Is this a sin? [adultish topic]

[.kelli]

Having sex with your spouse in the same room as your 3-month-old baby? I live in a house with 7 people so we share a room with our baby. No one was home but me, hubby, & baby, but I didn't want to move her to a different room, because she was wide awake in her swing but paying no attention to us... I even thought during: 'I don't care if I go to hell this feels too good!' Ugh. :( Was it a sin? I don't even know how I'm going to ask God to forgive me for this one... help... Sorry for being personal

[llewksgood]

No sin. Some may have considered it unwise, but not a sin. My wife and I have done the same thing because there was nowhere else to put the baby. Don't sweat it.

[snoopdawg]

I used to get my freak-on while my cat was in the room, but i had to put the cat out and shut the door cuz kitty tried to 'get involved' if ya know what I mean.

Well, cat started crying so let her back in then my shorty say its OK but it freaks me out cuz I'm thinking beastie-ality and then i'm all out of the mood.

[walker starr]

      Hy there kelli just how observant do you think a child is at 3 months???   Probably not very.   Its ,(much better[/bat any age  for a child to see demonstrations of affection between its parents than to see and hear its parents screaming and cursing
at each other.  This will harm the child's emotional development.  thank you JESUS,AMEN.     

[.kelli]

Thank you all for your replies.

However, it's just that, while I thought it was a sin, I continued to do it anyway...
That also bothers and worries me.

Please pray for me. :(
Thank you...

[HRoberson]

However, it's just that, while I thought it was a sin, I continued to do it anyway...
That also bothers and worries me.

Well now, see....you're growing up.

[JohnDB]

That is just it...

often times what we are trained to believe is a sin isn't. There are all kinds of legalisms out there that we are taught are sins that really aren't. We are trained to believe that sex must fit inside of a very narrow pattern or else it is a sin. (I am not referring to sexual immorality such as homosexuality or pornography) such as if you don't have sex while your eyes are closed in the missionary position and in absolute darkness it is evil and wicked...

Let me allow you in on a secret. Family houses used to contain only one room. Brothers/sisters and whole families lived and slept in the same room...as well as a few animals like sheep, goats, or donkeys.

Nudity wasn't sexual until the Elizabethan era where covering every part of our anatomy was promoted. It was simply that...nudity. People labored in the nude often with nothing more than either a tiny apron or penis sheath...which is precisely what the Israelites were used to wearing (and nothing else ever) when they left Egypt. Clothing articles such as undergarments and outer clothes such as the robes we are used to seeing them wear in all of the movies or plays was more than they ever owned while slaves. Nudity was shameful in that you were too poor to own clothes.

sexual relations between a husband and wife were seen as normal and positives (although not on display) and were not hidden from everyone as something shameful.

We have come a long long way from that. We have made what God gave us something which is beautiful and a miracle and made it something secret, mysterious, shameful and sin filled.

And right now the two of you continuing to give each other your hearts, minds, and bodies is something wonderful...even in light of a new person in your household which takes up both of yours time and energy.  

[.kelli]

I even thought during: 'I don't care if I go to hell this feels too good!'

^ But what about this? ^

What do you mean, HR?

[HRoberson]

I even thought during: 'I don't care if I go to hell this feels too good!'

^ But what about this? ^

What do you mean, HR?

You knew (thought?) there was something wrong with what you were doing, and it bothered you.
Better that than thinking there was something wrong with it, and it not bothering you.

Are you supposed to be perfect?

[Link]

I think you should control the thought life-- about thinking if its a sin you'll do it anyway.  That's a dangerous line of reasoning.

As far as having sex with a baby in the room-- I sure hope not.  I lived in some cramp quarters.  My wife and I usually got amorous the baby was asleep if we could help it.  Otherwise, we tried to stay out of view. 

I remember the parable where the guy knocks on the neighbors door for bread at night.  He said he and his family was asleep.  i read they all used to lay together on the floor of a one room building.  Somehow the couples had to figure out a way to discreetly or not copulate when the kids weren't asleep if they were to keep up the population.  I don't see a problem with making love to your God-given wife if you stay out of view of the kids.

[RevAngel]

The sin is not the sex with the baby in the room.
The sin comes from saying you dont care if you go to hell for it.
Hopefully you were kidding and can repent for your bad choice of words.

[.kelli]

Hopefully you were kidding and can repent for your bad choice of words.

What do you mean, hopefully?
Is there a chance I ruined everything for myself by thinking that?

I don't think I was kidding at the time... when all was said & done, I regretted what I thought, and wish I'd never thought it...

:(

[OldDad]

Hopefully you were kidding and can repent for your bad choice of words.

What do you mean, hopefully?
Is there a chance I ruined everything for myself by thinking that?

No.  You can relax.

[.kelli]

No.  You can relax.

But I don't think I was kidding at the time... now I really regret what I did...

[OldDad]

Salvation isn't a "He loves me, He loves me not..." deal, and we're not constantly jumping into or out of it.

The fact that you regret it, and I would guess you won't repeat it, is proof that your standing with God is intact and working properly.

Remember Romans 8:1, there is no longer any condemnation for you as a believer.  Conviction from the Holy Spirit, yes - Condemnation, no.