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Offline GodsPeace

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Need Advice
« on: March 03, 2012, 06:52:47 AM »
My wife has confessed to having conversations via cell phone and text.  She has admitted that it is wrong but, has not cut off ties. She is planning a trip to see him soon(work trip...wink-wink) she doesn't know that I am aware of her going to see him....how should I handle this?  I want to trust the God in her and allow her to fight this temptation on her own.  I also am thinking of serving her divorce papers upon her return if she does make the trip.   ::shrug::

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« Reply #1 on: March 03, 2012, 08:13:56 AM »
Gods peace I appologise for the posts from that mad man, I have deleted them now.

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« Reply #2 on: March 03, 2012, 08:15:05 AM »
Gods peace I appologise for the posts from that mad man, I have deleted them now.

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Thank you!  ::amen!:: I hope he didn't run this poor man off!  ::frown::

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« Reply #3 on: March 03, 2012, 08:19:03 AM »
My wife has confessed to having conversations via cell phone and text.  She has admitted that it is wrong but, has not cut off ties. She is planning a trip to see him soon(work trip...wink-wink) she doesn't know that I am aware of her going to see him....how should I handle this?  I want to trust the God in her and allow her to fight this temptation on her own.  I also am thinking of serving her divorce papers upon her return if she does make the trip.   ::shrug::

You know?  I had originally said I had no advice...but thinking about it now...I would tell her I thought her going on her "work trip" sounds like so much fun that you are coming *with* her!!!   ::clappingoverhead::  Call her bluff is what I would do.  Im tough like that though.  ::blushing:: lol!

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« Reply #4 on: March 03, 2012, 11:16:16 AM »
Good advise from memyself. Tell her you would like to come as you need a break! Would be very interesting to see her reaction!!You know that she is playing with fire, and risking being unfaithful. She needs some good strong godly boundaries with the opposite sex. Is she a Christian?

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« Reply #5 on: March 03, 2012, 11:26:21 AM »
Gods peace I appologise for this mad man we get here sometimes who is full of bitterness and hatred, pride and arrogance.  Ignore anything he says and read what others say. He just tries to cause trouble because he is a sad sad person living a sad sad life.

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« Reply #6 on: March 03, 2012, 01:29:11 PM »
what a tough situation! Are these very inappropriate interactions on her phone? Is she taking this work trip ONLY to see him or is it that it's a legitimate trip and he's also going to be there?

Either way I'd surely share my concerns with her.

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« Reply #7 on: March 03, 2012, 02:37:52 PM »
I appreciate the feedback.  It's a made up work trip. 

I know we all will endure temptation and I myself have been able to turn away from it.  She is a Christian and has been distancing herself from God as of late.  I'm sure because of the conviction.

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« Reply #8 on: March 03, 2012, 03:34:46 PM »
People who are sinning in that way always distance themselves from God. She is having an emotional affair, and is headed for a physical one.She is also lying to you and deceiving you.
You can either challenge her on it and say that you know she is lying, or you can suggest that you go have decided to take time off work to go with her as you need a break, and see what she says, or you can let her go knowing that she will probably have a full affair.
When we are tempted in that way, God tells us to flee. Not to fight it, but flee. She is intending to flee towards this man.Do you honestly think she will go and see him and not do anything?She is walking into the fire.
You need to make a decision what to do before she goes. She also needs to stop any contact with this other man if she wants to save the marriage.

 I would not trust her. She is lying about going on a work trip to see another man. Therefore she has shown that she cant be trusted, unless she repents and changes her mind before she goes. How did she meet this guy?.

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« Reply #9 on: March 03, 2012, 05:14:48 PM »
I appreciate the feedback.  It's a made up work trip. 

I know we all will endure temptation and I myself have been able to turn away from it.  She is a Christian and has been distancing herself from God as of late.  I'm sure because of the conviction.

me too!  She is running from God because she KNOWS she is wrong.  ::frown:: Makes me so sad.

What have you decided to do?


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« Reply #10 on: March 03, 2012, 05:34:17 PM »
20 yrs ago i caught my wife talking on the phone outside the back door, i ask her who she was talking to and she said no one and hung up real fast i took the phone and hit redial etc.  but nothing, the next day i called the phone company and asked them , bla bla bla cause any phone call from my house was long distance. well she was using a calling card so they didnt show up.

needless to say i eventually got it out of her, we talked and talked we worked things out and are still married  29yrs now.

she is a christain, we both had drifted away from God back then. it took alot of prayer and i am still working on my trust issue.

prayers for my brother.

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« Reply #11 on: March 04, 2012, 01:00:34 PM »
Yes, she is a Christian

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« Reply #12 on: March 04, 2012, 01:02:52 PM »
She says it's a legit trip but, she doesn't know that I know he lives in this state.

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« Reply #13 on: March 04, 2012, 01:05:54 PM »
I appreciate that testimony...I pray my wife and I will enjoy the same fruit.

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« Reply #14 on: March 04, 2012, 01:14:01 PM »
She says it's a legit trip but, she doesn't know that I know he lives in this state.
  How does she know a man that far away? Have you suggested going with her?