My husband and I have been living apart since the middle of August. Things went from bad to worse... honestly, I was not in the right place, and he was shutting me out so much so I turned to other people for comfort, and one guy ended up kissing me. I felt horrible, and told my husband, and he called me every name in the book and said he wanted to divorce me.
That being said, he became verbally abusive and physically confrontational, so I moved out to live with my mother. A week later, I went to the apartment I shared with my husband to pick up some of my belongings, and drove up at 1:00am to him walking another girl out to her car. I went in the apartment and it did not look good... it looked like he "slept" with her in our bed.
I said to my husband, "If you seriously slept with that girl in our bed, I am not moving back in and not paying rent." All he said was, "then don't"
I spoke with the girl about a week later, and she said my husband was her boyfriend and that they were going to be official after our divorce. Also, I drove by our apartment often on the way to my friend's house, and that girl's car was always there. On top of that, I had the Christian apartment manager calling and telling me that this girl was sleeping over every night, and my husband put up "divorced" on Facebook and removed all of my pictures and replaced them with pictures of the two of them.
Well, I wasn't seeking God at all at this point, I was very bitter and angry. I wound up sleeping with two other men. I wasn't convicted of my actions until someone spoke to me about how God hates divorce and how we need to forgive and reconcile. Well, I felt absolutely horrible about slipping away from God. I repented and read up about how God feels about divorce... I admitted to my husband of what I had done, and then he denied ever even touching the girl. He said she was only a friend and that he "wanted me to believe he slept with her so I would screw up and he could divorce me." What a hateful comment. He also said he never even hangs out with girls, which is clearly a lie since his Facebook page is now flooded with pictures of him and other women, and he leaves them comments like "daaaaamn you look good" and "I have had a crush on you for years" and he is planning to meet with one of the girls this week for drinks and only God knows what else.
All this aside, my husband agreed to go to marriage counseling for 6-8 weeks, well... he went last Tuesday at 8:00pm, but didn't show up yesterday for the 7:00 appointment, and never even told me he wasn't going to come. Not only that, but he stood me up so that he could go on a double date! I don't know what to do anymore. I know that God wants me to be forgiving and be patient, but it's so hard when I am being treated with absolutely no respect. I know what I did was wrong, too, but at least I admitted to it... my husband will not admit to ANYTHING and blames me for EVERYTHING. He never even said sorry or said a word to me after I sent him a text asking him why he didn't show up for counseling last night.
If anyone has any insight on this, that would be helpful. He is the type to give the "silent treatment" and he is clearly not seeking the Lord as he is drinking constantly, partying, and hanging out with numerous girls. More than that, he is treating me like I am less than human and belittles me constantly.
Please pray for my husband. I love him, and I know there is no hope without God making an intervention.