Hey. I am the Husband. Karla texted me her post. I can not find the where to respond there so I made a new separate post.
Disappointed my wife thinks she got a Christian advice. She did not. I am not here to defend myself. I want to tell the FACTS and leave it.
No Christian men on these forums? JUST BECAUSE SHE GOT A VAGINA DOES NOT MEAN SHE IS RIGHT.
Let me make this clear: I DO NOT HAVE ANY MENTAL DISORDER. SHE DOES! SHE HAS BEEN TAKING HER MEDS FOR THE PAST 12 or 13 YEARS AS FAR AS I KNOW. SHE IS DIAGNOSED BORDERLINE. SEEN HER MEDICAL RECORDS. IT IS OFFICIAL. SO GET THAT STRAIGHT.
Today she loves me. Next morning she hates me. This very minute she wants to save our marriage and just when I am ready to forgive her, she is leaving me again. You go and try to live with a borderline for only 1 year and let me know if you like it, ok? You will go insane!!!
IED is what they thought I had and turned out later I do not have it. AND I NEVER hit or abused my EX wife. MY EX DOES NOT EVEN CLAIM ANYTHING LIKE THAT HAS OCCURRED EVER IN HER MARRIAGE! I am not THIS "serial" abuser you think I am. I had many disagreements with my EX but the marriage ended peacefully. THAT was a Christian marriage. This ONE. I am not so sure.
YOU DO NOT KNOW MY WIFE. YOU DO NOT KNOW ALL THE DETAILS OR WHAT SHE HAS DONE ME. I was VERY patient. I loved her and cared for her. That is not for you to decide if she should leave me or not. WHAT ARE YOU DOING!!? What is your profession to say such a thing to a troubled woman? Just amuse me please.
I have legitimate biblical grounds for divorce if I wanted to end this a long time ago. Let me tell you this and I know what I am saying. Her daughter without me will be anything BUT Christian. YOU REALLY HAVE NO IDEA!
Heh… I was not beating that man hysterically! I was trying to have a conversation with this gypsy man who nearly killed me and my family and if THAT was not enough, he spat in my face and was very hostile. That happened AFTER he provoked me. That was a mistake.. BIG HORRIBLE mistake, not an assault. He started it not me. What could you have done differently? This was Romania. I call the cops. They take him in custody or maybe they do absolutely NOTHING. Not going to shed a tear for it. Yes. I get angry IF there is a good reason. I will even say that I use a physical FORCE if I had to defend myself. That is NOT violence. It is a RIGHT. BIG difference!
By the way. SHE DID GET HURT. We got some deep cuts from the broken glass. She was hospitalized. People call this an injury.
Now let me go to the part she claims I broke her wrist last year. IS NOT THIS WHY YOU THINK I AM THIS DANGEROUS ABUSER?
I did slap her multiple times that night. WAS NOT a brutal force.... but it was VERY sinful of me and yes morally wrong. I am sinning by doing this to my wife, but I did NOT break her wrist. I DID NOT DO THAT.
She went to the bathroom and locked the door behind her. THEN SHE IS CALLING THIS FRIEND OF MINE TELLING HIM TO COME OVER I AM KILLING HER! Now this friend comes to the house immediately. She was too scared and ready to leave. She fell! YES! Even this friend saw it. My friend took her to his house and then his wife took her to the hospital. THAT IS THE TRUTH IN NUTSHELL. I feel bad for her. I really do…. but how is that ME breaking her wrist? HOW? YOU tell me.
I can be mean but I am no monster. You need to know when she told you in her older posts that she left her previous job that "she gave it up after becoming a Christian." She is fooling herself. My wife was doing this thing for a very long time in this marriage. Every now and then, she is booked with some photographers. She finally stopped ONLY AFTER having an affair with a married man! This man's wife been trying to approach me for months. Finally, we met and She told me about it, showed me their dirty messages, and how she is telling him this thing.... about her makeup... That he messed it up because..... HIM all over her…
I go and confront my wife about it. She says, "Listen. Please. I can explain it. This is really not what it looks like.." This is WHY I HIT her last year. All the other things she tells you happened many years ago or AFTER our separation is nonsense, waste of your time, and a distraction. That is what all cheaters do. They lie, manipulate, deceive, and go look for sympathizers here and there and eventually they end their marriages themselves and they go and try to find another prey.
Those church friends…. I still maintain a healthy relationship with them. In fact, they do not want to have ANYTHING with my wife because she has been manipulating them for a long time. That is a harsh truth because she may not know this yet.
I do not attend the church??? Huh? Of course…. for legal matters. No. I did not call her a slut, ever. I paid thousands of dollars for her intensive English courses and took a year and we still have a language barrier. I careless about her past. I never judged her for it. She professes Christianity, is not that true? I judge THAT.
It is questionable if she truly believes or not. She could be a practicing Buddhist. These Yoga classes. Not sure if she got Nirvana or the Holy Spirit.
My wife is indeed a very attractive woman. Of course, men probably want to be close to her. Her beauty is a CURSE though. A woman professing Christian "orthodoxy" who lures, tempts, and manipulates another married men? You tell me if you want this happening to you? God knows if he was the only one. She was very careful but the other man was not. His poor wife finds out about it. Now that is on her destroying someone else's marriage and not me.
I DO NOT want to SAVE this marriage NOT anymore and NOT UNTIL she changes her immoral behavior, confesses, and repents. I actually need to be SAVED FROM such a relationship. Because of the nature of my job, I sometimes have to travel. She betrayed my trust.
All the things she did later, dolling up and going out with strangers I know nothing about, and taking selfies with them, then she blames it all on insecurities and the past…yeah this needs to stop. I also had a carnal past, chased after women, had sex before my marriages, but then I changed my ways and never looked back.
STOP blaming ME OR I am not going to waste any minute here.
She is NOT the victim. END OF THE STORY.