I used to dream of the ideal marriage, but God gave me what I needed instead, and that is so much better than I had imagined.
Did God give you the husband you needed, or did He allow you to have the one you thought you wanted and let it go from there? Does God give everyone the spouse they need, or just a chosen few? Does God give you other relationships you need, such as friends, bosses, co-workers, acquaintances? Do you have book, chapter, and verse for your ideas on this? I don't mean this in a sarcastic way, at all. Just wondering.
I was 14 years old when we started dating and 18 when we married. Like most teens I thought I knew everything, especially what was best for me. Of course as I got older I realized how wrong I was. I thought I knew what the "ideal" marriage & husband should be, but I didn't have a clue.
Instead, God gave me the man that He designed for me. He isn't perfect - I couldn't stand him if he was! But he loves God first, me second, and our kids (and now grandkids) third. I don't have to wonder if he would die to protect me, because he already does - he truly loves me as Jesus loves the church. He is my best friend, my other half.
I don't know about everybody else, I just know that I am thankful for the gifts I have been given. Book, chapter, and verse? Well, let's see. How about James 1:17? "Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change" That's really the only one I can think of right now.
Gotta go, I'll add more later.