God calls me to be the spiritual leader in my home and I can't be that because I'm constantly being undermined by my wife. There has to be solutions.
Greetings ebeneger~With a name like that, I'm sure not why you are having trouble....In the Old Testament Samuel gave the name Ebenezer to a stone set up in recognition of God's assistance
in defeating the Philistines ~
Get control of your wife and then it will be much better. She needs to be all in
if your desire is to be fruitful. God has called you to be the leader, DO IT. Trust him for the results. I would first sit down and have a talk with your wife and tell her that worship with the family
is absolutely essential for the grounding of the children to best give them a path that they should take instead of just leaving them to themselves to chose on their own. Solution #2~
It's not optioned... it is a commandment from God for children to LISTEN and obey their parents especially in them teaching them the word of God.
Proverbs 4:1 Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding.
Tell them you are doing what you are doing because you love them and want the best for them.
Children should attentively listen to their father to learn what he has to teach. Fathers, must teach their children? and expect their attention. Tell them that the bible will give wise instructions and will make life easier on them and very hard if they reject them.
Children are God’s gift to married parents (Psalm 127:3). They arrive without understanding (Proverb 22:15). They need to be taught and instructed, or they will default to the depraved impulses of their wicked hearts and/or the world’s profane ideas (Proverbs 1:8; 6:20-23).
There was no Scripture in the world until 1532 BC. No man had a single verse of the Bible for 2,514 years. All the instruction came by word of mouth, from father to son. With men living as long as 969 years in the case of Methuselah (Gen 5:27), there was also word of mouth from grandfathers to grandsons.
Children, must pay careful attention to hear and obey the instruction that they receive from their parents, especially fathers (Proverbs 23:22; 30:17). They will be fools if left to themselves. Solution #3~
Be the father that God is to you~As a father, your duty is certain and important. You must train your children in the fear of the Lord and perpetuate the truth of God through them and their children (Proverbs 22:6; 29:15; Genesis 18:19; Deut 4:9; 6:4-9,20-25; Joshua 24:15; Psalms 34:11; 71:18; 78:1-8; Isaiah 38:19; Joel 1:1-3; Ephesians 6:4). Paul assumed that fathers exhort, comfort, and charge children (Ist Thess 2:11).
Do not be discouraged in training your children in the fear of God, for you will reap if you do not faint. Get your wife on aboard with you ASAP. It is a win-win for everyone. God can and will give you the boldness you need if you only ask for it. We all are timid to a certain degree~my wife will argue that about me, but we are without God's help