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Why I think marriages fail we're fighting the wrong enemy.
« on: Fri Feb 17, 2017 - 23:40:44 »
First off I'm going off the limb here and what you are about to read goes against the grain of conventional counseling. The devil wants your marriage dead in it's track. The bible says he is a roaring lion but nowdays married folks see him little to no threat like a purring kitten. The bible says we don't fight against flesh and blood but against satan's army. So what does that mean? Say for instance. a married couple has turmiol in marriage and one spouse starts to think "is this worth it?" or whatevr it may be fill in the blank. Then a couple starts to drift apart eventually considering divorce. Whatever your circumstances might be all along we're fighting our flesh and blood "spouse" when the real enemy is the devil. Your spouse is just a vessel to carry out his plot to destroy you your spouse and your marriage.

Why marriage counseling don't work? Or let's say most of the time? It focuses on fixing us not eradicating the enemy. The enemy will be there and will always be there and will never leave until you cast the demonic apirit out. Some may say well I'm a christian and I don't believe that that's just way to extreme. Well if you're thinking that and going to church and reading the bible and just brushing off the very thing the bible WARNS us about a roaring lion ready to attack.

If you really nead good marital advice pray over your marriage and command the spirit to leave. If you have hateded toward your spouse command it to leave. If you think it's no use and you thinking about divorce tell the devil your no longer welcome get out. The devil hates your marriage you got to fight him with prayer.

The'res not going to be a self help book, not a counselor, a close friend, a trusted pastor an elder of the church that will help your marriage. Advice and counseling is jusr a feel good band-aid moment that just leave the marriage just on par.

I truely beleieve if beleivers who are experiencing marraige problems and the enemy is taking away the joy and the stability in the marraige stop blaming your spouse. Take aim at the enemy and fight him tell him to leave. The enemy wins when we blame our spouse.

The enemy is good at planting seeds of dought in your marriage. "We're not compatible". "He/ she done such and such". "Ilubinilwu". "I married the wrong one". "If i only married so and so".

I encourage all who is reading this and experiencing marriage difficulties get together with your spouse and pray ferverntly to cast out the demonic forces in your marriage. Tell it to leave in Jesus name! 
You will never win no matter what no matter how much counseling is done or what ever is your best motives are.

The bible tells us to put on the full armor of God to fight against the devil. It didn't say put a t-shirt on and wish the best of luck duking it out with your spouse. Stop the insanity of thinking your spouse is the reason. Oh you don't know my spouse he/ she done such and such. Well if thats the case you underestimate the enemy.

Well I believe the enemy is not behind ever bush bla bla bla. Yeah keep believing that cause that is his weapon to decieve you even more and reap more havic in your life. Most christians just brush off this idea that there really isn't so much of a demonic battle going on. Well take a look around what's going on in this world. ISIS is beheading people every day,  gun violence all around th US, the church has compromised on gay marriage, christianity is getting mocked at on the news, the divorce rate ia higher the the marraige rate, drugs, etc etc. I seriously dought all this occur cause they just misunderstood or there some scientific explanation.

The devil and his army are destroying marriages and yet the best we can say to the married "just try harder". This is not working the church has failed us, counseling has failed us,  self help books not helping either. We can easily google something with todays technology to to fix something we can never fix on our own. All this knowlege we have today with technology we should have this marriage thang figured out. But guess what statistics show we are divorcing at even a larger rate than we was 5 years ago thanks to soxial media. Now we can ignore our spouse and flip thru facebook hours on end complaing about how hopeless our marrriage is. Reseach shows now facebook is causing marital discord. Anyrhing the enemy can use he will do it.

The whole reason I'm writing this is to change people's mindset. Fight the enemy not your spouse. If something ia wrong in your marraige the devil is behind it. After reading forums about marraige I'm sick and tired of people just giving up hope. Not once in any forums I visited and I surf quit a few does it mention the devil and hia tactics. It's just same ole put your foot down and try harder mentality that helps no one and people just end up divorce.

Good day everyone fight the good fight of faith. Put on the armor of God let's kick the devil out of marraiges. We need to pray hard and cast him out.

May this encourage all marraige couples you can win God is on your side.

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Re: Why I think marriages fail we're fighting the wrong enemy.
« Reply #1 on: Sat Feb 18, 2017 - 04:34:42 »
I appreciate your noble concern for the sanctity of marriage. I've been one of the fortunate ones & have had a good marriage. An absolutely wonderful wife. Stunningly beautiful through & through. A good godly woman. "The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her" - Proverbs 31:11a, so very true. "She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:12, so true as well.

I think these verses are keys. A man needs to be able to have full confidence in his wife & a woman needs a man who inspires her to goodness. Never harming the other. Both trusting each other completely. God has to be the center of it. Just as we grow in grace & love with our walk with Him, we should also grow in grace & love for each other. And in this I have a found a deeper component, let's call it a spiritual intimacy. One that has increased immensely over the decades. I love her more now than than I could have ever imagined when we first started out & I loved her greatly then.


So you are absolutely right when you say "kick the devil out of marriages". That begins not with the intimacy between each other, but with each others intimacy with our Savior. The advice I give young people, say to a young man; "If you want a good godly woman become a good godly man" & the reverse for a young lady. Don't settle for less, out of yourselves or your choice of a spouse.


Young folks have it so much more difficult now than older folks did because our cultural expectations are so much more wicked now than it was in older folks youth. My heart goes out to them. I wish things were not the way they are now for their sake.


Thank you for posting your desire & concern for the blessing of godly loving marriage for others
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Re: Why I think marriages fail we're fighting the wrong enemy.
« Reply #2 on: Sat Feb 18, 2017 - 06:47:21 »
Sometimes a spouse will choose their own wicked desires over the marriage.

Telling the devil to go away will not work in this case.

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« Reply #3 on: Sat Feb 18, 2017 - 07:42:12 »
From the start, my wife and I put God at the center of our marriage.  All I can say is that He has truly blessed us because our marriage has been nothing short of bliss for 20 years now. 

We have always understood Satan's role in the world but instead of concentrating on that, we put God first.

I wish all people could find the same kind of love a happiness that God has given me and my wife. 

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« Reply #4 on: Sat Feb 18, 2017 - 09:40:57 »
When a spouse chooses to sin and disobey God, its hard to know how much of that is their own sinful nature and desires, and how much the influence of satan. Whatever satan's influence, we still have a choice to sin or not.   As God says, he will always give us a way out of temptation.

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Re: Why I think marriages fail we're fighting the wrong enemy.
« Reply #5 on: Sun Feb 19, 2017 - 22:28:11 »
Chosenone I understand your logic it's kinda saying what comes first the horse or the carriage or vise-versa. I juat can't brush off what's going on with the divorce rate with the "well he or she just gave in to temptation". That's just mudding the water to my message.
Coinseling don't work, books don't work, seminars don't work all off yoir best efforts to work. Something is destroying marriages at an alarming rate the best the church can say "they just were week and gave in to sin".
Sure we got a job to do in the sin department the chuchez advice now days is try not to sin. Churches pretty much gaven up on teaching the enemy is oit to destroy you, your marriage, your life anything he wants to. How dare the church preach anything against the destruction of the enemy! We need to cast out demonic forces at work as a body of christ. He is real alive and at work to seek kill and destroy. This is the message I'm presenting. I take this 100 percent literalitly. He is very cunning, smart, can outwit the even most elect. Look how many pastors are ended up divorce. Yes you are correct we have pur job to do in the sin department but trying harder doesn't cut it.
My message if your marriage is in turmiol you have an enemy there is a presence he ain't going to leave until you command it to leave.sure both parties may need to do this but my presentation in all this is awareness.
Churches been to soft on this I think thats why the divorce rate ain't much difference.
Now I'm not saying for married folks to act like a bunch of religious nutz and start yelling and screaming in their house or do some kind of exorcism. Jusy a powerful prayer to break chains that causes divison in marraige.
Sorry if this offends christians now days. Were to busy putting on a t-shirt and treating the enemy like the tooth fairy. I hope this makes sense not here to upset ppl just my pov.

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« Reply #6 on: Sun Feb 19, 2017 - 22:36:20 »
Chosenone I understand your logic it's kinda saying what comes first the horse or the carriage or vise-versa. I juat can't brush off what's going on with the divorce rate with the "well he or she just gave in to temptation". That's just mudding the water to my message.
Coinseling don't work, books don't work, seminars don't work all off yoir best efforts to work. Something is destroying marriages at an alarming rate the best the church can say "they just were week and gave in to sin".
Sure we got a job to do in the sin department the chuchez advice now days is try not to sin. Churches pretty much gaven up on teaching the enemy is oit to destroy you, your marriage, your life anything he wants to. How dare the church preach anything against the destruction of the enemy! We need to cast out demonic forces at work as a body of christ. He is real alive and at work to seek kill and destroy. This is the message I'm presenting. I take this 100 percent literalitly. He is very cunning, smart, can outwit the even most elect. Look how many pastors are ended up divorce. Yes you are correct we have pur job to do in the sin department but trying harder doesn't cut it.
My message if your marriage is in turmiol you have an enemy there is a presence he ain't going to leave until you command it to leave.sure both parties may need to do this but my presentation in all this is awareness.
Churches been to soft on this I think thats why the divorce rate ain't much difference.
Now I'm not saying for married folks to act like a bunch of religious nutz and start yelling and screaming in their house or do some kind of exorcism. Jusy a powerful prayer to break chains that causes divison in marraige.
Sorry if this offends christians now days. Were to busy putting on a t-shirt and treating the enemy like the tooth fairy. I hope this makes sense not here to upset ppl just my pov.

I think that many Christians are aware that the enemy hates godly marriage, especially Christian marriage, and that its important to pray for protection for our marriages, but we also cant take away from the fact that we chose to sin and we are responsible for what we do or don't do. We cant say, well I had no choice satan made me do it. He may tempt us, but we choose what to do with that temptation.
 
Its also important that we all, especially pastors, have sensible boundaries when it comes to interacting with the opposite sex, for example. So many marriages have ended due to not having these boundaries in place.
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