What I'm sure you would also agree with, though, is something that I see many REFUSING to confront: generalizations should be left out of the final truth category. That is to say that after making a decision based upon a generalization, one shouldn't just shut down operations, declaring "I have the truth; no more need to pay attention, unless forced by evidence. When encountering such evidence, I'll declare it an 'exception', therefore reinforcing my right to lay this generalization upon the head of an entire sample group!"
Look what all people do with generalizations when the Holy Spirit is not in control..........dangerous.
I have to say, I agree, generalization IS a very important thought mechanism. Maybe wisdom is the wrong word....but it is an essential tool for daily decisions, for thumbs up or down kinda things that must be quickly decided. I always put wisdom as basis for more longer term over arching decsions, like who to marry or similar...but daily when presented rapid fire with yea or nay things....oh yea, we MUST use generalizations...which by definition are based in statistics, even if we do not know them.
Then someone says and have it be 100% right for every woman all the time"
OF COURSE is isnt.
Thats like saying "the ten commandments dont need to be said to everyone all the time"....sheesh what is it with the ALL comments?
That's what gets done in men/women, husband/wife conversation so much --it BURNS me.
Certainly. given specific information about a particular individual one must go with the specific information.
A benign example: if I was hosting a mens group get together at my house, and I needed to select what should be on the TV in the TV room, a safe bet would be whatever game happened to be playing. Now, I don't watch sports, but most guys do. I will have the game playing on the TV so that someone who is uncomfortable can sit in there and at least he can chat with some other guys about the game and perhaps build friendships that way.
If I knew specifically that none of the guys watched sports (not likely) then I'd put on the History Channel (my preference)
less benign example - Most women want to feel "connected" with their husbands relationally before wanting sex. This is true for my wife and for MANY if not MOST women - this is what I've been taught and what I've read women express in their own writings. Its good advice to give to men. If your wife isn't wanting to have sex with you AND complains about feeling "disconnected" or feeling "used", you'd probably better look at meeting her connectedness needs. Now, is this true for ALL women. No. But for the guy who hadn't thought of it before, thsi si a good starting place. (Since, "most" men DON'T need to feel "connected" to their wives to want sex, they may not think of this or they may not HEAR it even though their wives tell them this.......because "most" men will probably NOT feel connected to their wives UNTIL they have regular sex with her.)
That's how I think generalities help. They can be a guide and barring more specific information, that may be all that you have. The common response to this is "Then they need to learn to communicate better!" - True, but they DON'T communicate well,(and sometimes one gender's CLEAR communication is the other gender's foreign language.) so while they are working on communicating better, learning how men/women behave "in general" can be helpful.
Another thing that spouse's do is that they won't believe what their spouse is saying. I don't mean consciously disbelieve, but they will automatically "dismiss" things. Like some women will inherently dismiss their husband's expressed frustration at the lack of sex in their marriage.(My wife has done this for years) They will dismiss the need because they don't feel it nearly as strongly (some do of course) It is helpful or at least eye-opening to hear a third party that they respect tell them that for men (in general), sex only once a month will make for a miserable marriage experience (FOR HIM.)
Anyway, that's my general feeling on generalities because, overall, in general, I find them helpful for the most part most of the time : )