I have been married to a christian woman for 6 yrs now. I grew up as a luthern and did not realy take my faith seriously. My wife is wonderful christian and i love her unconditonly. We have 2 wonderful boys 5 and 3. We have had some rough going in our marriage been to couseling together, as well as independently. I know i have not been easy to get along with, and began to lie to her when things got tough financialy thinking i was protecting her from the stress, and i guess trying not to let her see me as failure. As you ccan imagine this was not a good idea and i ended up in a ruthless cycle of tangled webs. needles to say her christian counselor told her i have been manipulating her and she needs to take the kids and leave. This was the most painful thing i have ever had to deal with. I am so angery with myself for allowing this to go on, it was not my intention. I have been working on myself so hard trying to become the man i want and need to be, Honest, stable, and committing myself to god. She now refuses to talk to me about anything outside our children. She says it because all i want to do is manipulate her into working on our marriage. Well thats not what im trying to do, yes i want her to work on our marriage, however i am not trying to manippulate her. Not to mention in the time she has been gone she has had relations with another married man, that really killed me. I find myself blaming this counselor for guiding her to leave instead of callling me out on what she said i was doing. All i want is my family back, any advice would be appreciated.