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Offline Enoch

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"Like a son to me"
« on: Wed Aug 03, 2016 - 07:45:38 »
Howdy all. I've been wracking my head around something and I think I might need some second opinions.

So first off it kinda follows on about the boy in this post here
http://www.gracecentered.com/christian_forums/parenting-and-family-life-forum/not-sure-how-to-approach-daughter's-boyfriend/

As a development, my daughter has moved out into the converted flat at his parents'/aunt and uncle's and while things can sometimes get tense between my daughter and I, he seems to really be reaching out the olive branch.

I don't tend to proselytise to him because the boy speaks 3 languages, has read every text of every major religion and can recite every scientific theory that they'll teach him in school 3 years from now; though not outspoken, a quietly confident atheist.

He's a really accommodating fellow too, he'll drop in to see if I need any help with anything, we'll watch the same games together both being fans of the Arkansas Razorbacks, we'll argue politcs, he's even come to church as he's a fan of soul, blues and jazz and he likes the black gospel music at our church.

I really like him. He's top of all his classes at school, he has a job, he volunteers. But my daughter, I feel, is already falling away from the Lord and I don't think her being with him is going to help much. It's also has come up that he genuinely intends to marry her in the future (early days, I know) and I'm conflicted in how I would support that.

I don't know how to go about this. He's had a hard past so I don't want to burn bridges none, especially that hes admitted that his Uncle (who he still calls dad) never felt as affectionate to him as he does with me. To be honest, this is not only the first time I've been this friendly to somebody who wasn't a Christian, this is the first time I've been so close to somebody who believes faith to be ridiculous.

So, any suggestions about this? It's been occupying my prayers of late.

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"Like a son to me"
« on: Wed Aug 03, 2016 - 07:45:38 »

Offline Daemon Blackfyre

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Re: "Like a son to me"
« Reply #1 on: Mon Aug 29, 2016 - 19:27:51 »
Don't see a problem really. Take him as he comes and if your daugther has different values or ideas about what isn't acceptable then so be it. She's become her own person now. As for the kid, I'm a guy of the same age, I think he's just trying to un-awkward things up. Make sure you know you're a friend and maybe if your daughter can see that despite differneces you can build bridges, she'll have less ammo to antagonise you.

 

     
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