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Marriage/cheating
« on: Wed Sep 05, 2018 - 03:39:35 »
So I met this woman and we clicked like never before. Long story short she is married but they recently were separated. He cheated on her.   She forgave him and got back with him for the kids sake and not really for herself.
She says he works long hours but he doesn't have to. She thinks he's cheating because he's always hanging out with a3 female co-worker. Anyways,  we talked as friends and we ended up becoming really close and one thing led to another and we slept together.   So we both felt guilty and decided to back off and not even see each other.  But we still text and talk some but keep our distance because we know we're tempted. 
We talk about being together but she doesn't want to just leave her marriage. 
I feel like a hypocritical fool.  What recommendations do you have for us at this point?


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Re: Marriage/cheating
« Reply #1 on: Wed Sep 05, 2018 - 05:16:42 »
Leave here alone and end your friendship entirely. She is a married woman. Sorry if that sounds harsh but it is the correct course of action here, there is no way to squeeze your relationship into her already married status, regardless of how good or bad her marriage may be.

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Re: Marriage/cheating
« Reply #2 on: Thu Nov 01, 2018 - 03:34:50 »
So what can she do to be forgiven and move forward in the right way?

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Re: Marriage/cheating
« Reply #3 on: Thu Nov 01, 2018 - 04:38:07 »
So I met this woman and we clicked like never before. Long story short she is married but they recently were separated. He cheated on her.   
So she separated from her husband after you two met? Guess what, my wife and I clinked when we first met 52 years ago. Most relationships do, so what you have said adds nothing to the fact that she a married woman. Btw, after 52 years my relationship with my wife IS BETTER than then! The grass being greener on the side means nothing with feelings and sight~there might just be a sewer line hidden from one's sight, and a good chance it will be....sewer lines make grass greener as we all should know, but some fools do not know.
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He cheated on her.
How do you know that to be true? She just may be saying that to justify herself cheating, and the whorish spirit~good chance she is.
Quote from: hiking on: Wed Sep 05, 2018 - 03:39:35
She says he works long hours but he doesn't have to. She thinks he's cheating because he's always hanging out with a3 female co-worker.
This sounds like a person making up a story to do what their heart really want to do themselves. Of course, when anyone is seeking an affair with a married person, they deserve all they get, including lies and even death, which could very well happen and has happened many times.
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we talked as friends
That's done in hope of a relantionship most of the time~a married person is OFF LIMIT period.
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We talk about being together but she doesn't want to just leave her marriage. 
Well let us be honest, that's you are talking to her about leaving and she HAS NO REASON to leave her husband most likely! She enjoys playing the whore, and she would do the same to you, trust me, and why would she not? Because you are more of a lover, do not fool (deceive) yourself.
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I feel like a hypocritical fool.
How about an adulterous man?  That is a terrible sin and should be punish and was back in the days of Job~
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Job 31:9-11~"If mine heart have been deceived by a woman, or if I have laid wait at my neighbour's door; Then let my wife grind unto another, and let others bow down upon her. For this is an heinous crime; yea, it is an iniquity to be punished by the judges."
You asked:
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What recommendations do you have for us at this point?
Not US , but YOU~repent of this heinous crime (that's what God calls it) and ask God for forgiveness.

You probably were not asking for this but married is one of the holiest things that one will make a commitment to, and if not faithful in this, then that person cannot be trusted in anything~if one does not love their wife, or husband, then they cannot love anyone. 
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Re: Marriage/cheating
« Reply #4 on: Thu Nov 01, 2018 - 05:47:29 »
So what can she do to be forgiven and move forward in the right way?

Not your business.  Focus on not helping to destroy a marriage in the future.

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Re: Marriage/cheating
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