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Re: I cheated on my wife PLEAS HELP ME
« Reply #35 on: Thu Mar 16, 2017 - 10:48:45 »
I recall a man who openly confessed to cheating on his wife in CHURCH before the
whole congregation. (Jehovah's Witnesses)
The poor wife was trapped.
In that moment EVERYONE KNEW he cheated and the presiding minister remarked "your wife must forgive you as it's the Christian thing to do."
See what I mean by trapped.
Everyone was pretty much told to be forgiving.
The minister himself said so.
The wife couldn't even vent her pain and anger and to make matters worse he named
the "other" woman.
She was the MINISTERS WIFE!
Oh, oh, bad boo-boo.
I do identify as a Christian.
I do NOT attend any church service or claim a denomination.
I was baptized in a Church of Christ. There are many "Church of Christ" churches all quite
different from one another.
Some won't allow musical instruments in the church building.
J.W.s don't either. At least not when I attended the Kingdom Hall.
Forcible attendance as a kid by my mother.
She beat me to death with "Jehovah" to the point I was scared to death of that "god".
I know better today.
Jehovah isn't really going to send birds from heaven to pick my eyes out for being
bad.
Just one of the many images of "god" presented by mother and her J.W. friends.
I've been hobby studying religion, mostly Christianity for over 50 years.
I remain confused as to which Christian religion is the "right" one. ::whatever::
Then there was my poor sister.
At age 12 she was well endowed on top. (o.k. big boobs)
Pretty girl also.
Momma sent her to a J.W. elder for "Bible study" by her self.
The elder's wife wasn't home.
The elder helped himself to by sisters breasts.
Molested her he did.
She told mom and momma slapped snot out of her for "allowing" herself to be
molested and warned her to NEVER tell anyone else.
My sis is now 68 years old and STILL an functional alcoholic.
I suspect it will kill her one day.
All from childhood trauma that was never dealt with or treated.

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Re: I cheated on my wife PLEAS HELP ME
« Reply #36 on: Tue Mar 28, 2017 - 13:46:35 »
I read the previous posts....
Very difficult situation...this brother needs guidance and accountability from older men in confidence.....
Obviously he should repent before God....
David said. "Against God and him alone i have sinned"
I believe he needs to confess to another brother he can trust in confidence......
Whether he confesses to his wife is not always the same for everyone!!!
I had a close christian brother who i believe committed adultery......
As God told me to pray for them together at church one day...she was truly upset and he would never say why??      His wife told my wife they needed to leave there house and town and her husband needed to get away from his surroundings
I talked with him later and told him if he ever committed adultery he should confess to God and his brothers first ....then get counsel about confessing to his wife.....he never spoke about it again...
I believe he confessed this to his wife knowing she would not leave him as that is the loyal wife she is.
I
He did not seem overly repentent and i question whether he truly repented before God....
Years later she has some kind of sickness allthough i havent seen them in a while.

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Re: I cheated on my wife PLEAS HELP ME
« Reply #37 on: Tue Mar 28, 2017 - 14:30:32 »
I believe all of us as brothers should be accountable to anothEr brother in the area of lusts....
Very few women understand this temptation......
Sin is always first and foremost against God...if He forgives it is forgiven.......
The bible says to "confess your sins one to another"
I have 2-3 brothers i am accountable to in this area......
We rarely if ever comfess the sin of lust to our wives...
I am mot saying a man should never confess adultery to his wife.....
But he must first and foremost confess to God and make sure God has forgiven him...
Then he must hear from God and another wiser brother before comfessing to his wife....
I am just saying in most situations it does more damage to the marriage....
I will however ask my wife to pray for me in this area but i never tell her i am tempted by a specific woman's looks...i do confess this with my brothers and we keep each other out of trouble.

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Re: I cheated on my wife PLEAS HELP ME
« Reply #38 on: Wed Mar 29, 2017 - 23:36:27 »
F.W.I.W

lust1
/ləst/
noun
very strong sexual desire:
synonyms:   sexual desire, sexual appetite, sexual longing, ardor;  More
verb
have a very strong sexual desire for someone:

I suppose I've bedded 40 or so females in my day.
I never visited a play ground I wasn't invited to.

I have had affairs while married?
Yup, sure have.
Have my wives or wife had affairs?
Yup they sure did.
I have confessed my "sins", errors, to a priest, to a professional, and prayed for forgiveness.
I don't do that any more.
I'm human after all.
So it goes.
Not something to beat ones self up over.
I was alcoholic. I no longer drink any alcohol.
In A.A. recovery we rely on God of our understanding and we are encouraged to
pray to that God.

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Re: I cheated on my wife PLEAS HELP ME
« Reply #39 on: Wed Mar 29, 2017 - 23:37:38 »
Guilt: A most useless emotion.
Not to be confused with remorse or sorrow.

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Re: I cheated on my wife PLEAS HELP ME
« Reply #40 on: Tue Jun 27, 2017 - 18:04:24 »
Prayer and Good Luck,
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