Dear Brothers and Sisters,
I tried to edit my most recent post but "the site" told me I did not have permission to do that. I wanted to take out some of the stuff and put in more LOVE, more prayer, more encouragement to Twiglet. That is the true focus and in the last post I made, well, I got to opinionating from stuff I have read, seen, etc. One thing does strike me as important, I think this is from Band of Angels:
[!--QuoteBegin--][/span][table border=\"0\" align=\"center\" width=\"95%\" cellpadding=\"3\" cellspacing=\"1\"][tr][td]Quote [/td][/tr][tr][td id=\"QUOTE\"][!--QuoteEBegin--]However, sometimes as you also say, the husband (or wife) just comes across porn on the internet and the problem takes off from there without the fault of anyone else.
This is very, very true. Sure, when I first got on the internet and got Google, I did an image search. The results told me that the internet is truly full of pornography and it is much, much more explicit than expected. This sickened me. Yet, at the same time, I did want to go back and look again! Sad! True! Temptations are there and it really takes discipline to avoid it. It is too, too easy.
I got scared to think that someone would think this is what I do, which I do not, spent a lot of time deleting every cookie, etc. I simply do not go there...it is a temptation and a temptation some are more prone to go back to than others. I was able to escape it, with the prayer for "God, remind me to not do this." Demons are always ready to lead us to more temptation.
I have a coworker who plays video games. Now, these are not pornographic at all(example, Star Wars Gallaxy, paid for monthy to play the game) but the addiction is very similar. When the games are interactive, on the net with others playing, they tell me there is a rush of euphoria, an excitement to it. This is addictive. They tell me it is!! I believe them. The pornography sites are not much different in the effect, I would suspect.
So, I do pray for anyone who finds unnatural euphoria on the net. I do pray for you, Twiglet and specially for your guy.
The addictive fantasy is one very difficult to put down...whether a "safe" video game or one that leads to thoughts which are very unGodly and can truly affect relationships. I do pray. That is the main point. I pray that God see the reasons why, not blame, the reasons and will bring and end to the problem within freewill, even it that means exposing all that have created it within their hearts! That is a tough prayer. That prayer when answered will mean some adjustment. God would be pleased with the adjustment? Yes, if more Godliness returns and a better road is found. Tough stuff. My heart cries.
God Bless. TomDart.