Yep, as long as the chruch continues to behave this way the world will continue being able to define it. That is why there is no substitution for reading the bible yourself and being very selective with who you associate yourself with. The gift of wisdom has pulled me out of alot of crappy situations, people giving stupid advice or making stupid assertions etc.
The gift of wisdom left you when it came to handling your own marriage and wife though.
And even now, those with the gift of discernment are pleading with you to change your ways. To show you that your perceptions are incorrect, yet you shun God's people and relish in your own 'gift of wisdom'. Professing to be wise, they have become fools.