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« on: October 24, 2009, 09:02:15 PM »
 Blushing I'm embarrassed to ask this question but I am going to go for it.  I am happily married and enjoy a good sex life.  However, I girl friends who engage in anal sex with their spouses/boyfriends.  My hubby and I are both Christians and are committed to each other.  I was wondering if anal sex is a no-no for Christians?  My confusion is this- I know homosexuality is against God's will and some consider it unnatural.  However, if you are performing this act in marriage is this still considered unnatural an ungodly?  I want to be in God's will.
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« Reply #1 on: October 24, 2009, 09:07:53 PM »
Ms d:

Do you want to do this?

Quote from: darnell on October 24, 2009, 09:02:15 PM
Blushing I'm embarrassed to ask this question but I am going to go for it.  I am happily married and enjoy a good sex life.  However, I girl friends who engage in anal sex with their spouses/boyfriends.  My hubby and I are both Christians and are committed to each other.  I was wondering if anal sex is a no-no for Christians?  My confusion is this- I know homosexuality is against God's will and some consider it unnatural.  However, if you are performing this act in marriage is this still considered unnatural an ungodly?  I want to be in God's will.
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« Reply #2 on: October 24, 2009, 09:36:09 PM »
I am not being forced or pressured into engaging into anal sex.  However, I have no problems with experimenting if it means keeping my sex life interesting and pleasurable. However, if this is an act that is "ungodly," or out of the will of God, I do not want to engage in anything that would put me and my marriage out of the will of God.  I have been a Christian for about 3 years and I am continuing to grow in my faith and desire to live a faith-filled life in obedience to God.
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« Reply #3 on: October 24, 2009, 09:52:33 PM »
TMI. La La La La La La
But seriously, don't go there girl friend.
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« Reply #4 on: October 24, 2009, 11:19:04 PM »
 Have Mercy help! I think it is wrong, and will hurt you in the immediate, and the long run. For Pete's sake forgive me, but, is that not sodomite behavior?
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« Reply #5 on: October 25, 2009, 12:09:32 AM »
Drop it, Farouk.
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« Reply #6 on: October 25, 2009, 05:13:20 AM »
Quote from: lightshineon on October 24, 2009, 11:19:04 PM
Have Mercy help! I think it is wrong, and will hurt you in the immediate, and the long run. For Pete's sake forgive me, but, is that not sodomite behavior?
 

I agree lightsineon. Surely that is like sodomy that The Bible teaches against? I have a good sex life, but would never go there with anal sex. The anus is not designed for sex, it can damage that area, the muscles go the wrong way, they don't expand like the vagina does and it is also very unhygienic.
Stop listening to your friends, people do all sorts of things that aren't godly. If you have had to come here to ask the chances are that you are not at peace about it. My advise...leave WELL alone, there are many other things that you can do in sex to keep it pleasureable and fun without that.
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« Reply #7 on: October 25, 2009, 08:23:08 AM »
Stop listening to your friends, people do all sorts of things that aren't godly. If you have had to come here to ask the chances are that you are not at peace about it. My advise...leave WELL alone, there are many other things that you can do in sex to keep it pleasureable and fun without that.
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You are right.  The fact that I came to this site to ask this question proves I wasn't at peace with this.
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« Reply #8 on: October 25, 2009, 08:31:10 AM »
Im not convinced that its against Gods will for a married couple.What makes me lean more that way its is the fact its injurous.I dont believe that if you have to take such precuations not to end up with permenent physical damage or to avoid infections that we are supposed to be doing that.

I know quite a few homesexual men who even will not go there.People automatically assume its a homesexual activity and its not..Lots of heteros do it and have been doing it since the dawn of time.

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« Reply #9 on: October 25, 2009, 08:33:14 AM »
Also dont be embarrased that you asked.Many people wonder that same thing.

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« Reply #10 on: October 25, 2009, 10:19:57 AM »
I am with dallas, I can't say with complete confidence that it is a sin within the confines of hetero marriage(i believe those scriptues against it were focusing on hmsxlty), but i just wouldn't do it b/c of the health reasons. I also don't see how anyone could even want to do that. I get grossed out just by thinking about it lol. I'm so glad this is NOT a desire for my husband!!!!!
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« Reply #11 on: October 25, 2009, 02:44:20 PM »
Ms d:

Oh okay, then.

Quote from: darnell on October 25, 2009, 08:23:08 AM

You are right.  The fact that I came to this site to ask this question proves I wasn't at peace with this.
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« Reply #12 on: October 25, 2009, 02:50:41 PM »
PS:

Ms D: Is there any other subject on this Christian forum that you would like to discuss as well as this one?
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« Reply #13 on: October 25, 2009, 03:29:49 PM »
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.  (Hebrews 13:4)

If the bed is undefiled then i think what happens between married couples is between them and God
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« Reply #14 on: October 25, 2009, 07:35:39 PM »
RR:

So you're saying the subject of this thread is okay, if always with protection?

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Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.  (Hebrews 13:4)

If the bed is undefiled then i think what happens between married couples is between them and God
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