Ok, Hot Ice, in *case* I got this right what you mean, you are asking if it is Biblical that there can be a husband who is a pain but worth the pain. Well, if the guy is an abuser, ornary, impossible, etc., I think of how staying with my mother so helped to test if I really was such a great Christian. I had a chance to learn how to love, by being with someone who could get the better of me, to expose my weakness and faking. But I don't think you mean is a guy worth being abused and dominated.
But I think you're asking if a man could be a Christian guy who is not irresponsible and abusive etc., and be a pain who is worth it. We have Ephesians 4:2 which says, "with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love,"
I notice that "with longsuffering" part (c: I'd say God knows *any* Christian will at times be really wrong, somehow; and then is when that "longsuffering" is needed. And there can be pain involved in that suffering long. But considering this is along with sharing with a really Christian guy who on the whole is growing and maturing in how Jesus has him loving his lady, the pain is worth it. And she can get stronger in dealing better and better with however he is wrong.
Then there's when the guy is really right, and it's showing her up, and he's correcting her, and
I hate being proven wrong, she's thinking and stinking. But God uses us to correct each other; and when we are wrong and caught in the act and wrong spirit, we are in denial, more or less, and in pain of pity and hurt pride. And we do have, "Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful
; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it." (Hebrews 12:11) But that pain turns out to be a "Thanks, I needed that" kind of thingy, though with a stingy