If You are in Marriage Crisis

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[janine]

They'll send you emails about events you can go to near you, too.

[srogers]

I was reading in the book "Divorce: God's Will" and I need clarification on the verse Jeremiah 8:10. "I will put their wives with others" somebody explain.


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[Hehealedme]

9 The wise will be put to shame;
       they will be dismayed and trapped.
       Since they have rejected the word of the LORD,
       what kind of wisdom do they have?

 10 Therefore I will give their wives to other men
       and their fields to new owners.
       From the least to the greatest,
       all are greedy for gain;
       prophets and priests alike,
       all practice deceit.





Because the ones that think they are wise on their own, God will give their wifes to men that do follow God's Word...

[srogers]

so then, my marriage was terrible. He was verbally abusive, on drugs, and never would try to change and my heart desired a loving husband. I know God is leading me through this divorce. So I met this person and the first thing he heard me say was I was going through a divorce. He came up to me and said "Hey, I just went through that too, if you need to talk let me know." And as I'm getting to know this person, we have a spiritual connection I never knew you could have with someone. I always say he's just perfect for me, and perfect is a strong word. Could this truly be part of Gods plan and reason to get me out of a disobedient marriage?

[KenE]

Hi Srogers,

It all sound good to me I hope your new relationship goes well for you. There's a lot to be said for the spiritual
connection. If it doesn't work there I believe in might never work.

Bless you

[DSDana]

My husband and I have been married for 25 years, happily I thought.  I had to have major neck surgery two years ago which required a long recovery time.  We opened and ran a business together several years before that which he is now running alone.  He started up a relationship (emotional only he says) with a lady who works for us and everyone knew except me.  This was back in December, 2007.  Over the past six months, things have been good, then bad, then good, then bad.  He is obsessed about his job running our company and either chats with the employees at night and on weekends or texts or IMs them when there are no problems and he should be spending time with us.  Things got bad back in June and he moved out.  My 22-year-old daughter said he would need to leave to appreciate what he had so I asked him for separation.  He's been gone now for 2 1/2 months.  He has initiated no contact with me at all.  I did with him at first, but made a fool of myself every time and I do have a little pride left I hope so I've laid off of that.  I've been praying faithfully for God to change his heart and bring him back to our family or to give us (me and our three kids, 22, 20 and 14) the courage and wisdom to deal with it.  So far nothing.  I know things are in God's time, but like many others out there, I feel like my heart is broken and I'm just so sad.  He's spending some time with the kids and my son stays at his apartment maybe once a week.  Before he left, I was upset that he never spend time with me or the kids and was on his phone and laptop all the time.  Now they say he is still on it at the apartment, but doesn't have competition for it over there so apparently he hasn't realized that his family should come first.  I just don't know what to do.  I'm trying to just be patient, but just when I think I'm okay, I get hit with another wave of sadness.  25 years is a long time to invest in someone  to just give up.  We both always talked ab out how lucky we were to still love each other so much and how strong our foundation was, etc.  Then he just walked away and never looked back.  Does that mean he just doesn't love me??  Or is he going through some type of crisis?  I need some advice.  I've been married to him for more than have of my life.  I'm 44-years-old and was 19 when I got married.  Any help would be appreciated!

Donna

[ecviceman]

you asked him to leave! so that he could have more time at home with you and the kids

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[ecviceman]

if my wife is talking to her boss about sex and dreams and going to lunch over them is it cheeting?
also it is graffic and he is turned on by it!
also another guy is telling her that he wants to help her take of her dress becous she is to sexy for it !
they talk about her being single and would have to kid's (my kid's) and he would take them in!!
she is do to deliver on dec /16 08 
   


Edgar

[Charles Sloan]

Man, I'm sorry to hear about your problems. You have my prayers.

[Wycliffes_Shillelagh]

Sympathies friend.  Been there.

[ecviceman]

how do i change my mood?

[remainingfaithful]

My husband and I have been married for 25 years, happily I thought.  I had to have major neck surgery two years ago which required a long recovery time.  We opened and ran a business together several years before that which he is now running alone.  He started up a relationship (emotional only he says) with a lady who works for us and everyone knew except me.  This was back in December, 2007.  Over the past six months, things have been good, then bad, then good, then bad.  He is obsessed about his job running our company and either chats with the employees at night and on weekends or texts or IMs them when there are no problems and he should be spending time with us.  Things got bad back in June and he moved out.  My 22-year-old daughter said he would need to leave to appreciate what he had so I asked him for separation.  He's been gone now for 2 1/2 months.  He has initiated no contact with me at all.  I did with him at first, but made a fool of myself every time and I do have a little pride left I hope so I've laid off of that.  I've been praying faithfully for God to change his heart and bring him back to our family or to give us (me and our three kids, 22, 20 and 14) the courage and wisdom to deal with it.  So far nothing.  I know things are in God's time, but like many others out there, I feel like my heart is broken and I'm just so sad.  He's spending some time with the kids and my son stays at his apartment maybe once a week.  Before he left, I was upset that he never spend time with me or the kids and was on his phone and laptop all the time.  Now they say he is still on it at the apartment, but doesn't have competition for it over there so apparently he hasn't realized that his family should come first.  I just don't know what to do.  I'm trying to just be patient, but just when I think I'm okay, I get hit with another wave of sadness.  25 years is a long time to invest in someone  to just give up.  We both always talked ab out how lucky we were to still love each other so much and how strong our foundation was, etc.  Then he just walked away and never looked back.  Does that mean he just doesn't love me??  Or is he going through some type of crisis?  I need some advice.  I've been married to him for more than have of my life.  I'm 44-years-old and was 19 when I got married.  Any help would be appreciated!

Donna

Being that I have had relationship problems with the same man for 12 years, I will only comment on what I have learned along the way.   First: His first mistake was starting an emotional relationship with anybody else.  Emotional or Physical are both wrong in God's eyes.  Whatever problems he felt he had to share, he should of come to you.  It's not fair that you don't know if he doesn't come to you and discuss.  Two: When a person over exerts themselves into work they are using that as an escape to not face problems/issues at the home.  It's a an excuse not to deal with it.  Third: Becareful who you go to for advice.  Is it Godly advice?  Is the person older and married?  You took advice from your 22 year old daughter who is half your age.  Sometimes you have to be strong and realize that the enemy never sleeps.  He will use people close to you to give you wordly advice.  The enemy wants to see your family destroyed.  By asking for a separation you have pushed him further away allowing the enemy to win. 

If he has been gone 2 1/2 months.  I know it seems like forever but it may take him longer to come to his senses.  It took my ex-husband 9 months to realize what he lost.  All you can do is leave it in God's hands.  He knows the desires of your heart.  Pray for your husband, he has somehow gotten sucked in by the ways of the world.  My heart goes out to you.  I am very familiar with the roller coaster of the good...bad...good..bad.  I will pray for you and your family.   

[remainingfaithful]

My husband and I have been married for 25 years, happily I thought.  I had to have major neck surgery two years ago which required a long recovery time.  We opened and ran a business together several years before that which he is now running alone.  He started up a relationship (emotional only he says) with a lady who works for us and everyone knew except me.  This was back in December, 2007.  Over the past six months, things have been good, then bad, then good, then bad.  He is obsessed about his job running our company and either chats with the employees at night and on weekends or texts or IMs them when there are no problems and he should be spending time with us.  Things got bad back in June and he moved out.  My 22-year-old daughter said he would need to leave to appreciate what he had so I asked him for separation.  He's been gone now for 2 1/2 months.  He has initiated no contact with me at all.  I did with him at first, but made a fool of myself every time and I do have a little pride left I hope so I've laid off of that.  I've been praying faithfully for God to change his heart and bring him back to our family or to give us (me and our three kids, 22, 20 and 14) the courage and wisdom to deal with it.  So far nothing.  I know things are in God's time, but like many others out there, I feel like my heart is broken and I'm just so sad.  He's spending some time with the kids and my son stays at his apartment maybe once a week.  Before he left, I was upset that he never spend time with me or the kids and was on his phone and laptop all the time.  Now they say he is still on it at the apartment, but doesn't have competition for it over there so apparently he hasn't realized that his family should come first.  I just don't know what to do.  I'm trying to just be patient, but just when I think I'm okay, I get hit with another wave of sadness.  25 years is a long time to invest in someone  to just give up.  We both always talked ab out how lucky we were to still love each other so much and how strong our foundation was, etc.  Then he just walked away and never looked back.  Does that mean he just doesn't love me??  Or is he going through some type of crisis?  I need some advice.  I've been married to him for more than have of my life.  I'm 44-years-old and was 19 when I got married.  Any help would be appreciated!

Donna

p.s. I attended a Family Life Marriage Conference back in May of this year with my ex-husband.  It was wonderful and refreshing.   You can go online at www.familylife.com  and look at the schedules and locations.  Invite your husband to one of these....if he does nothing else - try to convince him to go as it could change the fate of your marriage.  It will certainly strike a chord in his heart and remind him as to why he fell in love with you in the first place.