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Offline layhoma

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Allow me to elaborate. The husband ( an unbeliever ) was a divorcee. His two previous marriages were held only at city halls.   He met my friend ( a Christian ) in school. During the courtship, he was willing to take Bible classes and did many things to please her.  Time passed and so as a born again Christian (so he says) he proposed.  She accepts and they made vows at the church alter. End of story.

Face value there are countless things that are terribly wrong here.  Needless to get into scriptural verses but I would like to think out of the box for a moment just for the sake of brainstorming.

At a glance both have committed adultery.  Now let's dive deeper.  IMO in order for a couples'  vows/commitment to be legitimate in the eyes of the Lord, when facing the altar, there is a basic requirement both must be met.  That is:  both never had a divorce. Because of this rule, the majority of churches or pastors are most likely unwilling to rent out the church or bear witness for anyone who  doesn't have a clean slate.

Case in point, since the husband is a divorcee, would their marriage technically be void in the spiritual realm ? At best, they are only bound by the law of the land, but not recognized by our Father ?

By the same logic, say if they end up in a divorce, and they really can't because their marriage was not recognized by the Lord in the first place.

Last but not least, ( I'm really really pushing the envelope here !) if the holy matrimony was never taken place and bound by God as witness, could there be a chance that the bride may not be bound by the law of the Lord and she may remarry again ? This is a true story and I just want to find grace beyond our understanding that may comfort her that she may not have to spend the rest of her life being lonely.
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Where did you get the idea that God doesn't recognise their marriage? No it won't be void, the man became a believer and therefore all his past sins and mistakes are forgiven and washed away.
Marriage doesn't have to be in a church either for it to be valid to God. Dont you believe that God is everywhere and sees everything? They made promises to each other no matter where it was.
Having said all that, marrying a guy with 2 divorces already was a risky thing to do.However, I would suggest that she works hard at the marriage and that they both keep the promises that made, and unless there is serious abuse or sexual immorality, she doesn't even think of divorce.

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I can understand your frustration and  there's alot of folks who probably side with your views. But I disagree  on logic for example we may disagree with remarriage on others and maybe we have that personal right maybe that is a good thing. But we do it out of compassion not with an iron fist. What is done is done you got to let God direct their lives. We got to trust in the convictions of the holy spirit to bring people to repentance. Should they depart from their marriage? I can't answer that nor should you. Just pray for the best for them and move on.  This doesn't mean you comprise it just means you put this matter in God's hands.

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I think it depends on WHY the divorce happened.

I think the Bible states there is only ONE justifiable cause for divorce. Adultery.


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His two previous marriages were held only at city halls.   
My only marrriage of fifty years was also held at a city hall done by a woman, who was legally approved by the law of the city in which our marriage took place. Some believe that a woman cannot perform marriages, but nowhere do we read in the scriptures that they cannot.

The ONLY problem I see so far is that he had two previous marriages that failed and a person who professes to be a believer is considering marrying this person~not very wise decision on the surface regardless as to why is two previous marry ended in a divorce. But on top of having two marriages failed, it IS important why they failed, because she may NOT marry such a person without living in adultery before God.  There is ONLY one case/sin where a person can divorce his or her spouse and be FREE to marry again without living in adultery and that sin, is the sin of fornication~per Jesus in Matthew 5 and 19, which includes many UNNATURAL ACTS OF SEXUAL SINS, the list is longer than one would first think...... Just to name a few:

Sodomy~would be one of them, see Jude 7; going after STRANGE flesh, other than that which is natural!

Incest~would be on that list, see 1st Corinthians 1-5; laying with someone of very near kin, would fall under the sin of fornication.

bestiality~which the OT speak of as a sin men/women commit which is a ground of divorce, for it is going after STRANGE flesh and so unnatural.

Pedophilia ~which is a sexual preference for prepubescent children. This is unnatural and is a grounds for divorce.

There is more, but enough to prove the ONLY exception granted by Jesus to divorce and remarry being fornication which includes a list of UNNATURAL SINS~if once a person is married and LATER such sins surfaces, then the innocent party is FREE to divorce and remarry WITHOUT the burden of thinking that they cannot. Who wants to live with a pervert, NOT ME. 

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If a Christian marries a divorcee, would that alter vow be legit in the eyes of God?

Yes.

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Nothing about divorce and remarriage constitutes an unforgivable sin.

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... held at a city hall done by a woman, who was legally approved by the law of the city in which our marriage took place. Some believe that a woman cannot perform marriages, but nowhere do we read in the scriptures that they cannot.

Same here. No traditional wedding, no wedding dress. The best man broke a flowering twig off a bush outside the courthouse and gave it to me -
 telling me every bride should have flowers. I'll never forget he did that for me. Judges chambers, woman judge was the officiant. She kept looking at me with a cold, harsh expression like she was angry with me. She didn't smile one time. She probably knew I had no idea of what I was getting into - but then, who does at 18?


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but then, who does at 18?
Sherry was younger! Our oldest daughter and Sherry are only 16 years and nine months apart! By the grace of God, we are still happily married! We went to a wedding yesterday and Sherry reminded me that she has no regrets about not having a traditional marriage. She said she would do it again all over again the same way! Maybe not camping out in a tent at Myrtle Beach for two to three days at the end of July and the first part of August! Money was tight back then, but who cares when you are in love and burning, and that not from the sun!
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The best man broke a flowering twig off a bush outside the courthouse and gave it to me -
That's funny. I must tell Sherry later on about that, she will get a good laugh out that.
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