no where in the bible does it say wives love your husbands. Its not there.
No sir, this is a falsehood which has been promulgated by satan as one of his counterfeit "truths" which is, in reality, a complete blasphemy.
Titus 2: 1-5 (KJV)
But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise
, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands
, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
So, yes, it IS THERE. Not only is it here, but the Lord Jesus Christ said that one of the two summarial statements of "the law" was that we are to "love our neighbor as ourself". It is quite obvious to me from this statement alone that wives are indeed to love their husbands.
The Lord Jesus Christ also instructed us in Matthew 7:12 to "do unto others as we would have them do unto us". If a wife wants to be loved by her husband, she should therefore love her husband.
I understand that she is having a hard time and that if she wants to move back into our apartment, I would move out and she could be there.
But she says that she is not ready emotionally for that yet, which I didn't really get.
But I told her that, as her husband I know that its my responsibility to help her if she will let me, whether it be to find someplace safe for her to stay or to pay for her hotel stay until she is ready to come back home.
I will be here waiting and praying until she feels that she is ready to come back home.
Ok. I want you to "get" something. You are being a complete "wuss". There is nothing in this world less attractive to a woman than a "wuss".
What your wife REALLY wants from you is for you to STAND UP TO HER. Tell her that you will not accept some philandering, two-timing LIAR for your wife. You only want, and you will only accept, a woman who is ready to live up to her promise to you and to God. That you would rather have no wife than the one she is being, and, that's exactly what you are going to have, no wife at all, unless she says goodbye forever to this turkey TODAY and moves out on her own and gets her act together. And, she got herself into this mess, she can get herself out. You are not going to pay for her sin. Go talk to your Saviour. I'm not Him.
When she has been completely on her own with NO CONTACT to the wife-stealing bozo for about 6 months, you and her can then BEGIN to talk about rebuilding your marriage. IF, you are still available and haven't found a promise-keeping woman by then.
Try James Dobson's "Love Must be Tough". It's one of the most biblically-sound, best treatises on marital infidelity to be found.