - 21:50:48 »
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I suspect one becomes a better wife if she becomes a better person, and a better Christian.

 ::amen!::

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It also helps if she has a good husband. ;)

 ::amen!::

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« Reply #29 on: Fri Mar 12, 2010 - 09:12:23 »
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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #30 on: Fri Mar 12, 2010 - 09:44:43 »
One way a wife can be better is by not thinking that she has a rule or govern over her husband in the way that he does with her. 

Are you married?


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« Reply #31 on: Fri Mar 12, 2010 - 18:25:24 »
One way a wife can be better is by not thinking that she has a rule or govern over her husband in the way that he does with her. 
A wife has no desire to escape the rule/governance of a husband worth the pain.
That's always been very vague to me, considering; 1.   the definition of a "husband that is worth the pain/trouble" is never supplied when one uses that phrase; and 2.   The definition just changes with every wife, making me believe that the thinking behind that is anything but Biblical......am I mistaken?


If so, how?

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« Reply #32 on: Fri Mar 12, 2010 - 22:57:24 »
Ok, Hot Ice, in *case* I got this right what you mean, you are asking if it is Biblical that there can be a husband who is a pain but worth the pain. Well, if the guy is an abuser, ornary, impossible, etc., I think of how staying with my mother so helped to test if I really was such a great Christian. I had a chance to learn how to love, by being with someone who could get the better of me, to expose my weakness and faking. But I don't think you mean is a guy worth being abused and dominated.

But I think you're asking if a man could be a Christian guy who is not irresponsible and abusive etc., and be a pain who is worth it. We have Ephesians 4:2 which says, "with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love,"

I notice that "with longsuffering" part (c: I'd say God knows *any* Christian will at times be really wrong, somehow; and then is when that "longsuffering" is needed. And there can be pain involved in that suffering long. But considering this is along with sharing with a really Christian guy who on the whole is growing and maturing in how Jesus has him loving his lady, the pain is worth it. And she can get stronger in dealing better and better with however he is wrong.

Then there's when the guy is really right, and it's showing her up, and he's correcting her, and ::doh:: I hate being proven wrong, she's thinking and stinking. But God uses us to correct each other; and when we are wrong and caught in the act and wrong spirit, we are in denial, more or less, and in pain of pity and hurt pride. And we do have, "Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it." (Hebrews 12:11) But that pain turns out to be a "Thanks, I needed that" kind of thingy, though with a stingy ::smile::

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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #33 on: Sat Mar 13, 2010 - 07:42:41 »
Comfy I think you are makin work outta work. Hot Ice's point is not complex at all, and a very good one.

I'd add to it not only does it differ from woman to woman, but with the same woman from day to day!

If you read 10 descriptions of , oh, call it, "how to be a good husband", or "what I want in my husband", or "what i cherish about my husband" from 10 women, they will be incredibly different where specific, and incredibly vague and overarching in most ways. Like "I want him to love me unconditionally".....which requires further definition into ACTIONS. and if you go into action they will differ.

Ask the same 10 women the question 6 months later, and the answers will differ again, because they are all about how the man makes her FEEL. Note....Thats fine, I have no problems with that. It makes sense and its true and honest.

but telling how they want to be made to FEEL isnt helpful. And the guy can think he is doing it, and it fall flat, next day, it works...because in the complex tumble of daily emotions it takes very different male behaviors to make her feel a certain way.

the problem comes when (and this aint rare) he is by objective measure "a good husband" but still deemed "not worth it" because it isnt making her FEEL a certain way. Then the rancor starts.

This is a relatively modern thing because in the past there wasnt time for this. Both did whatever they did to set up the next days warmth, shelter, food, had some time at evening for dinner, sleep, wake repeat, and they appreciated what WAS done by the other. Now we all expect all kinds of complicated things that are set ups for failure

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Re: How to Be a Better Wife
« Reply #34 on: Sat Mar 13, 2010 - 09:31:37 »
I think anyone that you try to live with is going to be a pain sometimes! Just because I love my husband to pieced doesn't mean I don't see his flaws. He is human. The same thing goes for me. I am human(very) and not everyone would think it was worth the effort(pain) to deal with my flaws especially on a daily basis. But thank God we think it is totally "worth the pain". And sometimes it is more than the daily pain. Sometimes your spouse is going through a tough time that puts such stress on you that you don't think you can bear it. That's when we rely on God's love to see us through. The greater bond after such a crisis is the reward for remaining faithful and leaning on God.

 

     
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