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Help with lust, temptation, and sexual thoughts.
« on: Sun Apr 27, 2014 - 09:42:21 »
Hi. Good morning and I wish everyone a blessed Sunday.

Like most days, they are back. My personal 'demons' ( if I may use this term) , are here again.
I am 50 years old. Married 23 years ago, 4 children. One wife. A good wife. Spiritual, God loving, and oh, so forgiving of the shortcomings of her husband.
In other words, something to really cherish and love. Yet, I have been fighting a battle since I was a young boy. Only before I became a christian I did not know how big of a problem that was.
When I got married, I accepted Jesus as Lord and Savior. And then the problem was really highlighted, in many ways.  And compounded because of a specific issue that came to be.
But I am getting ahead of myself here. In short: I am being obsessed with lustful thoughts, and I feel it's about to overpower me.
I cannot talk to anyone in my church because of .. well, you know, then they would *know* how I really am.
It's not as much about watching pornography on the 'net. I do that, but that is the final product, not what starts the issue.
I have a hard time looking at a woman without having lust for her in my head. And imagining things. Sometimes I drive, start fantasizing, and then I have to yell "STOP IT" at myself, because I realize how ridiculous and dangerous that is. In some moments it is almost like I have not full control of my thinking process.
Every now and then, I have moments of what I call "sanity" and then I marvel thinking "is this how normal people feel, only all the time? I want that! ... " But then I see a woman with a hint of cleavage and off they go again.. I realize how bad and sinful that is, I have a hard time controlling it. I can rationalize this and  I know I cannot stop that "in the flesh", because I am just a man and this will stop only when dealt with it "in the spirit" I do not know where to turn..

And I am just scratching the surface here. This has been going on for a long time..

Thanks for prayers, suggestions, or just a listening ear...

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Re: Help with lust, temptation, and sexual thoughts.
« Reply #1 on: Sun Apr 27, 2014 - 14:38:32 »
Don't feel alone but be for I go on please,please take me serious about this,Ive been there and gave into it,not at first but it is something I battled all my life and I thought I couldn't ever overcome it,but Ive found if I really want to believe it Christ will deliver me and keep me from it.Sin has power and if you release your power over to it it will bind you and hold you prisoner,then you have to get God to set you free of it again.Ive learned you cannot play with it either because it will take you over again,its like playing with a rattle snake and getting bit and needing antivenom again,you cant just play with it alittle and it will be okay,you are playing with fire and it will cost you in the end.I had to learn the hard way to avoid it at all costs,I got burnt so now I know to keep my hand off the stove,but it doesn't have to go that way for you brother.But I can tell by what you are saying that you are heading down the same road and believe me it will be nothing but crash and burn.I feel you are captivated by this but the Lord can deliver you from it,its a spirit Speak against it in the name of Jesus and take a stand over it ,surrender your desires to God,He gave them to you but this really is not you but something that has attached itself to your desires,you need to realize that it is a spirit taking advantage of you,Brother this thing took a hold of me at an early age in my life,it destroyed my first marriage with children and has caused untold pain and grief to all my loved ones.my second marriage has almost died and theres but a glimmer of hope left to the rebuilding of the relationship,dont play with it brother,get free and keep a healthy distance from it,you can do it with God.Learn to identify your desires when you see a beautiful woman accept that and leave it there,dont entertain it,that invites the evilspirits in to take your will away from you again and again.Im a little older than you 58 married now 24 years with grown children and a not so understanding wife except that God has given her grace to remain with me after many separations and things that would have ended most marriages.You can make it and Jesus can give you victory and we can keep it,but you really have to want it.Dont play with it,commit yourself to leave the porn alone or it will take you,once you look at it just once it has you,you need to get free again,get free and leave it alone,commit it to God.I pray for you in Jesus name to be set free.Dont think you can play with it even a little.God bless you brother. ::pray::

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Re: Help with lust, temptation, and sexual thoughts.
« Reply #2 on: Sun Apr 27, 2014 - 16:37:21 »
Centurion, I do thank you for taking time to write to me. I read and treasured every word.

Yes, I am 51, but I "discovered" porno when I was a kid, about 10. I still remember the first time I saw images not child should ever see.  I am not talking the Playboy stuff either.. Since that day, it never really left. When I got married, things got more complicated because of a specific situation I found myself in , and that still endures. Details are not important and not needed even in this forum. I did not cheat on my wife, at least not physically. I lusted for other women , one in particular, for a long time. Now I am so tired of it. Weary, and feeling dirty. Today we visited a new church, and it was like God was talking to me, a timely and a necessary message. I am tired of having to endure my own shame, do the bidding of the demon that is inside me. There are days that my fingers type on the keyboard, and I do not even realize it. Like it is someone else doing it. I did a Christian 12 step program called Celebrate Recovery for a while, and it did help, for a while. Today I learned that a younger man in my extended family, a man with 4 splendid children and a wonderful wife, cheated on her for the 2nd time in 6 months, and she is at the end of her rope with him and the marriage, but with 4 little ones, there is much to lose if they separate. That gave me a HUGE shock and it was like a wake up call. I could be next. And, as you wisely say, when it comes to porno, sex, lust, desire for other women, there is no "just playing" with it. No middle way. You touch  it, your soul days. I tell you, your words are giving me hope and courage. I recently cleaned my closet, and put in it  a small chair. It is going to be my "soaking and praying room" . Worship music, prayer, and Bible.
This is a battle I have to fight alone, but with God at my side, if that makes sense. I do thank you for your precious and kind words.
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God Bless ! ::amen!::

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« Reply #3 on: Sun Apr 27, 2014 - 18:04:25 »
Jesus can release you from bondage. trust me.

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Read these written words and listen to the them because they are life. I used to have unclean images in my mind, and impulses that I would obey and I was a prisoner because of this. And I wanted to be free. I wanted to become whole and clean, so I sought Jesus and asked Him to remove these things from my mind, and guard my doors and guard my windows so nothing could enter, AND NOTHING HAS. I am telling you the absolute truth. These things can harm you. And you cannot do this alone. It is an ongoing process and you must forgive yourself if you become weak, because you will. Jesus knows this. He can battle them for you, but you MUST ASK Him to help you. Every day. He will clean your mind and block these things from you. I have no more thoughts of fornication, and if I see nudity on TV, I look away. Because it means nothing to me. I have become emptied of all my passions and I have found peace. You can too. Please read the above gnostic text. It will help you.
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« Reply #4 on: Sun Apr 27, 2014 - 21:38:15 »
Its not easy at first but when I realized that it really was a power outside me and that I could in fact have victory over it and keep it by God,but I still remain vigilant.The main thing is,if you truly want victory you really have to be willing to commit your will and whole life to the Lord and stand on it,if theres anything not given up the devil will find a way into it in your life.This is the only way I have been able to find victory over sin and I still submit to Him daily and ask to be cleansed of anything that may not be right in me.Id also like to add that I also have not been able to be very sexually active but not by choice but just due to relationship problems and still the Lord has stood by me and kept me clean.I was much like you and exposed to these things  also at a young age.It is important that if you slip that you do let the Lord forgive you right away without making it ok in heart for what you did but to let it go and be cleansed and set free so the devil dosnt have time to keep at you while your down and work on your failure and guilt,just always admit to the wrong and get over it and go on and ask the Lord to keep you from it and when you really mean it in your heart  and He will.God bless. ::nodding::

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Re: Help with lust, temptation, and sexual thoughts.
« Reply #5 on: Sat May 03, 2014 - 01:57:16 »
I sat here and looked at this post for 10 minutes, maybe more. I tried to gather words together in hopes of saying something smart about how much this exact post related to me but I couldn't put the words together. I'm a young man. YOUNG, Man. And you have to know how hard this same subject is for me?  I love my Wife. She loves me... more than I think I'm even able to accept  ::sick:: It breaks my heart. I am seriously, so, sick, and tired, of lusting after other women. It makes me sick and often very low. The more I try to deny it, the stronger it comes back. I have come up with excuse, after excuse. Usually at this point, someone says, "But the truth is..."  but I don't know what the truth of it is... I'm very upset at this very same subject. Young people these days are growing more mature very early in age and dress accordingly. Even at Church... I don't see why some dress that way... at CHURCH! Its all in the music, the media, the propaganda. These Yoga pants... how deceived are these young Women? Because they're comfortable? Really? I have asked God many times for help but I stand by the saying "You can't help someone that doesn't help themselves." Me personally, I can't stop. Its all over the place... how can you? These yoga pants don't miss an inch and females of all ages wear them everywhere you go! I have tried everything...

I'm sorry if I went too far. But I wanted you to know that you aren't the only one that feels the same way. I feel a little bit better when I tell myself 'At least I am aware and know that its WRONG.'  Males take this for granted. Women don't know the toxicity of it. Its a sinful, prideful, vicious circle. And like you, I'm sick of being a part of it.

I took the step and put myself out there. Any prayers are welcome and ditto likewise. ::help::

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« Reply #6 on: Sat May 03, 2014 - 13:19:26 »
I really feel for you,I still endure temptation and lived with the defeat of of it for years.I don't know any other way to put it out here but the key is in the word endure,no matter what the sin is God can set us free of it,any and all sin no matter what has been preached from the pulpits.But as Christians we are called to suffer in the flesh that means that we endure temptation no matter how much it hurts our appetites.Eventually these also called the flesh will die and their power will be diminished in your life.You have to realize these are spirits they are not just natural tendencies.You will always have trouble with satanic powers in your life if there is any thing in your life that's not submitted to God,he that seeks his life shall lose it.Im just being honest with you that in my life I never got victory until I realized some things.These are powers that use our ignorance of them as leverage against us in order to use our bodies to live out their desires and we think it is us.Actually you become married to them and end up living a demonic life with them.Jesus said you shall know the truth and the truth will make you free.When I was willing to really realize that if I don't completely give my life up to God that I will be destroyed,then I saw that God would remove these powers from me,but I also knew  theres no playing with it because when I do I release my will to them again and they become my god again,you can only have one God.You cannot give into it you must endure it to keep your victory and as time goes by it hurts less and less to endure against sin.But we will always suffer in this world if we live Godly in this world. ::nodding::

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« Reply #7 on: Sat May 10, 2014 - 02:50:17 »
I've been married for fifteen years.  And I've been faithful.  Yet, like many of you, I'm still a pig.  The only thing a male pig can do is not to act of his base instincts.  Stay sober.  Be nice to your kids.  And show affection to your wife.  Try to accept your impure thoughts as part of the human condition...just another obstacle to be overcome with the help of God.  Then again, what do I know?  But I must be doing something right.  I've got another wedding anniversary approaching next month.  My wife hasn't jumped out a window, and my two sons aren't in therapy.  So there you go.  Peace.

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« Reply #8 on: Sat May 10, 2014 - 05:46:48 »

Every now and then, I have moments of what I call "sanity" and then I marvel thinking "is this how normal people feel, only all the time? I want that! ... " But then I see a woman with a hint of cleavage and off they go again.. I realize how bad and sinful that is, I have a hard time controlling it. I can rationalize this and  I know I cannot stop that "in the flesh", because I am just a man and this will stop only when dealt with it "in the spirit" I do not know where to turn..

Read this Proverb by Jonathan Crosby and friend of mine.

Proverbs 25:28

"He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.

Your success depends on ruling your spirit. Great men rule their spirits. They resist temptations to react or overreact. They restrain their emotions and manage them for good.

 How safe are you from trouble? If you do not rule your spirit, you are vulnerable to say or do things that could cost you dearly. You may already be damaged by such actions.

 Your spirit is your inner self, which controls your actions. When you do not rule your spirit, you are exposed and vulnerable to all sorts of folly and trouble. Like a defenseless city without walls in former times of marauding armies, so is the man who does not rule his own spirit and diligently keep it in the way of virtue, truth, and wisdom.

 Your spirit includes your affections, appetites, and passions. A wise and noble man rules his spirit by his conscience and mind. He locks it down with chains of self-denial to keep ambition, anger, lust, pride, or revenge from breaking forth. He guides it by a mental commitment to hold fast honor, humility, righteousness, and virtue. He rules his thoughts, his desires, his inclinations, his resentments, and keeps them all in disciplined order.

 A fool lets his spirit control his actions. He does not resist impulses from his spirit; he lets his spirit direct him; he forfeits the fight for character and godliness. He cannot do what he should; he cannot stop doing what he should not. Such men are often angry, generally foolish, often depressed, or always procrastinating, among other faults and sins. They never grow up, for they are controlled by childish passions of a depraved heart.

 In Solomon’s time, a city depended on strong fortifications and gates, with great walls surrounding it, to repel incursions by ravaging bands of guerillas or foreign armies. If the bulwarks, gates, or towers were broken down and the walls taken away, a city was totally exposed to the incursions of any enemy that wished to plunder, pillage, or conquer it. If a city did not invest sufficiently in these means of protection, it could easily be captured.

 A man without rule of his spirit is exposed and vulnerable like a defenseless city. His spirit is ready to sin with very little provocation, and he cannot marshal its power for any real good. He is helplessly, hopelessly, perpetually at the mercy of his enemies – foolishness, lust, and sin – which show no quarter, but regularly ravage his life. But the man who rules his spirit is greater than a man taking a city single-handedly (Pr 16:32).

Dear reader, what tempts your spirit? Are you quick to anger, a sure mark of a fool? Must you talk incessantly, another mark of a fool? Regarding money, are you an impulsive spender? Or a hoarding miser? Do you justify imprudent haste as optimism? Or do you call melancholy funks self-reflection? Which spirit do you have? Do you rule it? To the bulwarks! Raise the towers! Close the gates! Build the walls!  Dear reader, what tempts your spirit? RULE YOUR SPIRIT!

 Do you talk too much? Or are you depressed and silent? Do you make financial choices impulsively? Do you criticize everyone? Do you jest and joke often? Does complaining come easily? Do you eat more than you should? Do you fail to read and pray daily? Do you let being discouraged destroy you? Does fear keep you from your duties?

 Do you disrespect authority, especially civil rulers? Are you known for withdrawing and avoiding your family or friends? Do you forgive easily, or is it hard? Can you stop being an overbearing mother by making suggestions for everything your married child does? Do you mock rich men, because you think you know more than them (Eccl 10:20)?

 Your life will be plundered and wasted, unless you take control and raise a defense. You will never amount to much. You will be a castaway, for an unruly spirit does not produce good things for God or man. You will plunge into sins of commission and omission. To the bulwarks! Raise the towers! Close the gates! Build the walls! Rule your spirit!

The greatest battle you will ever fight is the one against your own spirit. Your worst enemy is the depraved and selfish man inside you. It causes the most damage and keeps you from success in life. The most shameful loss is to live and die the victim of your own unruly spirit. And the most noble and rewarding victory is the one over your own spirit.

 King Saul did not rule his jealous spirit, which even tried to kill his own son (I Sam 20:27-34). David did not bridle his lustful spirit, which boldly led him to adultery and murder (II Sam 11:1-27). And Samson, the strongest man ever, was helpless before his unruled passion for beautiful Delilah (Judges 16:4-21). Dear reader, do not let these heinous crimes make you confident in your life, for many lesser sins can also ruin a life.

 Identify your spirit weaknesses – every man has them. What sins tempt you most? What causes you to fall quickest into folly? Confess your faults to the Lord. Confess to your family or friends. Ask them to tell you when they see a breach in a wall. Take charge of your spirit, and crush whatever folly it seeks, and do whatever wisdom it avoids. Now!

 At the first sign of a bulwark or tower crumbling, pray for the mighty strength of your Prince Jesus. Do not trust your own strength; you need His. You cannot relax, for it will take control unless you rule it. By the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ you can rule it. Why wait one minute longer? Go to Him now! Raise the walls of a well-ruled and holy city!

 Teach your children self-discipline, called temperance in the Bible. This will do them more good before God and men than academic training. This will make them as great as a man singlehandedly taking a city (Pr 16:32). You can start when they are very young by slowly denying them small things they want. The present world sees no need for it, since they believe in instant gratification with food, purchases, sex, speech, anger, sleep, etc.

Jesus Christ ruled His spirit perfectly and submitted to God’s will, in spite of being very amazed and intimidated by His coming crucifixion (Mark 14:33). Though tempted by the devil at various times, He never considered the devil’s suggestions (Matt 4:1-11). But not only that, He will provide grace and strength for those who ask (II Cor 12:9-10; Phil 4:13).
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« Reply #9 on: Tue May 13, 2014 - 12:41:45 »
Well said,surrender all to God.

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« Reply #10 on: Tue May 13, 2014 - 15:49:57 »
How do you spend your time?  What do you watch on TV?  What kind of music do you listen to?  What kind of books or publications do you read?

How often do you read the bible?  How often do you pray?  Do you help the poor?  How often do you bless other people with service to them? 

You must learn to walk in the spirit.   

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« Reply #11 on: Tue May 13, 2014 - 15:58:46 »
Amen to that,what people fail to see is that you have to get past your life or this life however you want to put it.You cant have this life and Gods life too,it wont work because they are opposed to each other.You must choose to live for God and let go of the fleshly pleasures,we can enjoy what God has made without chasing it,seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and then all the rest will be added unto you,the problem is chasing after pleasure instead of God. ::preachit::

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« Reply #12 on: Tue Jun 03, 2014 - 05:30:01 »
Hi guys

Alot of great things are said in this topic so i actually wanted to share my situation, i find it a bit hard sharing this but i guess its easier sharing to people i dont know. i am in my mid 20s and i have accepted the Lord 5years ago, prior to that i indulged in so much pornography and lust i really abused it. initially when i accepted the Lord i went for a year and a half without it i praised God for it everyday but then i met a girl at church that i really liked so i have been in a relationship with her for the last 3 years, we are really strong on not having sex before marriage because we really want to honour the Lord. however the lust thoughts have been creeping into my head since then, especially about my girlfriend, i have all sort of images in my head and of course it leads to that aweful secret habit.

this whole thing have damaged my walk with God that i am really struggling to trust Him also struggling to pray and struggling to read the bible, i know i should probably get married but there is something inside me that tells me i cant marry her in this state of mind, also we are from 2 different cultures and her family are not accepting of me so we are trying to work that out first before we get married.

oh another thing over the last 3 years i have developed a chronic neck and shoulder pain that i also feel is because of how this issue is stressing me, now it could be something else but i have sought physicians and professionals and all tests have come clear so i do think this is psychological.

boy it feels good sharing this even if its just on a forum, i have actually not shared this to anybody!!

thanks guys.   

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« Reply #13 on: Tue Jun 03, 2014 - 18:44:33 »
As a man who, like many if not all men, struggles to live up to Jesus' ideal of a man who was both generous with his love and also respectful and honorable in his interactions with women.

For the longest, since puberty, I have struggled and still struggle with sexual thoughts that feel inappropriate - lingering at the sight of a woman, defining a woman's worth by their sexual attractiveness, and indulging in pornography.  It seems many of those who posted here have a similar duality relating to their sexuality and secular values of sexuality in society.

Like all aspects of our humanity and spirituality, they are gifts from God. But I don't think God would give us a power as dynamic and energizing as sexuality without asking men to express that gift.

It is my sense that lust develops as a result of a unresolved or unmet emotional need. The sexual desire is just a means of satisfying that need.

One means of sating that desire could be to notice the qualities about the woman or women that cause you to lust and then seeking counseling either through communicating with God or talking with a pastor or by journaling to find out the source of the need the lust is seeking to satisfy. It could be a lack of joy or pleasure in other aspects of your life, the need could be that there's an aspect of expressing your attraction for the woman or women in a healthy, mutually affirming way, that could take the form of a compliment or a friendly and respectful flirtatious comment, that is unsettling.  Perhaps the lust you have for women is replacing desire you would want to express to your wife but are unsure or feel unsettled doing so.

Your wish to respect and honor women is commendable and personally encouraging, but if the wish to respect women comes from a place of shame or self-judgement, then the lust towards the woman is a desire for a deeper and more intimate relationship with yourself and your sexuality. Ask God for strength to open your heart to your self and its need for intimacy and attention and then tend to it as God would tend to you in a moment of need.

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« Reply #14 on: Tue Jun 03, 2014 - 21:15:20 »
This is something that all men deal with,it not only is sin but there is also evil spirits involved and that's the dangerous partlets just say I learned this the hard way and I can tell you brother that you don't know what you are playing with.It will destroy you and you need to fear it.I wish I had someone to warn me when I was young.Lust cost me one marriage and almost my second and caused many of my loved ones pain and hurt.It is sin and satan means to destroy you with it and he means business and he will do it,make no mistake about that.Every sin that I finally gave up to God and believed Him to take away from me He has given me victory over but it took some faithfulness to Him on my part with the sex I still do not let my guard down,dont even entertain it for a second.Look at Proverbs 6:24-35 and see the severity of this.Im telling you this for your good,give it to God and continue to until you get victory over it,dont toy with it.Pray and ask Him to take it away and bind satans power over you in Jesus name and don't ever give up even if you fail continue to ask for His grace and He will help you.Brother you can gain victory over sin believe me and you can do it before you get married and bring it into your marriage.Lust for your to be wife and the sin of pornography and adultery are two different things and the latter involve evil spirits operating in your life in which you need let God set you free of and stay free of and He will.God bless you brother I know He will.

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« Reply #15 on: Tue Jun 03, 2014 - 21:24:46 »
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Jesus can release you from bondage. trust me.

http://gnosis.org/naghamm/silvanus.html

Read these written words and listen to the them because they are life. I used to have unclean images in my mind, and impulses that I would obey and I was a prisoner because of this. And I wanted to be free. I wanted to become whole and clean, so I sought Jesus and asked Him to remove these things from my mind, and guard my doors and guard my windows so nothing could enter, AND NOTHING HAS. I am telling you the absolute truth. These things can harm you. And you cannot do this alone. It is an ongoing process and you must forgive yourself if you become weak, because you will. Jesus knows this. He can battle them for you, but you MUST ASK Him to help you. Every day. He will clean your mind and block these things from you. I have no more thoughts of fornication, and if I see nudity on TV, I look away. Because it means nothing to me. I have become emptied of all my passions and I have found peace. You can too. Please read the above gnostic text. It will help you.


Gnosticism is unnecessary and just plain wrong. We have the Holy Bible and we don't need a bunch of rejected texts that contradict God's written word. The gnostic books are obviously uninspired and a complete waste of time, not to mention misleading and dangerous.

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Re: Help with lust, temptation, and sexual thoughts.
« Reply #16 on: Wed Jun 04, 2014 - 20:36:37 »
To the OP,

1. Find someone you can talk to.  Slavery to sexual sin is common in the church sadly.  I struggled with it myself from childhood, until just recently (I am 45 and became a Christian a month before my 20th birthday).  I know it will be difficult, but that is Satan using your pride against you.  If your church doesn't have a mens group, talk to your pastor, or find a church around you that does.

2. Download accountability software on your computer.  This will help a lot with the internet porn.  There are a few out there, but I use covenant eyes.

3. It is not enough to "stop thinking lustful thoughts".  You need to replace them with something.  Instead of yelling "stop", pray.  Memorize scripture.  Meditate on scripture.  I read my bible at least 3 times a day, and I am always also reading 1 or 2 other spiritual books at a time.

4. If those don't help, get biblical counseling.


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Re: Help with lust, temptation, and sexual thoughts.
« Reply #17 on: Fri Jun 13, 2014 - 21:48:53 »
Hi. Good morning and I wish everyone a blessed Sunday.

Like most days, they are back. My personal 'demons' ( if I may use this term) , are here again.
I am 50 years old. Married 23 years ago, 4 children. One wife. A good wife. Spiritual, God loving, and oh, so forgiving of the shortcomings of her husband.
In other words, something to really cherish and love. Yet, I have been fighting a battle since I was a young boy. Only before I became a christian I did not know how big of a problem that was.
When I got married, I accepted Jesus as Lord and Savior. And then the problem was really highlighted, in many ways.  And compounded because of a specific issue that came to be.
But I am getting ahead of myself here. In short: I am being obsessed with lustful thoughts, and I feel it's about to overpower me.
I cannot talk to anyone in my church because of .. well, you know, then they would *know* how I really am.
It's not as much about watching pornography on the 'net. I do that, but that is the final product, not what starts the issue.
I have a hard time looking at a woman without having lust for her in my head. And imagining things. Sometimes I drive, start fantasizing, and then I have to yell "STOP IT" at myself, because I realize how ridiculous and dangerous that is. In some moments it is almost like I have not full control of my thinking process.
Every now and then, I have moments of what I call "sanity" and then I marvel thinking "is this how normal people feel, only all the time? I want that! ... " But then I see a woman with a hint of cleavage and off they go again.. I realize how bad and sinful that is, I have a hard time controlling it. I can rationalize this and  I know I cannot stop that "in the flesh", because I am just a man and this will stop only when dealt with it "in the spirit" I do not know where to turn..

And I am just scratching the surface here. This has been going on for a long time..

Thanks for prayers, suggestions, or just a listening ear...
So what you're saying is, you're a normal male with normal male temptations. Trust in God and do your best, brother. You're far from alone.

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Re: Help with lust, temptation, and sexual thoughts.
« Reply #18 on: Fri Sep 02, 2016 - 15:49:31 »
Do what Jesus did when tempted, he quoted God’s word to Satan.  God’s word is the sword or weapon that Jesus used against temptation & Satan. Put on the full armor of God:  Ephesians 6:13-17  Whatever you do, do not go near that which temps you.  Use these swords in battle:  James 4:7 “Resist the devil and he will flee from you.”  2 Thessalonians 3:3, “The Lord is faithful, he will strengthen you and protect you from the evil one.”

 

     
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