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« Reply #15 on: June 11, 2009, 02:24:14 PM »

Because if he found out for some unknown reason, he would be angry for me not mentioning it. Look he is a very soft spoken man, very gentel, but somethings just make him mad. Strange things. Confused
Sounds like he has a jealousy issue or something. That needs to change. Its ok to be upset if our spouse is DOING something wrong, but NOT just because some pick up artist made a move and they deflected it as your OP clearly seems to present.
My wife has younger guys trying to talk to her all the time. Ive even caught a teenage kid who didnt realize how old she was trying to get her attention. Honestly I just thought it was funny because I know my wife. If she'd have realized what the kid was up to shed have probably said something rude to him.

Unless YOU have done something against your marriage your husband has NO business being upset with you REGARDLESS of how other men behave.
Based on your OP I wouldnt think twice if that had happened with my wife and she handled it as you did.
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I will say, I never gave any indication I was interested.
Unless that was a lie you did no wrong and certainly dont need to CAUSE any undue friction in your marriage. Let it go and forget about it.
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« Reply #16 on: June 11, 2009, 02:29:26 PM »

I would tell him... in this day you cannot be too careful... you shop there, you do not want to go through life just dismissing something like this to find out later he may be following you.  Tell you husband.  Don't go shopping there alone for a while.  Be safe

You know your husband... you don't know this guy. I'd rather tell my husband and have him go with me a few times rather than dismiss it and go back to shop and have the man there and there be some uncomfortable moment when you wish you had told your husband.  
Kensington has a very valid point.
My own view was simply based on the idea that the OP did nothing wrong so there was nothing to tell, but safety is another matter.
If you feel unsafe or anything, then absolutely say something to your husband. That hadnt crossed my mind that that might be the case.
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« Reply #17 on: June 11, 2009, 02:38:28 PM »

My wife and I have hit a point in our lives after 24 years of marriage that we'd be on the cell phone to tell immediately out of the shock of getting hit on.

Yep... I'd be calling my husband ASAP.  No doubt about it.  I don't go too many places alone... I have a son with me all the time... but when I do... I stay very aware of my surroundings. 
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« Reply #18 on: June 11, 2009, 02:47:19 PM »

 Guy;s an update, I took my brother to the local pharmacy,  just now, a few minutes ago, my brother he not have a car. This is a completely different store. I was looking at deodorants, on sale ( MY exciting life), and The same man hits me on the arm and said " Are you following me?" He laughed tried to talk, I said something and walked away. How strange it, is about the same time yesterday, and the store yesterday is across town form the one today. What a weird coincidence. Look I have never done anything in my marriage, my husband does not have a jealousy problem, just odd stuff, will make him upset. He is a different mindset. My husband does not keep tabs on me, or bizarre behavior like that. I said it before, even in college, when Once upon a time I was actually considered hot, many moons ago. I was never boy crazy, I was very aloof, in someways. It was always a man's charisma, personality and such. Like I said, surprised I got hit on these days myself (LOL).
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« Reply #19 on: June 11, 2009, 02:49:17 PM »

My wife and I have hit a point in our lives after 24 years of marriage that we'd be on the cell phone to tell immediately out of the shock of getting hit on.



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« Reply #20 on: June 11, 2009, 03:05:14 PM »

My wife and I have hit a point in our lives after 24 years of marriage that we'd be on the cell phone to tell immediately out of the shock of getting hit on.



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I might be hit on by a little old lady!       

Just so lightshineon won't accuse me, it wasn't me!

 Not that I  am used to it on a daily basis either.  Did you read my post above update though. How weird was that? Confused
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« Reply #21 on: June 11, 2009, 03:54:49 PM »

I cant see that this is a safety issue. We can get paranoid about these things. He is just a man who chatted to you, whats the big deal? I have a dog and when I walk him, I chat to men and women all the time, and they stop and chat to me. Also arent we supposed to trust God to protect us? Leave it in Gods hands and dont worry about it. The poor man probably hasnt given it another thought,and he is sort of being possibly portrated by some as being some sort of stalker!!!
I think we are all getting paraniod in this day and age, suspecting all sorts of people of doing all sorts of things that they arent doing.
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« Reply #22 on: June 11, 2009, 04:46:09 PM »

I cant see that this is a safety issue. We can get paranoid about these things. He is just a man who chatted to you, whats the big deal? I have a dog and when I walk him, I chat to men and women all the time, and they stop and chat to me. Also arent we supposed to trust God to protect us? Leave it in Gods hands and dont worry about it. The poor man probably hasnt given it another thought,and he is sort of being possibly portrated by some as being some sort of stalker!!!
I think we are all getting paraniod in this day and age, suspecting all sorts of people of doing all sorts of things that they arent doing.

 Not paranoid, just probably a coincidence, he showed up at a different store, today an found me. Strange this just happen, oh well, not going to give it another thought, thanks for great advice.
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« Reply #23 on: June 11, 2009, 09:49:46 PM »

I cant see that this is a safety issue. We can get paranoid about these things. He is just a man who chatted to you, whats the big deal? I have a dog and when I walk him, I chat to men and women all the time, and they stop and chat to me. Also aren't we supposed to trust God to protect us? Leave it in Gods hands and don't worry about it. The poor man probably hasn't given it another thought,and he is sort of being possibly portrated by some as being some sort of stalker!!!
I think we are all getting paranoid in this day and age, suspecting all sorts of people of doing all sorts of things that they aren't doing.

 Not paranoid, just probably a coincidence, he showed up at a different store, today an found me. Strange this just happen, oh well, not going to give it another thought, thanks for great advice.

  Lightshoneon. I wasn't implying that you were being paranoid but that maybe one or two replies were? I guess that if he hadn't spoken to you the first time you wouldn't have even noticed him again.
Obviously if he starts to appear at EVERY place that you go then you will have to think again.

I may well have told my husband the first time, but not for safety's sake, just because he probably would have thought it was quite amusing,(as I would also) and he NEVER gets mad about ANYTHING. (He is a very laid back Australian).

 Now if a lady chatted HiM up, I wouldn't have known whether to be mad or amused. I may have been a little mad as I haven't a lot of time for people who hit on others peoples spouses.(after all you did tell him you were married). 
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« Reply #24 on: June 12, 2009, 09:40:49 AM »

I cant see that this is a safety issue. We can get paranoid about these things. He is just a man who chatted to you, whats the big deal? I have a dog and when I walk him, I chat to men and women all the time, and they stop and chat to me. Also aren't we supposed to trust God to protect us? Leave it in Gods hands and don't worry about it. The poor man probably hasn't given it another thought,and he is sort of being possibly portrated by some as being some sort of stalker!!!
I think we are all getting paranoid in this day and age, suspecting all sorts of people of doing all sorts of things that they aren't doing.

 Not paranoid, just probably a coincidence, he showed up at a different store, today an found me. Strange this just happen, oh well, not going to give it another thought, thanks for great advice.

  Lightshoneon. I wasn't implying that you were being paranoid but that maybe one or two replies were? I guess that if he hadn't spoken to you the first time you wouldn't have even noticed him again.
Obviously if he starts to appear at EVERY place that you go then you will have to think again.

I may well have told my husband the first time, but not for safety's sake, just because he probably would have thought it was quite amusing,(as I would also) and he NEVER gets mad about ANYTHING. (He is a very laid back Australian).

 Now if a lady chatted HiM up, I wouldn't have known whether to be mad or amused. I may have been a little mad as I haven't a lot of time for people who hit on others peoples spouses.(after all you did tell him you were married). 


 Thanks Chosenone, I guess my car gets hit on more than I do (LOL) seriously. I was at work one night (late), and walked out, and some foreign guy ( Italian) I think, just a kid, was standing next to my car. It was really late like 11pm. I said " Hi", he said with a foreign accent " I was just admiring the automobile.", it happens alot, because it is an unusually beautiful car. So, it is sad but my my car, gets more attention, than the driver (LOL). My husband is really laid back, reserved man. Strange things make him upset. I say strange, because, it is not your usual things and is very rare. Once our very, very, young former pastor, ask me to go to wal-mart, the next day, and match a paint chip. I was actually very busy, but said I would. I have elderly sick parents, mentally ill brother, and SIL, work and homeschool. I was flattered, because I love to paint, just anything walls, bookcases, fences. My husband, said to me in front of pastor " Don't you have, things to do tomorrow." I was kind of confused. In the car he told me that, it was a man thing. That he ( my husband), would never ask the pastors wife to do something, out of the way Confused He said trust me it is a male thing.

 Once a while back, in former church their was an old man, really old. He made moves even on teenage girls ( so sick) he is married and his wife even says he does. I was wearing a white dress, and the old man kept commenting on how good I looked in this plain, very decent white dress, about the fifth time commenting to my husband, my husband said " Yes Elmo, she is wearing a white dress.' that was seven years ago. I cannot think of anything he has really been jealous of but, those things, and so no he is not overly jealous, just weird (LOL) I love him very much.
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« Reply #25 on: June 12, 2009, 10:34:16 AM »

Actually (and this isn't a hit)  but, if that is you in the little picture.... your husband is a lucky man....
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« Reply #26 on: June 12, 2009, 11:17:36 AM »

Lightshineon, if I may ask, how large of a community do you live in?

I'm in a fairly large metro area but the suburb I live in the stores (other than big box retail out by the interstate) serve about 20,000 people so I bump into people I know all the time.

Never hurts to be cautious but if you are in a smaller area especially it is likely nothing.

I understand your husband getting testy at the old guy getting repetitive. There is a difference between noticing and flattering and getting creepy.
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« Reply #27 on: June 12, 2009, 11:21:11 AM »

Being single, I can't comment on the specifics, but I would ask one question: if you don't tell him, will it eat away at you? In other words, can you keep quiet about this without it hurting you inside?
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« Reply #28 on: June 12, 2009, 03:56:51 PM »

As a man, I can tell you, he was more interested in you than the car.  The car was just an Ice-breaker.  Don't be discouraged, continue smiling at everyone.  I smile at everyone too, but many young, attractive women ignore it.  I guess they think I'm making a move on them.

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« Reply #29 on: June 14, 2009, 11:01:12 PM »

Actually (and this isn't a hit)  but, if that is you in the little picture.... your husband is a lucky man....

 Thanks, yes it is me, but (LOL), I think I maybe the lucky one.
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