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Am I being a lustful young man
« on: Tue May 17, 2016 - 01:14:51 »
Hello,

I am a 19 guy who is struggling with knowing what is lustful.  As a 19 year old I notice women my age quite a bit.  Ill just be honest girls are on my mind a lot, and I don't know what to d about it.  I'll think "wow, she's pretty."  Or "she seems really nice, I'd like to date her."  I'll kind of check them out a little sometimes.  But thinking of sex doesn't really cross my mind usually.  Sometimes I do think what it would be like to be married to a certain girl and having a family though.  Is that lust?  Is it wrong to notice a pretty girl or be attracted to one?  If this is sin it seems that the only way for me to avoid this would be just to lock myself up in my house all day to avoid seeing women.  I've read that anytime you think about another woman besides your wife is sin, but I'm not married.  How can I become married if I can't look at women?  I'm confused at this point.  Older and more mature brothers in Christ please help me to understand.  Thank you and God bles.

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Am I being a lustful young man
« on: Tue May 17, 2016 - 01:14:51 »

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Re: Am I being a lustful young man
« Reply #1 on: Tue May 17, 2016 - 04:21:36 »
I am a 19 guy who is struggling with knowing what is lustful.
Lust is a burning desire to lay with a female~at least it should only be toward a female, which of itself is not sinful, but very natural, and God created.
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As a 19 year old I notice women my age quite a bit.
That makes you very normal. I have two nineteen years old grandsons, who are right there with you concerning females. I would be disappointed if they did not have those strong feelings .........old men have them too, by the way; the big difference is that we can rule our spirits much better than youth can, at least we should.
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Ill just be honest girls are on my mind a lot, and I don't know what to d about it.
Quite simple, I believe~you need to get serious in asking God to bring a godly young girl into your life that would best fit your desire of what you want in a woman (or more than that, WHO God would have you to have). Oblivious, it's God will for your to marry young in life than later, based upon your strong desire, which is perfectly fine; and I personally think it is much better to marry younger than older for many reasons. 
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I'll think "wow, she's pretty."  Or "she seems really nice, I'd like to date her."  I'll kind of check them out a little sometimes.
Okay, you passed the test of being ALL boy....good for you. You are very normal, just the way God created you my son.
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But thinking of sex doesn't really cross my mind usually.
Really? At nineteen? It's okay, you can be honest. What crosses your mind.......having bible study with her? I do not think so.
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Sometimes I do think what it would be like to be married to a certain girl and having a family though.
A good woman is life's most precious gift, and it does not get any better than that for most of the men of this world who have founded favor of God with a great woman in his life.
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Is that lust?
No it is not. Sinful lust is a burning desire that is not kept under control and within its proper God ordained use.
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Is it wrong to notice a pretty girl or be attracted to one?
No, it's as natural as breathing for a man. 
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I've read that anytime you think about another woman besides your wife is sin, but I'm not married.   
Young man, it IS time for you to earnestly begin to ask God for a godly woman with a meek and quite spirit...and while you asking, ask for a beautiful wife as well, nothing wrong that request. Most of the godly woman of the scriptures were beautiful outwardly as well, as they were inwardly.
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How can I become married if I can't look at women?
Every man will always notice a beautiful woman, always. It is how you react and conduct yourself when you you notice one, even after you are married.  Looking now unmarried, you still must rule your spirit and your thoughts coming from your heart to the glory of the God, who sees into our hearts and knows our every intentions, even though we may even try to deceive HIM with our thoughts!  We cannot! Honor him above all, and he WILL give you the desires of your heart.
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Re: Am I being a lustful young man
« Reply #2 on: Tue May 17, 2016 - 05:19:48 »
Welcome to the forums BHBOY. 

And I agree with RB (Red, they have not restored your profile YET???)  that you are being a very normal 19 year old male. 

And part of being a normal 19 year old male is you probably think about sex a LOT. And that is OK.  God made you that way.  Don't sweat it. (so be honest about it)   If you are NOT thinking about sex a lot I would go to a doctor and find out why. 

IMO you have bought into an incorrect definition of lust, one that sounds good but cannot be supported by scripture or medical science.

At any rate, remember that in time you will find HER and get married and all of this will be seen for what it is: a temporary season of frustration.  We all go thru that from time to time.