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When is it over?
« on: Thu Aug 25, 2016 - 14:47:51 »
My husband and I have been separated for almost 2 years. I live in my own apartment. We tried 2 different christian counselors and are not closer to reconciliation today then we were two years ago. As a Christian I am having a hard time with this. We are not living as a married couple and for all intense purposes are living separate lives. We do have children so we do talk but its not about us, just the kids. He hasn't brought up divorce and he seems content with how things are. I can't get myself to even talk about divorce so we are just stagnant.

As a Christian, am I really still married (Not in the court's eyes but in Christ) and if I dated would that be considered an affair? I want to do what's right in God'd eyes but despite all of my attempts we just aren't going anywhere. I am terribly afraid to do the wrong thing but after two years I feel so alone and wonder if it is time to move on.

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Re: When is it over?
« Reply #1 on: Thu Aug 25, 2016 - 15:18:58 »
Why have you separated? 


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Re: When is it over?
« Reply #2 on: Thu Aug 25, 2016 - 15:29:25 »
I think you know what is right, you just want someone to tell you that doing something wrong is also right.

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Re: When is it over?
« Reply #3 on: Thu Aug 25, 2016 - 17:04:31 »
Why are you living apart?Who left who and why?
Yes you are still married, you both need to do something about this stagnation.
Have you both been to see your pastor about this? If so what did he say? 

BTW its not dating that is an affair, its having sex that is an affair. However until you have sorted out the marriage don't think about someone else. If he abandoned you and refuses to return, then you are free to end the marriage, but you must do something.

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Re: When is it over?
« Reply #4 on: Tue Aug 30, 2016 - 19:01:11 »
My husband and I have been separated for almost 2 years. I live in my own apartment. We tried 2 different christian counselors and are not closer to reconciliation today then we were two years ago. As a Christian I am having a hard time with this. We are not living as a married couple and for all intense purposes are living separate lives. We do have children so we do talk but its not about us, just the kids. He hasn't brought up divorce and he seems content with how things are. I can't get myself to even talk about divorce so we are just stagnant.

As a Christian, am I really still married (Not in the court's eyes but in Christ) and if I dated would that be considered an affair? I want to do what's right in God'd eyes but despite all of my attempts we just aren't going anywhere. I am terribly afraid to do the wrong thing but after two years I feel so alone and wonder if it is time to move on.

May I suggest biblical counselor?  This is different from Christian counseling.

Find one here:

https://biblicalcounseling.com/counselors/

As long as both of you are willing to try and work it out it can be "fixed".

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Re: When is it over?
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Re: When is it over?
« Reply #5 on: Tue Aug 30, 2016 - 20:53:31 »
Why are you living apart?Who left who and why?
Yes you are still married, you both need to do something about this stagnation.
Have you both been to see your pastor about this? If so what did he say? 

BTW its not dating that is an affair, its having sex that is an affair. However until you have sorted out the marriage don't think about someone else. If he abandoned you and refuses to return, then you are free to end the marriage, but you must do something.

Dating while being married is unfaithfulness.