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What are husbands really wanting?
« on: Mon Nov 21, 2016 - 19:25:56 »
What do you husbands really want from your woman?  I guess I don't understand my husband.  I know everybody is different but there must be some common denominators here.   
What are they?  Please leave out the area of sex here.  Thankyou.

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Its really simple... They want you,  as you were, when you first thought he was special where he could do no wrong. Its called respect

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Give him that look and NOT THAT LOOK

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« Reply #3 on: Mon Nov 21, 2016 - 20:40:20 »
They want to be valued.
They want to know they "wow" us!
They want us to believe in them and to support them.
They want to know that when they come home, they are welcome and even looked forward to.
They want to be built up and esteemed.
They want a wife they can do fun things with; things they enjoy doing. I learned to play ping pong and I go camping and I watch action flicks with him. We laugh together!
They also want to have an active, joyful sex life with their bride. Our desire for them is very important.


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They want to be valued.
They want to know they "wow" us!
They want us to believe in them and to support them.
They want to know that when they come home, they are welcome and even looked forward to.
They want to be built up and esteemed.
They want a wife they can do fun things with; things they enjoy doing. I learned to play ping pong and I go camping and I watch action flicks with him. We laugh together!
They also want to have an active, joyful sex life with their bride. Our desire for them is very important.
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Re: What are husbands really wanting?
« Reply #5 on: Mon Nov 21, 2016 - 22:45:11 »
For myself it is the fullness of trust that I desire from my wife, I want to know that whatever trials we face that the same commitment, honour, and respect that we vowed to each other on our wedding day will remain in tact. Perhaps that is vital to me from bad past experiences, but my wife gives me those things and the times of joy in our lives seems to just come naturally without the heaviness that comes with even the tiniest bit of mistrust.

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« Reply #6 on: Tue Nov 22, 2016 - 00:30:51 »
Its really simple... They want you,  as you were, when you first thought he was special where he could do no wrong. Its called respect
 

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« Reply #7 on: Tue Nov 22, 2016 - 00:31:50 »
They want to be valued.
They want to know they "wow" us!
They want us to believe in them and to support them.
They want to know that when they come home, they are welcome and even looked forward to.
They want to be built up and esteemed.
They want a wife they can do fun things with; things they enjoy doing. I learned to play ping pong and I go camping and I watch action flicks with him. We laugh together!
They also want to have an active, joyful sex life with their bride. Our desire for them is very important.
 

Wise words. ::smile::

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« Reply #8 on: Tue Nov 22, 2016 - 04:34:28 »
What do you husbands really want from your woman?
It's very simple and God's word will tell you if you truly desire to know, with a heart to do JUST AS GOD COMMANDS.
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Ephesians 5:24-33~"Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
A success for a great marriage is in one word as far as the woman goes~"reverence" For man toward his wife can also be summed up in one word: LOVE their wives as their own body. I have been with the same woman since she JUST turned fifteen and I just turned 18. FIFTY short years and it seems as though it started yesterday! We have lived our life together based on those two absolute ingredients for an almost perfect marriage. Nowhere does it say to the woman to love her husband (even though she will if she is loved properly) yet it does command her to submit and reverence her lord.
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1st Peter 3:1-6~"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel. But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
Enough said~remember they want what God put into their nature as a man~reverence from their wife. EVERYTHING else will fall perfectly into place, trust God's word and see.
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Thank you.
Well, praise be to God, who has given to us his word for us to live our life in order to live it in the fullness as he desires us to do. Life is short, and to live in a marriage not based upon the word of God, is to live a miserable life, even though in many cases hidden from others! A great marriage is one of the few things in life that we can enjoy while living in the flesh.
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« Reply #9 on: Tue Nov 22, 2016 - 06:58:48 »
Its really simple... They want you,  as you were, when you first thought he was special where he could do no wrong. Its called respect

With all due respect, thinking someone can do no wrong is not a characteristic of respect. What you are describing is infatuation, which is common at the beginning of relationships. Rare is the woman who can maintain that dreamy, heady state of mind for decades. Reality sets in quickly for the woman - just like it does for the man. IMO, respect comes into play when you see your partner for his/her faults and weaknesses, but out of respect and love, choose not to harp on them or remind him/her of them, but love him/her in spite of those human weaknesses - which we all have. 

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« Reply #10 on: Tue Nov 22, 2016 - 08:14:39 »
They want a wife like mine.  ::smile::

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« Reply #11 on: Tue Nov 22, 2016 - 10:47:44 »
Treat him with respect.
DO NOT give him the silent treatment or expect him to read your mind.
Do some things he enjoys with him.
DO NOT treat him like he's your child.
Do not expect him to be like one of your girlfriends.
If you just want him to listen and not try to "fix it" tell him that before you tell him things.  And don't be surprised if he tries to fix it anyway.  He's a man who loves his wife, that's his first instinct.
And I know you said not to mention sex, but for most guys that is an important part of a marriage.  And that's the one need he can not legitimately fulfill anywhere else.

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« Reply #12 on: Tue Nov 22, 2016 - 14:16:24 »
Its really simple... They want you,  as you were, when you first thought he was special where he could do no wrong. Its called respect

With all due respect, thinking someone can do no wrong is not a characteristic of respect. What you are describing is infatuation, which is common at the beginning of relationships. Rare is the woman who can maintain that dreamy, heady state of mind for decades. Reality sets in quickly for the woman - just like it does for the man. IMO, respect comes into play when you see your partner for his/her faults and weaknesses, but out of respect and love, choose not to harp on them or remind him/her of them, but love him/her in spite of those human weaknesses - which we all have.
Well said and I agree.

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« Reply #13 on: Tue Nov 22, 2016 - 17:24:35 »
What do you husbands really want from your woman?
It's very simple and God's word will tell you if you truly desire to know, with a heart to do JUST AS GOD COMMANDS.
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Ephesians 5:24-33~"Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
A success for a great marriage is in one word as far as the woman goes~"reverence" For man toward his wife can also be summed up in one word: LOVE their wives as their own body. I have been with the same woman since she JUST turned fifteen and I just turned 18. FIFTY short years and it seems as though it started yesterday! We have lived our life together based on those two absolute ingredients for an almost perfect marriage. Nowhere does it say to the woman to love her husband (even though she will if she is loved properly) yet it does command her to submit and reverence her lord.
Quote
1st Peter 3:1-6~"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel. But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
Enough said~remember they want what God put into their nature as a man~reverence from their wife. EVERYTHING else will fall perfectly into place, trust God's word and see.
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Thank you.
Well, praise be to God, who has given to us his word for us to live our life in order to live it in the fullness as he desires us to do. Life is short, and to live in a marriage not based upon the word of God, is to live a miserable life, even though in many cases hidden from others! A great marriage is one of the few things in life that we can enjoy while living in the flesh.

I hope you're talking about the new nature lol.

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Re: What are husbands really wanting?
« Reply #15 on: Sat Nov 26, 2016 - 09:06:10 »
What do you husbands really want from your woman?  I guess I don't understand my husband.  I know everybody is different but there must be some common denominators here.   
What are they?  Please leave out the area of sex here.  Thankyou.

Friendship, with benefits.

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« Reply #16 on: Sat Nov 26, 2016 - 11:03:46 »
What do you husbands really want from your woman?  I guess I don't understand my husband.  I know everybody is different but there must be some common denominators here.   
What are they?  Please leave out the area of sex here.  Thankyou.

Friendship, with benefits.
 

Marriage is far more than merely friendship, although thats a good place to start dating. 

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« Reply #17 on: Sat Nov 26, 2016 - 12:18:17 »
What do you husbands really want from your woman?  I guess I don't understand my husband.  I know everybody is different but there must be some common denominators here.   
What are they?  Please leave out the area of sex here.  Thankyou.

Friendship, with benefits.
 

Marriage is far more than merely friendship, although thats a good place to start dating.

I would have to agree with littleoldme on this. If you look up synonyms for friendship, these terms are given - camaraderie, companionship, harmony, unity, etc. Add to that the "benefits" of sexual intimacy, and I think that's a nice way to describe a good marriage relationship. Why is this just a "good starting place?" A lot of people in sorry marriages would love to be able to define their marriages by these terms - but can't.

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« Reply #18 on: Sat Nov 26, 2016 - 12:46:33 »
Benefits like a cook, maid, etc.

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« Reply #19 on: Sat Nov 26, 2016 - 12:55:21 »
Benefits like a cook, maid, etc.

 ::whistle::

Yeah, looking at a wife like that gets you sleeping on the couch. Maybe we should ask littleoldme what type of benefits we're discussing.  ::giggle::

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« Reply #20 on: Sat Nov 26, 2016 - 13:12:58 »
Benefits like a cook, maid, etc.

 ::whistle::

Well, sure can easily tell which men are alone and which are not.

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« Reply #22 on: Sat Nov 26, 2016 - 17:28:07 »
What do you husbands really want from your woman?  I guess I don't understand my husband.  I know everybody is different but there must be some common denominators here.   
What are they?  Please leave out the area of sex here.  Thankyou.

Friendship, with benefits.
 

Marriage is far more than merely friendship, although thats a good place to start dating.

I would have to agree with littleoldme on this. If you look up synonyms for friendship, these terms are given - camaraderie, companionship, harmony, unity, etc. Add to that the "benefits" of sexual intimacy, and I think that's a nice way to describe a good marriage relationship. Why is this just a "good starting place?" A lot of people in sorry marriages would love to be able to define their marriages by these terms - but can't.

I cant compare what I have in my marriage to what I have in my friendships. its a covenant relationship that is more than mere friendship.

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« Reply #23 on: Wed Nov 30, 2016 - 03:56:17 »
What do you husbands really want from your woman?  I guess I don't understand my husband.  I know everybody is different but there must be some common denominators here.   
What are they?  Please leave out the area of sex here.  Thankyou.

Friendship, with benefits.
 

Marriage is far more than merely friendship, although thats a good place to start dating.

I would have to agree with littleoldme on this. If you look up synonyms for friendship, these terms are given - camaraderie, companionship, harmony, unity, etc. Add to that the "benefits" of sexual intimacy, and I think that's a nice way to describe a good marriage relationship. Why is this just a "good starting place?" A lot of people in sorry marriages would love to be able to define their marriages by these terms - but can't.

Really? Well, I've known lots of married people who weren't friends, and they didn't stay married for long.

Oops, replied to the wrong post, but you get the idea.
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« Reply #24 on: Wed Nov 30, 2016 - 04:10:31 »
What do you husbands really want from your woman?  I guess I don't understand my husband.  I know everybody is different but there must be some common denominators here.   
What are they?  Please leave out the area of sex here.  Thankyou.

Friendship, with benefits.
 

Marriage is far more than merely friendship, although thats a good place to start dating.

I would have to agree with littleoldme on this. If you look up synonyms for friendship, these terms are given - camaraderie, companionship, harmony, unity, etc. Add to that the "benefits" of sexual intimacy, and I think that's a nice way to describe a good marriage relationship. Why is this just a "good starting place?" A lot of people in sorry marriages would love to be able to define their marriages by these terms - but can't.

I cant compare what I have in my marriage to what I have in my friendships. its a covenant relationship that is more than mere friendship.

The question was "what do husbands want?", not "what do wives think their husbands want?"


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« Reply #25 on: Sat Dec 10, 2016 - 13:49:41 »
Well, that thread is deader than a doornail....

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« Reply #26 on: Sat Dec 10, 2016 - 16:20:39 »
What do you husbands really want from your woman?  I guess I don't understand my husband.  I know everybody is different but there must be some common denominators here.   
What are they?  Please leave out the area of sex here.  Thankyou.

Friendship, with benefits.
 

Marriage is far more than merely friendship, although thats a good place to start dating.

I would have to agree with littleoldme on this. If you look up synonyms for friendship, these terms are given - camaraderie, companionship, harmony, unity, etc. Add to that the "benefits" of sexual intimacy, and I think that's a nice way to describe a good marriage relationship. Why is this just a "good starting place?" A lot of people in sorry marriages would love to be able to define their marriages by these terms - but can't.

I cant compare what I have in my marriage to what I have in my friendships. its a covenant relationship that is more than mere friendship.

The question was "what do husbands want?", not "what do wives think their husbands want?"
   

When  we are close and communication is good and honest, we can be pretty sure what our husbands want.

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« Reply #27 on: Sat Dec 10, 2016 - 16:23:35 »
Well, that thread is deader than a doornail....
 

There were lots of good answers.

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« Reply #28 on: Sun Dec 11, 2016 - 06:07:50 »


The question was "what do husbands want?", not "what do wives think their husbands want?"


OK, I just did a quick google search and this article was one of the top hits. I don't know this guy from Adam, but here's his thoughts on what men want in marriage -




http://modernmarried.com/5-things-husbands-really-want-marriage/


I think his #1 want is quite interesting/telling.





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« Reply #29 on: Sun Dec 11, 2016 - 06:29:36 »
None of the above! Seems to be this man is selfish.

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« Reply #30 on: Sun Dec 11, 2016 - 06:40:36 »
None of the above! Seems to be this man is selfish.

I was thinking the same thing, RB!


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« Reply #31 on: Sun Dec 11, 2016 - 06:50:58 »
None of the above! Seems to be this man is selfish.

I was thinking the same thing, RB!

Would that #1 want not apply to women as well?

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« Reply #32 on: Sun Dec 11, 2016 - 07:08:36 »
None of the above! Seems to be this man is selfish.

I was thinking the same thing, RB!

Would that #1 want not apply to women as well?

As a woman, I want to feel wanted and needed. I don't want to feel wanted, but not needed.

To wish to feel wanted, but not needed, shows a certain degree of selfishness and immaturity.

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Re: What are husbands really wanting?
« Reply #33 on: Sun Dec 11, 2016 - 07:11:41 »
None of the above! Seems to be this man is selfish.

I was thinking the same thing, RB!

Would that #1 want not apply to women as well?

As a woman, I want to feel wanted and needed. I don't want to feel wanted, but not needed.

To wish to feel wanted, but not needed, shows a certain degree of selfishness and immaturity.

There is a lot of selfishness and immaturity around nowadays.

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Re: What are husbands really wanting?
« Reply #34 on: Sun Dec 11, 2016 - 07:15:19 »


There is a lot of selfishness and immaturity around nowadays.

That's the truth.

 

     
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