I'm a Bible teacher who serves Christian men (age 25-44) at my church. I'm in the process of creating a new Bible study series in order to address the problems and pains that Christian men struggle with everyday. This forum seems like a good place to get feedback from other Christian men outside my church circle.
So, what do you as a Christian man struggle with the most?
- porn addiction
- the sin and trap of lust
- constantly losing your faith
- thriving to be a Godly man against a sinful world/feminism
- finding the right Godly woman (that will lead to marriage)
- abstaining from sex until marriage (fornication)
- being a spiritual leader
IMO, one problem within the churches is Phariseeism. What I mean by Phariseeism is our religious traditions of man that expand upon Yah's (God) actual law.
The Law specifically dictates what is forbidden as sin. The church tends to put a fence around what is actually forbidden and include additional things close that may also be sin in some's opinion. Then they attack anyone that violates their additions to the law as being in sin. This is exactly what the Pharisees did to Yeshua. They attacked Him for allowing His disciples to grab grain and eat it on the Sabbath while they walked between cities. According to the Rabbi's, you could not walk more then so many steps on Sabbath or pick any grain or separate it from the chaff because those acts were WORK which was forbidden on the Sabbath. They ADDED to Yah's law by their own rules and traditions.
Granted, Yeshua called those Pharisees 'a nest of vipers' and 'children of their father the devil' for those attacks when He was actually following the written law but disagreed with their interpretation of the law.
Here is a few examples of the problems of Phariseeism within the church. Example's of sexual sin are easiest to see.
Fornication is defined in Hebrew as 'unlawful intercourse' while the modern church defines it as 'any premarital sexual contact'. In the law, premarital sex is NEVER forbidden. As a matter of fact, sex with your betrothed was absolutely allowed. Mary and Joseph is an example. Why wasn't Mary stoned if she was pregnant? The betrothal was the beginning of the covenant. Sex with a non-virgin was also allowed. It was called taking a concubine. It is our puritanical traditions of man that have added to the actual law, expanding upon it and changing the definition of the words.
Another example is our modern concept of adultery. The modern church defines it as cheating on your spouse while it is very specifically defined in the Hebrew very differently. In the Law, sex with another man's betrothed or wife was adultery for a man. It has NOTHING to do with a man's marital status. There was no such thing as 'cheating on a wife'. Men were allowed multiple wives and concubines under the law. Again it is our modern society that has redefined the term. For a women, it was adultery to have any sex with any man other then the one she was in covenant with as his wife or concubine. Women were limited to a single partner at a time. Men were not.
There were also exceptions to the sexual law like the Levirate rights of a childless widow. It was LAWFUL for her to engage is sex with a relative of her dead husband to obtain an heir that could inherit his property since a woman could not do so. Tamar and Ruth are examples. It wasn't required to become a wife, but sex was allowed for the sake of a son to inherit.
The modern church calls a couple that are living together without a legal wedding as 'living in sin' whereas scripture does NOT equate that as sin but those that attack them as being 'a nest of vipers' and 'children of their father the devil'.
The law also states that any man that takes a woman's virginity is required to marry her. The sin in this case was against her father for not having permission to become betrothed. Of course our modern day church would try to keep the couple apart instead of insisting on them staying together to 'prevent them from being in sin'. In that case, keeping them apart is the sin by forcing them to violate Yah's law.
Sexual examples are easiest to expose and considering you listed many of them as major problems for men where they are not actual sin according to the law.
So IMO, one of the biggest problems faced by men is 'False Teachers' that teach modern day Phariseeism within the churches. Men operate as 'meddlesome busybodies' in the matters of other men's lives accusing them of sin that doesn't exist. Scripture ranks that right up there with 'murderers, thieves and evil doers'.
1Pe 4:15 But let none of you suffer as a murderer, or as a thief, or as an evildoer, or as a busybody in other men’s matters