It gets complicated...he began being verbally abusive to me, and it eventually started to get physical too. I ended up going to the police about it, just so something would be on file in case it got worse. They ended up arresting him instead and he was charged with one count of assault. As horrible as that sounds, God has been doing a work to show me that I also needed to change; it wasn't a one way street.
Once I began forgiving him, I prayed and asked God for clear direction; all I kept on getting was Be still and know that I am God.
My husband and I used to fight a lot, I went to jail for domestic violence. I really hated him, it drove me into crazy mode.
The day I got out of jail I went back home, apologized and he took me to Hawaii a couple days later.
We didn't stop fighting, just managed to keep it more under control. Plus we made a baby in Hawaii so I had to calm down.
My violence came from a frustration, and yes those are deep rooted feelings of fighting against someone that loves you because you've never been loved like that before and don't think you deserve it. He was also aloof at times, I wanted combat. I don't know how you react when he get's upset, that may need to change if he doesn't have it in him yet.
Then one day I realized, it wasn't him I was fighting against, it was God's love.