What are husbands really wanting?

[MeMyself]

None of the above! Seems to be this man is selfish.

I was thinking the same thing, RB!

Would that #1 want not apply to women as well?

As a woman, I want to feel wanted and needed. I don't want to feel wanted, but not needed.

I think that is what the author of the list was trying to convey, though admittedly not very well.

I know that my dh wants to feel like he isn't just an invisible co-partner on a long "honey-do" list of duties.  I don't either! One of my biggest fears is becoming invisible to him...I want to know that he still *sees* me as *his* woman, and he wants to know that I still see him as my handsome desirable *man*!

We both take comfort in knowing that we need each other as well.  I really think that to have either one (want and need) without the other would ring hollow.

[Brisingr]

Ask your husband what he wants. No really, ask him. And listen - things get really interesting when you do. Nobody can explain your husband to you except your husband.

[GODandMAN]

A King always wants to be treated as a King and a Queen always wants to be treated as a Queen. Sex can be nice if both King and Queen respect each other but it's not necessary if the King and Queen are treated in the way they desire.

I am a man and have been married three times with a few relationships in-between marriages and they all went bad. God taught me how to handle living with my third wife who I'm still with but it's a struggle sometimes when she demands constant respect when I'm not allowed to demand any respect from her without her getting angry and defending herself.

All it takes is one of you to show constant respect to your mate to make the marriage work but it can be very difficult to remain in a marriage like that. It's much easier if both of you are constantly respecting each other's desires in life.

[Winnie]

None of the above! Seems to be this man is selfish.

That is my husband exactely, except for the taking out on a date.

[Winnie]

The question was "what do husbands want?", not "what do wives think their husbands want?"

OK, I just did a quick google search and this article was one of the top hits. I don't know this guy from Adam, but here's his thoughts on what men want in marriage -




http://modernmarried.com/5-things-husbands-really-want-marriage/


I think his #1 want is quite interesting/telling.

This is what I wanted to quote.  The above won't let me modify.
That is him exactely except for the taking him out on a date.

[Winnie]

Ok, I have to delete this.

[MeMyself]

This is what I wanted to quote.  The above won't let me modify.
That is him exactely except for the taking him out on a date.

What do you think of the list?

[Artyop]

God want man to obey him, and husband want wife to obey him just as God want man to obey him so wife need to obey her husband.

Christ has died for us, and husband is like that to the wife he will die for the wife just as Christ died for us.

It's a great mystery, and that why wife need to obey there husband, and trust the husband as we trust God.

To the husband the wife flesh is conjoin, and is one with him what happen to his wife happen to him also the wife body is the same as the husband body so what your husband like about his body he also like about it on your body.  If you get hurt your husband also get hurt.  If he smack you he is also smacking himself.

Obey is all your husband really need if he say this do it right, and try not to mess up no matter the condition the more you impress your husband the better it is.

God said pray, and obey, and everything will be provided.

[Faithbuilders]

To be your hero! 

[Yahu]

What do you husbands really want from your woman?  I guess I don't understand my husband.  I know everybody is different but there must be some common denominators here.   
What are they?  Please leave out the area of sex here.  Thankyou.

It is simple, men want to be honored.  They could care less if a woman claims all day long to love them but then does not honor them.

Men and women are wired differently.  Women want to be loved and tend to think if they love their husband, that is what he wants.  It is easy for a man to love a wife that honors him but conversely it is extremely hard to love a woman that continually dishonors him.  It is pure hell for a man to live with a contentious woman.

Scripture commands us to behave towards our spouse exactly as needed.  Women want to be loved so husbands are commanded to love their wife.  Husbands want to be honored and deferred to so scripture commands a wife to honor and submit to her husband.

I use to do marriage counseling for both christian and non-believer couples.  I suggested they try the following method in their marriage for a peaceful relationship.  The wife allowed the husband to make all decisions without arguing IF he promised to make all his decisions based on his love for his wife.  Of course it only works if BOTH spouses fulfill their required role.  I have had several children named after me because of that counseling.  It turned marriages of constant conflict and fighting into peaceful loving relationships.

[mommydi]

It is simple, men want to be honored. 

I'm not a man, but this sounds right.

I use to do marriage counseling for both christian and non-believer couples.

You're kidding. Professionally or off the cuff?

I suggested they try the following method in their marriage for a peaceful relationship...

Punishing a wife as needed? You still haven't answered my question. You said husbands have the right to punish their wives, but you have yet to give me book, chapter, and verse for that along with the list of authorized punishments.

I have had several children named after me because of that counseling.

A bunch of little yahoos running around because of you? 

[1galwaygirl]

Loyalty - this includes fidelity, but also a loyal friend and protector.

[4WD]

It is simple, men want to be honored.  They could care less if a woman claims all day long to love them but then does not honor them.

Men and women are wired differently.  Women want to be loved and tend to think if they love their husband, that is what he wants.  It is easy for a man to love a wife that honors him but conversely it is extremely hard to love a woman that continually dishonors him.  It is pure hell for a man to live with a contentious woman.

Scripture commands us to behave towards our spouse exactly as needed.  Women want to be loved so husbands are commanded to love their wife.  Husbands want to be honored and deferred to so scripture commands a wife to honor and submit to her husband.

I use to do marriage counseling for both christian and non-believer couples.  I suggested they try the following method in their marriage for a peaceful relationship.  The wife allowed the husband to make all decisions without arguing IF he promised to make all his decisions based on his love for his wife.  Of course it only works if BOTH spouses fulfill their required role.  I have had several children named after me because of that counseling.  It turned marriages of constant conflict and fighting into peaceful loving relationships.

I have been married to the same beautiful lady for 57 years. It has had its ups and down but for the most part, by far the most part, it has been a wonderful 57 years.   If I had heard and followed your advice I doubt that it would have lasted 7, let alone 57. 

Husbands and wives need to talk, discuss and come to agreement on the important issues.  The days of beating, berating, cajoling a wife into submission of anything should have been long ago put by the wayside.

[Yahu]

I have been married to the same beautiful lady for 57 years. It has had its ups and down but for the most part, by far the most part, it has been a wonderful 57 years.   If I had heard and followed your advice I doubt that it would have lasted 7, let alone 57. 

Husbands and wives need to talk, discuss and come to agreement on the important issues.  The days of beating, berating, cajoling a wife into submission of anything should have been long ago put by the wayside.

Why do you assume abuse is needed to get a wife to obey scripture?  My wife's submission was part of our wedding vows from the start.  I explained the biblical roles as presented in scripture during our courtship and were covered by Bill Gothard seminar I attended as a teen.  We would discuss issues but I had the right to make the final decisions.  No beatings or cajoling required!

[4WD]

Why do you assume abuse is needed to get a wife to obey scripture?

I don't.

[chosenone]

Why do you assume abuse is needed to get a wife to obey scripture?  My wife's submission was part of our wedding vows from the start.  I explained the biblical roles as presented in scripture during our courtship and were covered by Bill Gothard seminar I attended as a teen.  We would discuss issues but I had the right to make the final decisions.  No beatings or cajoling required!

You still havent answered our question.

[MeMyself]

Why do you assume abuse is needed to get a wife to obey scripture? 

Id like to know why you are only concerned with the wife obeying scripture...

[Texas Conservative]

Sandwiches.  It always goes back to sandwiches.

[Alan]

I could go for a sammich.

RELLA!!!