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No mans land
« on: Sun Oct 25, 2015 - 05:36:43 »
What to do when a spouse doesn't want to work toward reconciliation (not even talk) but also doesn't respond to lawyer about starting property settlement process?

Which way do they want to go?

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Re: No mans land
« Reply #1 on: Sun Oct 25, 2015 - 05:44:02 »
What to do when a spouse doesn't want to work toward reconciliation (not even talk) but also doesn't respond to lawyer about starting property settlement process?Which way do they want to go?
Not enough information to give  godly advice. Who has control of the property at the moment? Is everything mutually shared at the moment? If so, maybe they just do not know what to do or say, but then again, knowing so little, no one can truly say which way the other party desires to go. 

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Re: No mans land
« Reply #2 on: Sun Oct 25, 2015 - 05:46:57 »
Control?
Joint ownership. I'm the tenant.

She wanted settlement so I started the process as she said she could not afford a lawyer.

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Re: No mans land
« Reply #3 on: Mon Oct 26, 2015 - 13:18:35 »
I agree with not enough info. Based on what you asked, sounds like she feels there's no hope to reconcile yet doesn't want to let go either. In which case I say stay married.

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Re: No mans land
« Reply #4 on: Tue Oct 27, 2015 - 12:07:47 »
What to do when a spouse doesn't want to work toward reconciliation (not even talk) but also doesn't respond to lawyer about starting property settlement process?  Which way do they want to go?
ForATime,

Judging from your previous questions, I get the impression that you're *very* uneasy with all the uncertainty in your relationship with your wife (this being only the most recent of several examples).  I also get the impression that she is *very* uneasy with your eagerness to get things resolved.

Naturally, I don't know you, so I could easily be off base here, but *most* people who are eager for closure are constantly trying to "test" the other party, effectively saying and doing things to try and "force" the other to "show [her] hand."

I suspect that this is the case with you and your wife: you keep pulling for certainty, while she keeps pulling for uncertainty.  A lot of people are hypersensitive to feeling controlled, and from what you've described in previous posts, that's what it sounds like.

I know this probably sounds really weird to you, but please pray about it.   ::prayinghard::


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Re: No mans land
« Reply #5 on: Fri Oct 30, 2015 - 01:44:58 »
I don't think there is anything you can do but wait and keep close to God. You situation has now dragged out for so long and your wife has been so sporadic in so many dealings and issues. This isn't fair or right, but you are still in part bound to her until she decides her next move if she hasn't cheated on you. This isn't good or fair or right from her, and it is a giant mess. No matter what happens, keep your faith and be the best man you can be.

Search your own soul and dealing for any Godly improvement you can make in this mess. You are always so short on details here that it is hard to know how you are acting.

Blessings brother in christ
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