Is this my reward for being unequally yoked?

[Jeremiah3113]

I just realized that there is a Marriage forum. Sorry.

[Wednesday]

(((((((Hug)))))))

I'm so sorry you are going through this.  I'm at a loss for words at this moment, I just logged on when I saw you post and didn't want you to think nobody saw you.  I promise I will pray for you.  With no children myself or a husband, it leaves me with a disadvantage as to what to say but I'm sure someone that is much wiser than I am can help you out....hang out a while and read a bit.

Jesus loves you so much, please don't feel so bad.

[ela]

Please recieve Wednesdays hug....as she truly means it. I too, so please know that you may get some finger-waggers and ought's and shoulder's here....but not many Thank God. Some will use scripture even to guilt you....but only listen to truth that is tempered by love.  Remember that Jesus died while we were yet farrrr from Him....so, He loves us and will bring us thru our blunderings. I have made my BIG share of them (go into the marriage forum and see..yup)


We will pray.....the biggest thing I would share with you is this: at least, do not leave UNTIL you have a good support system under you....as I did that at one time without the support and it was aweful....like jumping out of the pan into the fire.

Love, ela

[Jeremiah3113]

Thanks for the replies. I will post in the marriage forum instead.

[Wednesday]

Thanks for the replies. I will post in the marriage forum instead.

Friend you can post where ever you wish!  I think ela just meant that you will find that others are going through things similar as to what you are going through in the marriage threads, that's all.  We will love you no matter where you post, it's just awesome to have you here!

 

[larry2]

Dear sister, there is always a consequence of doing things we're told not to do such as being unequally yoked, but in Christ God can turn the worst of situations into your good, and for your good He will move mountains to get it done. The thing for you to do is to trust Him to be the one changing things, and that it is not all determined upon what you do; that's a terrible burden to carry.

There's an old hymn that says "Take your burdens to the Lord and leave them there."

Take your burden to the Lord and leave it there.
If you trust and never doubt, He will surely bring you out.
Take your burden to the Lord and leave it there.

If your body suffers pain and your health you can’t regain,
And your soul is almost sinking in despair,
Jesus knows the pain you feel, He can save and He can heal;
Take your burden to the Lord and leave it there.

When your enemies assail and your heart begins to fail,
Don’t forget that God in Heaven answers prayer;
He will make a way for you and will lead you safely through.
Take your burden to the Lord and leave it there.

When your youthful days are gone and old age is stealing on,
And your body bends beneath the weight of care;
He will never leave you then, He’ll go with you to the end.
Take your burden to the Lord and leave it there.

Please make sure you're not suffering a medical condition bringing about the despair, and I will move this thread to the "Marriage Forum" so as to attract more responses from those suffering similar circumstances.

May God bless you in Jesus' name.

[Loner]

I know all to well what you are going through, having a spouse who is an unbeliever and is verbally abusive, its not easy  enduring this for many years and there comes a time when you feel enough is enough. The thing which got me through was just immersing myself in the Scriptures and prayer and drawing close to The Lord. I don't know whether you were saved before getting married but I was an unbeliever at the time and was saved a few years after  the marriage and it was from that time the problems began...that's more than 30 yrs ago. Light and darkness cannot exist together in harmony and there will be problems until both parties surrender to The Lord.
 Praise God both my children were raised in the church and I have never had any of the issues you have with your children, which compounds your problems. Please don't think that this is the Lord punishing you for marrying an unbeliever if you have asked for forgivness for being unequally yoked, He is so much bigger than that....remember how after David had suffered He forgave him and then blessed his life...and He can do that for you too. 
Have you approached the Elders of your church for advice? Get some Godly advice and pray. Do you have any close friends whom you can confide in, perhaps someone to whom you could spend an hour or two with when you're feeling really down? I will be praying for you my sis and much love to you 

[chosenone]

Hi
I echo what loner said about the fact that it isn't God punishing you for marrying a non believer, it is just a natural result of doing so. This is why God says in His love for us not to do so, because He knows how hard it can be.
Also as Larry says, God can turn things around, and he can take the mistakes that we make and use them for good. I recommend getting 2 books by Stormie Omartian. One is called 'The power of a praying wife', and the other is called 'The power of praying for your your children' and pray these prayers every day for your family. They are prayers using scripture and if you persist, I am sure you will see changes.

Also I am wondering if some good marriage counselling may help, and have you got some good Christian friends who can support you and pray with you? Could you go and see your pastor about this?

[Apothecary 4 Christ]

Dear sister in Christ,

Like others have done, let me also try to encourage your soul.

1) Remember, every sin of every believer has ALREADY been punished at the cross of calvary.  Did you sin?  Sure.  So have all of us.  But the FULL punishment for that sin has been paid by Christ.  I know you know this.  But in the midst of trials, we often lose sight of the cross.  "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8) Does God love you?  Look at the cross.  Yes He does.  More than you or I can ever imagine.  The Bible says that a "friend loves at all times."  Christ is the best friend.  A "friend of sinners" like you and I.

2) God is up to something good for you.  This trial of yours is not by accident.  Every trial we endure is a part of God's good purpose to make us more like Jesus Christ.  "All things work together for good" really does mean ALL things.  The Lord's hand is in this.  Even our sins and failures are often used by the Lord to sanctify us. 

3) Since you are a Christian and have the Holy Spirit within you, there is no trial which you cannot manage to face and manage to God's glory.  Read Hebrews 11.  See what God can do.  Paul said "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." 

4) Divorce, if it is not for Biblical reasons, will not make your life easier.  It often looks that way.  But God's Word says "The way of the transgressor is HARD (Proverbs 13:15)." 

You know that the Lord anticipated that there would be situations exactly like your own.  Paul writes of it "For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy." (1 Corinthians 7:14)  Peter also addressed it: "Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives," (1 Peter 3:1)

May the Lord give you much wisdom and grace my dear sister.

Blessings,

Jason