Well, my two cents on this subject is that (as Christians tend to do) some are making this way to complicated.
What does Jesus tell us is the greatest commandment? Not equal to other commandments, not to be taken from a pool of commandments, but the greatest commandment? Come to a clear and sober understanding of that and you have answers for many issues that have been made far too complex in parsing the Word to create some rationalization. And this includes the issue homosexuality.
Well, could we not then edit the Bible to leave out the rest of the non-essential teachings? I will always agree with Mat 22, but that love comes with the desire to love God and His will for our lives.
There is no non-essential teachings in the Bible. My point exactly. IMO, the Word is to be taken as a whole, but there is a progression from pre-Christ to after Christ. Jesus fulfilled the law and the prophets, but did not erase all laws as it relates to our relationship with God. What was an abomination to our Lord before Christ's sacrifice is still an abomination to Him. Sin has not been eradicated. Old Testament law was not the path to salvation in and of itself. It was dedication to the belief of the Redeemer yet to come expressed in the effort of upholding the old law to the best of one's ability. Christ, the Redeemer, gave His life for our sins and therefore fulfilled the old law; and, in doing so, fulfilled the prophecy.
Now, as a progression, some of the old law no longer applies. There is no requirement to sacrifice animals. The ultimate sacrifice has been completed. But that does not mean other law no longer applies. We don't toss aside the Ten Commandments or those things which God has made plain to us are an abomination to Him. We are still subject to the over riding sin nature that separates us from our Lord. A further now, just because we have accepted Jesus as our Savior does not mean we will not sin. He does not expect perfection from us in this fallen world. What He does expect, what illustrates our acceptance of Redemption, is the love we show for Him. Therefore, as Jesus tells us, the greatest
Commandment is love for our Lord. "With all thy heart, with all thy soul, with all thy mind." With the best effort we can muster. Not to perfection, but with the best effort we can put forth.
So how do we love our Lord? With hugs? Buy Him gifts? Do His dishes? No, we love our Lord by pleasing Him. And we please Him by, with our best effort, not offending Him. Again, not by fulfilling old law that became moot with Christ's sacrifice, but by doing all we can to live in a manner that He has laid out as pleasing for Him. So, we cannot justify that which we know is an abomination to Him. Period. We are no more free to practice homosexuality than we are to go against any of His Commandments. And just to make it completely clear, I do not believe the homosexual is condemned to eternal death any more than I believe a murderer or adulterer is condemned to eternal death. It comes down to just how much actual heart, soul, and mind we put into pleasing Him- to loving Him.
Now, there's the standard argument that since Christ did not specifically express homosexuality as displeasing to our Lord, then it most be okay. Lots of things Christ did not specifically express as displeasing. Do we need some laundry list to identify such things, or are those displeasures expressed elsewhere in the Word? (I think everyone already know the answer to that) Christ is not specific on child abuse. Since He isn't, do we consider it to be okay; to be pleasing and loving towards our Lord?
Finally, not the greatest Commandment, but the second one, "like it". Not equal to it- like it. After all, there can be only one "greatest". That commandment, "Love your neighbor as yourself". So, how do we love our neighbor? Hug them? Buy them gifts? Do their dishes? Perhaps those could be expressions of a love, but that's not the love Christ is talking about. Again, the entire Word matters and there is a progression. Love of God first, love of neighbor next. And note, "All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two Commandments". For our journey in this fallen world, for our path to Salvation and the eternal life with our Lord, these are the most important words Jesus ever spoke to us. The love of neighbor Jesus commands directly relates to His greatest Commandment, the love of our Lord. Although not directly stated (as it's not needed), with all our heart, soul, and mind we are to love our neighbor in a manner that brings them to love our Lord. The highest expression of love for neighbor is assisting them to love our Lord. And how does our neighbor love our Lord? By pleasing Him.
If we rationalize any sin as pleasing to our Lord, we are lost. If we fail in our attempts to love our Lord, but have actually made those attempts with all our heart, soul, and mind, then (again, IMO) we do not displease Him. Our sin burdens differ from person to person. We are not condemned for falling under a heavier weight than that placed on another. He does not demand perfection (obviously), he demands commitment and effort. We all backslide, all fall short, but are not condemned by that. Where we are condemned is in rationalizing since we can't be perfect, we need not even try. There was no perfection under the old law, and none now. God judged those subject to the old law not by their perfection, but by their effort. He does the same now.
As it relates to the topic of this thread, homosexuality is displeasing to our Lord. It cannot be excused. But it is not a death sentence. To try and fail in the effort to control any sin is not a death sentence. What is, is to rationalize not even trying. And what is, is to not love our neighbor in a manner that helps them as much in their efforts as we possibly can.