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Marriage between younger man and older women
« on: October 26, 2011, 09:24:22 AM »
Considering a marriage between a man 2 years younger to the woman.
1) What aspects should be considered during making a decision to go ahead with such a marriage
2) What special cautions should be taken through out such a marriage

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Re: Marriage between younger man and older women
« Reply #1 on: October 26, 2011, 09:38:26 AM »
Did you mean just 2 years? if so then cant see why 2 years either way is a problem. Its nothing. Now if you meant 20 years, then yes, BIG problems, and not to be advised going by what I have seen.
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Re: Marriage between younger man and older women
« Reply #2 on: October 30, 2011, 11:18:21 AM »
Thanks chosenone!

Yes its only a difference of 2 years. As mentioned by you and also as I have heard from elders it seems OK if the man is younger by 2 years.

It would be nice if someone can explain that in such a relationship which other things matter more other than age. As is understand the maturity of both should match. Anything else like that to be considered.

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Re: Marriage between younger man and older women
« Reply #3 on: October 30, 2011, 01:09:49 PM »
The most impotant thing is that you are both believers. That each has good moral values, integrity, honesty, kindness and respects each other.
That you are good friends and get on well.

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« Reply #4 on: October 30, 2011, 02:11:35 PM »
I agree with what chosenone has said and would just add, make sure that The Lord comes first in his life ...and you second.
Blessings to you both  ::smile::

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Re: Marriage between younger man and older women
« Reply #5 on: October 30, 2011, 03:26:21 PM »
Two years is a nothing. Its not even a radar screen issue. (Or at least it shouldn't be) It most certainly is NOT cougaring.

What matters most is that the two of you are going to join forces together to make your ministries for God stronger & better than ever  before.

My wife is my best friend. We don't have distractions like cable TV in our home. She usually can answer for me when I'm not around and vice versa. Sometimes better than I would have.

For us, the two of us get along so well that it seemed silly for us not to be married. If you two can see that naturally without forcing or squinting to see it than do yourself a favor & marry the guy. 

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Re: Marriage between younger man and older women
« Reply #6 on: October 31, 2011, 09:19:37 AM »
Yeah, I don't think age is really of much consequence especially with that small of a margin. However, if is is personally an issue for you then I would just not do it. If the two years is going to in some way stop you from respecting him and being able to submit to him in some way then you don't need to get married.

I'm not sure how old you are but I could see a difference in two years say if he is a Junior in high school and you are in college and discussing marriage. But that would be an issue of getting married inadvisably because of life stage not age. And I think if you are questioning it over something like a two year age difference then you probably need to reevaluate the situation. Obviously, you haven't said so but seems like there is some srt of bigger issue at hand.

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Re: Marriage between younger man and older women
« Reply #7 on: November 04, 2011, 01:47:51 PM »
I don't recall seeing anything biblical about any age gap, but I agree that 2 years is pretty minor.  So much so that I wouldn't even term it as younger man/older woman unless one of you is under 20 years old.

Here is a hint to tuck away in your mind.  Don't be the one who brings up or jokes about the age difference.  If she wants to introduce it, just smile and respond with how blessed you are.  Be considerate and gentle because she may not want to broadcast the age difference.


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Re: Marriage between younger man and older women
« Reply #8 on: November 04, 2011, 10:24:28 PM »
I can think of at least 3 marriages that I know of where the man is 7-8 years younger than the woman, and they seem happy. As people have said, the younger you are the more this age gap will matter, but I cant see 2 years matters at all.

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