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Offline jdrums777

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Looking to connect with other step-dads
« on: Sat May 23, 2015 - 12:02:45 »
Hey guys,
I've been a step-dad for about 5 months now, (15 and 19 yr old girls). I have no kids of my own, so it's very challenging, at 46, going from zero to teen. The main issue I struggle with is their real dad. He is not a good person, and treated my wife very badly while they were married. I can't go into the specifics, but let's just say it has brought out the Pitbull in me. Even though he claims Christianity, and even plays on his church worship team, he leads a very immoral life. His real "god" is money, and he never seems to pass up an opportunity to try to "cheap out" on things and leave us to pick up the pieces and soothe the wounds he causes in the girls. Every emotion this brings out in me is so contrary to being Christ-like, and the lack of legal avenues as a remedy only lends to the frustration. I would really appreciate some input from other step-dads.

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Re: Looking to connect with other step-dads
« Reply #1 on: Mon Jun 22, 2015 - 15:20:09 »
jdrums... I'm kinda in the same boat.  Wife's ex was a real piece of work.  They had a son who's almost 18 now who lives with biological dad but is with us every other weekend.  The son grew up with dad for the most part and it shows.  Drugs, trouble at school, raised wrong.  Now he's trying to play catchup and raise him right but the boy's already set in his ways.  It's hard for me as retired military to deal with.  When it's just me and the boy, it's good for the most part.  As soon as his mom's with us, he's 12 all over again.  And I've spoken about that to him.  I want to step up and be the stepdad and say something, but she's hypersensitive to anything to do with him.  He's her only child and she almost lost him to a traumatic brain injury a few years ago.  He can be a good kid (when he wants to and when people are watching), but that only lasts a while.  I love him and want to see him raised right and ready to be a productive member of society.  I'll take any advice anyone has.  Be blessed!