Is it a sin for married couples to look at "Joy of Sex" book?

[larry2]

Adultry a sin? Duh!

Why do you ask?

Matthew 5:28  But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
 
If those things you watch are a turn on to you, there is something amiss.

In Jesus' name - larry2

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[kozzy]

Looking at a rather unenticing sexual instruction book with your spouse a sin?  Absolutely!  In fact, anything that makes sex with your spouse more enjoyable should be shunned.  Sex is for procreation.  Don't take God's gift for granted by thinking you're entitled to enjoy it.

[OldDad]

This seems like a good time & place to recommend the ministry of Robert and Susan Irwin - authors of Sexual Skills For Christian Husbands, Sexual Satisfaction For The Christian Wife, When Your Husband Is Never In The Mood and The Ultimate Christian Sex Library.

Click the link to read their blog Become One Flesh

I have no vested interest in their work, other than being a happy customer.

[snoopdawg]

This seems like a good time & place to recommend the ministry of Robert and Susan Irwin - authors of Sexual Skills For Christian Husbands, Sexual Satisfaction For The Christian Wife, When Your Husband Is Never In The Mood and The Ultimate Christian Sex Library.

Click the link to read their blog Become One Flesh

I have no vested interest in their work, other than being a happy customer.

Really? Do they show any good pics?

[lightshineon]

Yuck it is still in print. I looked at it before marriage as a college kid. I am still disturbed by the homosexual, little people part.

Gay midgets? Must have been the Joy of Sex part 2. have not seen it.

 It was, actually Japanese, sumo, little people. 

[snoopdawg]

Yuck it is still in print. I looked at it before marriage as a college kid. I am still disturbed by the homosexual, little people part.

Gay midgets? Must have been the Joy of Sex part 2. have not seen it.

 It was, actually Japanese, sumo, little people. 

You saw a karma sutra book. Not joy of sex.

[lightshineon]

Yuck it is still in print. I looked at it before marriage as a college kid. I am still disturbed by the homosexual, little people part.

 No, I know what I saw and it was all kinky it was book two, I think I should repent know years later. ou drag Jesus along everything we do/

Gay midgets? Must have been the Joy of Sex part 2. have not seen it.

 It was, actually Japanese, sumo, little people. 

You saw a karma sutra book. Not joy of sex.

[bibleguy125]

Looking at a rather unenticing sexual instruction book with your spouse a sin?  Absolutely!  In fact, anything that makes sex with your spouse more enjoyable should be shunned.  Sex is for procreation.  Don't take God's gift for granted by thinking you're entitled to enjoy it.

I seriously hope this is sarcasm, if it's not, take a look at Song of Solomon. And if you say that Song of Solomon is not about a man and his wife enjoying each other, you are either naive or deceiving yourself.
Sex is a gift from God, but it's for more than procreation. It's for intimacy between a man and wife as well.

[son of God]

If there are problems with sex, it comes from a heart/mindset issue that needs to be addressed.  Take care of that, and the rest just falls into place.  Literally?!

When one is seeking to please their mate, whether sexually or not, will they not try to find ways to do this?  And if they are in love, will they not try to find ways to express this to the other's benefit?  And will they not think of ways to do this, and to partake of the other's toward them?  Of course!

If there are hangups in the bedroom, (and out of it), it can be from various causes, but they can be defeated by the heart and trying and growing in these things.  I think this to be true no matter the issue, not just sex.

Your mind is where your heart is.  And vise versa.  Just the other day was our 19th anniversary.  I got about 500 rose petals, put them on the sheet and pulled the covers back over them.  Lit some candles.  When she came to bed, what a beautiful surprise.  Incredibly good aroma filled the room when the covers were pulled off.  Do you need books to tell you this stuff?  No.  I was out pouring concrete and had to remove some roses, so picked the petals into my big lunch box.  The idea of what to do with them came as I drove home.  I've never read it or heard it.  Why should we need to?  If you are in love with your mate, you will find ways to continue the romance and passion, and you will both grow and increase in your expressions of it with each other, learning as you go.  Need books?  Why?  Need pictures?  Give me a break.  Need an explanation of anatomy?  You have the perfect specimen right in front of you!  Books and videos are thinly veiled smokescreens that actually continue to hide the underlying problems, as I see it.

Been through some of that stuff at the start with my wife, at her urging.  Trashed it not long into it.  And we've never looked back.  Now we both see it as a detrimental thing that misguides the couple from the heart issues, and hobbles them for years -- some permanently, too.

We have no mild position on this topic, as you can see!

PS  --  rose petals stain light colored sheets!

[Eagle]

Hollywood did not make sex.   God made SEX. He made Eve so Adam would "like" her.  We know in our selfs when the picture has taken over our God given eyes.

[avenger]

How could it be a sin if done consentually between a man and his wife?

Avenger 

[son of God]

All sorts of things can be done "consentually" between man and wife.  I knew two kids who's mom and dad poured gasoline on them when the slept, then put a match to it.  Bad, bad, bad stuff.  Many a man and wife get into all sorts of things, and yet that doesn't mean that it is either sin or good.  Some couples think that oral is sin, and others don't.  One spouse might think it sin, and the other not.  Scripture gives common sense guidelines for that sort of difference of conviction.  Yet the statement that if both agree on something it is just fine and dandy, is only a partial truth: it depends on that which they agree upon, actually being not evil or wrong, or used wrongly in their own hearts or desires. 

Your statement has great merit, when based upon the same premise as "I think, therefore I am", yet it's applicable entirety may be problematic spiritually and federally suspect.

[avenger]

All sorts of things can be done "consentually" between man and wife.  I knew two kids who's mom and dad poured gasoline on them when the slept, then put a match to it.  Bad, bad, bad stuff.  Many a man and wife get into all sorts of things, and yet that doesn't mean that it is either sin or good.  Some couples think that oral is sin, and others don't.  One spouse might think it sin, and the other not.  Scripture gives common sense guidelines for that sort of difference of conviction.  Yet the statement that if both agree on something it is just fine and dandy, is only a partial truth: it depends on that which they agree upon, actually being not evil or wrong, or used wrongly in their own hearts or desires.  

Your statement has great merit, when based upon the same premise as "I think, therefore I am", yet it's applicable entirety may be problematic spiritually and federally suspect.

Quite a stretch there friend.  I'm pretty sure you know the difference between a man and his wife having consentual sex...and deciding to kill their children.  

Avenger

[walker starr]

      As Phoebe has said relative to other things,"It depends on the reason for looking."
      In this I totally agree , in fact it could be said about many things.  If it is an inexperienced
      married couple that simply want to "know" there is no better training manual.   

[phoebe]

      As Phoebe has said relative to other things,"It depends on the reason for looking."
      In this I totally agree , in fact it could be said about many things.  If it is an inexperienced
      married couple that simply want to "know" there is no better training manual.   

I said that?  Well, I will say it again.  Depends on the reason for looking.

I have been considering for some time now gifting my young adult, virginal children (yes, they are!) with this book as a wedding gift.