who has more affairs, men or women?.

[chosenone]

I was listening to a brilliant sermon series recently on the song of songs and marriage etc, and apparently the stastics show that in  a marriage where both the man and women go out to work, there are now actually slightly more women having affairs than men. 51% to 49%.So the old picture of the man having sex with his secretary while his wife sits at home is gone.

 I actually know personally 4 women who have had affairs with men at work(two of them Christian) in my own family and husbands family alone, but the husbands were all faithful to them.  All of the marriages ended in divorce. Also on another forum I go on, there are several men writing in saying that their wives are leaving them for another man, so it is sadly getting more and more common for women to do this. Could this be part of the reason why divorce stastics are so high now?.

[UtahDad]

It boils down to a total lack of morals, ethics, faithfulness and loyalty in the majority of the population, christian or unsaved, anymore.  It really seems to be something that just brings giggles and grins when it is brought up in a conversation, like people think it is ok and just not very serious.  I've been thru it before and I have heard every excuse in the book in trying to justify that behavior.  It's a sad situation for anyone to be in and discouraging at the same time.

[ChristianTurtle]

I read a statistic somewhere that around 70% of divorces today are initiated by the wife.

I really think it's equal in both sexes for cheating though. I also believe that men really help contribute to getting the woman to stray in some cases. All the male sweet talkers prey on the woman who mentally need a boost in their ego and like any sin sometimes the temptation is too strong. Maybe, I'm wrong though? Any thoughts?

It's also our downfall in morals in our society today. Look at the shows on TV (Desperate Housewives)? Sadly, the children see this stuff and view it as acceptable.

[lightshineon]

 If it is a man having an affair with another woman, then I guess the ratio, would be one to one, or, fifty-fifty. equal amounts.

[chosenone]

If it is a man having an affair with another woman, then I guess the ratio, would be one to one, or, fifty-fifty. equal amounts.

 Yes but one married spouse can have an affair with a single person. Its not always one married person to another married person. Also some people have several affairs with different people.It always amazes me that some people think nothing of having sex with another persons husband or wife.

[chosenone]

I read a statistic somewhere that around 70% of divorces today are initiated by the wife.

I really think it's equal in both sexes for cheating though. I also believe that men really help contribute to getting the woman to stray in some cases. All the male sweet talkers prey on the woman who mentally need a boost in their ego and like any sin sometimes the temptation is too strong. Maybe, I'm wrong though? Any thoughts?

It's also our downfall in morals in our society today. Look at the shows on TV (Desperate Housewives)? Sadly, the children see this stuff and view it as acceptable.

 

yes but equally there are a of women around preying on married men. I am sure many of us know situations where that has happened. No married person is helpless to resist and this is why boundaries are so important in marriage.
It is so sad that something so awful and destructive seems to be so accepted these days.Where are peoples morals? Even among Christians it is so common today.

[chosenone]

It boils down to a total lack of morals, ethics, faithfulness and loyalty in the majority of the population, christian or unsaved, anymore.  It really seems to be something that just brings giggles and grins when it is brought up in a conversation, like people think it is ok and just not very serious.  I've been thru it before and I have heard every excuse in the book in trying to justify that behavior.  It's a sad situation for anyone to be in and discouraging at the same time.

 

yes I agree. I never cease to be amazed at the deplorable behaviour that people will try to justify. of course it wont wash with God.

[Thankfulldad]

The question should be...who needs God more; men or women?

The answer; both...the world makes it all about us, what makes us happy, what makes our feelings and so on.  We are all so self-centered...we are blinded to "who" we really need and who it is really all about.  I cannot stess this enough...it is all Him.  Without Him in our life in every way, every day...we will fail

[chosenone]

The question should be...who needs God more; men or women?

The answer; both...the world makes it all about us, what makes us happy, what makes our feelings and so on.  We are all so self-centered...we are blinded to "who" we really need and who it is really all about.  I cannot stess this enough...it is all Him.  Without Him in our life in every way, every day...we will fail

 However I have known mature Christians who seemed to know God very well who have done this (including my husband ex wife) and many pastors. I guess Satan loves to destroy marriages, especially Christian ones.

[Thankfulldad]

I guess Satan loves to destroy marriages, especially Christian ones.

Yes he does

No one knows each instance except God...and God will work His purpose through tragedy like this for those who trust in Him. 

[son of God]

It takes two to tango, right?  So it would seem that just as many women are having adulterous relationships as men are, unless there is a marked difference between the amount of homosexual men and women.  The number of affairs can easily be higher for one gender than the other, but the number of each gender committing adultery is the same, or extremely close, else the percentage of men having affairs with other men is significantly higher than it is for women with women.

Aslo, one study I read stated that married men are far more likely to be honest about their sexual activity than married women are, especially those of the religious establishment, so do to the propensity for this, they wondered if it was not only equal, but possibly even the other way around.

I guess that data is like a bikini: what it reveals is interesting, but what it hides is vital.

[phoebe]

No one mentioned same gender affairs... which are on the rise in previously unseen numbers.

What does it all matter, anyway?  That's just trying to place biased blame.  Unfaithful is unfaithful, and broken vows are broken vows, regardless of the semantics.

"...Satan loves to destroy marriages..."  is the most important statement on this entire thread.  And we seem to be more than willing to cooperate with him.  If we would invest as much in the marriage as we do in the wedding, if we married for love rather than sex, if we treated our spouse with respect and honor, marriages would be lasting.

[son of God]

exactly, Pheobe.

[Thankfulldad]

If we would invest as much in the marriage as we do in the wedding, if we married for love rather than sex, if we treated our spouse with respect and honor, marriages would be lasting.

Amen...a big amen to that; and we can to all these things through Him who gives us strength!

[JohnDB]

Preying upon the married or single is easy...

Most fall for very little.

Women: a little flattery on their desirablility, value, and attractiveness...and usually they melt

Men: A little respect for their thoughts and views and they will melt in a heartbeat.

Sexual attraction usually has very little to do with any affair. Hearts that are weary and worn from a real basic desire on either side by their spouses provide fertile ground for this sort of thing.