I Corinthians 7, Matthew 19 are two chapters that are constantly fought over, regarding divorce/remarriage. There are some ridiculous conclusions, that are based on context-less thinking, and there are some legitimate oens that truly leave you scratching your head. You are going to have a big wrestling match ahead of you, for sure; but I'll do what I can to help.
The point of having "grounds to divorce" was a case of what God permitted
, not what He wanted
. Other factors that made a difference in whether a believer was under any bondage (from what I understand of those two passages) are:
- Whether or not both spouse were Christians, with evidence clearly backing up (i.e., matching what the Bible says is evidence) that claim
- Whether or not the sins in question were ever confronted Biblically, with the goal of reconciliation
From what I see one chapter back, in Matthew 18
, if you've made attempts at reconciling your husband, that failed all the way to the point of the church leadership (not the congregation) confronting him, he is now to be treated as an unbeliever, and--combined with I Corinthians 7:15--you don't just have "the grounds to divorce", but are "not under bondage". This leaves me with the final point:
Whether you are "blessed with another man" seems to depend on much more than whether or not you "divorced right" (too many people become legalistic, rather than Biblical about this
--Are you dealing with anything in your heart (passions/loyalties/goals) that is/are competing with God for number one place?
--Are you confessing sin RIGHT AWAY, as soon as the Holy Spirit convicts you?
--Are you growing in your love and thirst for God's Word?
If so, check out the order of Psalm 37:4: First and foremost comes delighting yourself in the Lord.
THEN and ONLY THEN,
HE WILL GIVE YOU the desires of your (newly cleansed, purified, devoted, holy, submitted, Godly, settled, strengthened) heart.
When? I don't know (and neither does anyone else!!) But I'm praying for you (right now) as you wrestle with this.