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What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« on: Wed Mar 23, 2016 - 16:18:57 »
Hey there,

I'm a Bible teacher who serves Christian men (age 25-44) at my church. I'm in the process of creating a new Bible study series in order to address the problems and pains that Christian men struggle with everyday. This forum seems like a good place to get feedback from other Christian men outside my church circle.

So, what do you as a Christian man struggle with the most? 

- anger
- porn addiction
- the sin and trap of lust
- constantly losing your faith
- thriving to be a Godly man against a sinful world/feminism
- finding the right Godly woman (that will lead to marriage)
- masturbation
- abstaining from sex until marriage (fornication)
- being a spiritual leader


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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #1 on: Wed Mar 23, 2016 - 16:38:51 »
Hey there,

I'm a Bible teacher who serves Christian men (age 25-44) at my church. I'm in the process of creating a new Bible study series in order to address the problems and pains that Christian men struggle with everyday. This forum seems like a good place to get feedback from other Christian men outside my church circle.

So, what do you as a Christian man struggle with the most? 

- anger
- porn addiction
- the sin and trap of lust
- constantly losing your faith
- thriving to be a Godly man against a sinful world/feminism
- finding the right Godly woman (that will lead to marriage)
- masturbation
- abstaining from sex until marriage (fornication)
- being a spiritual leader


I would answer "Christian women" but that would be too easy.



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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #2 on: Wed Mar 23, 2016 - 16:40:14 »
Astrology?

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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #3 on: Wed Mar 23, 2016 - 16:50:33 »
Astrology?

I personally can't stand astrology, T.C.

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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #4 on: Wed Mar 23, 2016 - 18:59:17 »
Hey there,

I'm a Bible teacher who serves Christian men (age 25-44) at my church. I'm in the process of creating a new Bible study series in order to address the problems and pains that Christian men struggle with everyday. This forum seems like a good place to get feedback from other Christian men outside my church circle.

So, what do you as a Christian man struggle with the most? 

- anger
- porn addiction
- the sin and trap of lust
- constantly losing your faith
- thriving to be a Godly man against a sinful world/feminism
- finding the right Godly woman (that will lead to marriage)
- masturbation
- abstaining from sex until marriage (fornication)
- being a spiritual leader

I'm 20. I could say findingg the right Godly woman that would lead to marriage. In my case, virginity is a deal breaker. Meeting women which aren't what I look for make me lose my temper. I don't lose my faith, instead I just feel forgotten. Abstaining from sex hasn't been a problem to me, I was taught that you shouldn't do anything that you wouldn't want your wife to do, so that kept me pure during my teen years.

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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #5 on: Wed Mar 23, 2016 - 20:03:35 »
Hey Alma1995...thank you for your feedback.

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« Reply #6 on: Wed Mar 23, 2016 - 21:08:44 »
In my experience it's inadequacy. Feeling like you can't measure up as a man, not good enough for a chick you're interested in, not strong enough or skilled enough for your job or to protect your family, not courageous enough, not enough finance or sex appeal... etc. A guy wanna feels respect, admired, wanted, he wanna feel like a man. So it's hard when he can't even feel that way about himself. Heck even with a godly man, inadequacies about following the Lord or measuring up to the standard of what a man is to Him. Heck, many of what you listed can go back to that.

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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #7 on: Fri Mar 25, 2016 - 15:54:10 »
Hey there,

I'm a Bible teacher who serves Christian men (age 25-44) at my church. I'm in the process of creating a new Bible study series in order to address the problems and pains that Christian men struggle with everyday. This forum seems like a good place to get feedback from other Christian men outside my church circle.

So, what do you as a Christian man struggle with the most? 

- anger
- porn addiction
- the sin and trap of lust
- constantly losing your faith
- thriving to be a Godly man against a sinful world/feminism
- finding the right Godly woman (that will lead to marriage)
- masturbation
- abstaining from sex until marriage (fornication)
- being a spiritual leader


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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #8 on: Wed Mar 30, 2016 - 17:30:01 »
I think being a spiritual leader. Men aren't normally mushy and sometimes feel silly when praying outloud.

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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #9 on: Wed Mar 30, 2016 - 18:12:35 »
Good answer. How about feeling mixed messages from everyone including the church. One minute it's greedy to want to earn more income, the next the church is wanting money for a building program, missions and what not and wanting you to come up with more money....and your family is needing things and wanting things.

So I guess would be the struggle of being the provider.

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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #10 on: Thu Jun 30, 2016 - 10:26:14 »
honestly, I currently struggle with all of them

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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #11 on: Fri Jul 01, 2016 - 08:32:11 »
i would teach men how a man should act in a relationship with God.  if all men knew who they were in God and what to expect then it can allow them to break free of the problems you listed above.  knowing who we are in Christ and the power and authority that is given because we are saved is enough to beat any problem set against us. 

why should we concentrate on a problem when we should be concentrating on the solution?  if God is our solution then shouldn't we teach about God all the problems will solve themselves? 

teach on God's power, authority, faith, love, and ect.  everything else will solve itself when we put our trust, faith, and our lives in God's hand.

i hope this gave you some ideas. 

God bless

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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #12 on: Fri Sep 09, 2016 - 02:20:18 »
Paying the bills , like any other man.   rofl

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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #13 on: Thu Aug 10, 2017 - 11:02:41 »
Hey there,

I'm a Bible teacher who serves Christian men (age 25-44) at my church. I'm in the process of creating a new Bible study series in order to address the problems and pains that Christian men struggle with everyday. This forum seems like a good place to get feedback from other Christian men outside my church circle.

So, what do you as a Christian man struggle with the most? 

- anger
- porn addiction
- the sin and trap of lust
- constantly losing your faith
- thriving to be a Godly man against a sinful world/feminism
- finding the right Godly woman (that will lead to marriage)
- masturbation
- abstaining from sex until marriage (fornication)
- being a spiritual leader


IMO, one problem within the churches is Phariseeism.  What I mean by Phariseeism is our religious traditions of man that expand upon Yah's (God) actual law.

The Law specifically dictates what is forbidden as sin.  The church tends to put a fence around what is actually forbidden and include additional things close that may also be sin in some's opinion.  Then they attack anyone that violates their additions to the law as being in sin.  This is exactly what the Pharisees did to Yeshua.  They attacked Him for allowing His disciples to grab grain and eat it on the Sabbath while they walked between cities.  According to the Rabbi's, you could not walk more then so many steps on Sabbath or pick any grain or separate it from the chaff because those acts were WORK which was forbidden on the Sabbath.  They ADDED to Yah's law by their own rules and traditions.

Granted, Yeshua called those Pharisees 'a nest of vipers' and 'children of their father the devil' for those attacks when He was actually following the written law but disagreed with their interpretation of the law.

Here is a few examples of the problems of Phariseeism within the church.  Example's of sexual sin are easiest to see.

Fornication is defined in Hebrew as 'unlawful intercourse' while the modern church defines it as 'any premarital sexual contact'.  In the law, premarital sex is NEVER forbidden.  As a matter of fact, sex with your betrothed was absolutely allowed.  Mary and Joseph is an example.  Why wasn't Mary stoned if she was pregnant?  The betrothal was the beginning of the covenant.  Sex with a non-virgin was also allowed.  It was called taking a concubine.  It is our puritanical traditions of man that have added to the actual law, expanding upon it and changing the definition of the words.

Another example is our modern concept of adultery.  The modern church defines it as cheating on your spouse while it is very specifically defined in the Hebrew very differently.  In the Law, sex with another man's betrothed or wife was adultery for a man.  It has NOTHING to do with a man's marital status.  There was no such thing as 'cheating on a wife'.  Men were allowed multiple wives and concubines under the law.  Again it is our modern society that has redefined the term.  For a women, it was adultery to have any sex with any man other then the one she was in covenant with as his wife or concubine.  Women were limited to a single partner at a time.  Men were not.

There were also exceptions to the sexual law like the Levirate rights of a childless widow.  It was LAWFUL for her to engage is sex with a relative of her dead husband to obtain an heir that could inherit his property since a woman could not do so.  Tamar and Ruth are examples.  It wasn't required to become a wife, but sex was allowed for the sake of a son to inherit.

The modern church calls a couple that are living together without a legal wedding as 'living in sin' whereas scripture does NOT equate that as sin but those that attack them as being 'a nest of vipers' and 'children of their father the devil'.

The law also states that any man that takes a woman's virginity is required to marry her.  The sin in this case was against her father for not having permission to become betrothed.  Of course our modern day church would try to keep the couple apart instead of insisting on them staying together to 'prevent them from being in sin'.  In that case, keeping them apart is the sin by forcing them to violate Yah's law.

Sexual examples are easiest to expose and considering you listed many of them as major problems for men where they are not actual sin according to the law.

So IMO, one of the biggest problems faced by men is 'False Teachers' that teach modern day Phariseeism within the churches.  Men operate as 'meddlesome busybodies' in the matters of other men's lives accusing them of sin that doesn't exist.  Scripture ranks that right up there with 'murderers, thieves and evil doers'.

1Pe 4:15  But let none of you suffer as a murderer, or as a thief, or as an evildoer, or as a busybody in other men’s matters.

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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #14 on: Sun Feb 11, 2018 - 10:42:30 »
Hey there,

I'm a Bible teacher who serves Christian men (age 25-44) at my church. I'm in the process of creating a new Bible study series in order to address the problems and pains that Christian men struggle with everyday. This forum seems like a good place to get feedback from other Christian men outside my church circle.

So, what do you as a Christian man struggle with the most? 

- anger
- porn addiction
- the sin and trap of lust
- constantly losing your faith
- thriving to be a Godly man against a sinful world/feminism
- finding the right Godly woman (that will lead to marriage)
- masturbation
- abstaining from sex until marriage (fornication)
- being a spiritual leader


Leadership.

Christian leadership and especially educational opportunities are squandered by leadership in a mad rush to garner donation$.

Jesus didn't spend hours lecturing his followers on the necessity to commit funds to tithing.  He lectured on discipleship.   

It is more important to the Kingdom of Heaven to have a mere twelve well educated and dedicated followers than a thousand.   Jesus led by example.

Why do most Christian leaders NOT follow this example?

Where is solid Christian education?   Instead of something with meat on the bone, adult education if it exists at all is little more than middle school level milk toast with an adult label.   It isn't geared for the adult mind.  Such courses are usually filled with slogans and buzz words - not education at all but mere reiteration of religious trivia.

What do most Christian men struggle with most?

Competent adult leadership.

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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #15 on: Wed Jun 27, 2018 - 22:40:16 »
I struggle with a few of these, they're hard and the world is against us. BUT the real problem underlying them is an issue many of us guys have with authority.

Here's my little take on that:
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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #16 on: Thu Jun 28, 2018 - 03:51:17 »
 anger~Yes that's always a problem, more so for younger men than older.

- porn addiction~No, if they struggle with porn, then they have a serious problem, very serious.
 
- the sin and trap of lust~I would say yes with lust of the world which would include many areas

- constantly losing your faith~Never

- thriving to be a Godly man against a sinful world/feminism~Especially so in our day.

- finding the right Godly woman (that will lead to marriage)~Yes, maybe the top of the list for BOTH male and females.
 
- masturbation~Yes, especially so for younger males.

- abstaining from sex until marriage (fornication)~Yes, maybe the hardest.

- being a spiritual leader~that's a battle that will last until death being a spiritual leader, because of the temptations to just give up because of battle with teens, wives, and children going into adult life thinking their way is much better than their father's.... and the world around you are against such leader.

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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #17 on: Thu Jun 28, 2018 - 07:51:29 »
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« Reply #18 on: Tue Jul 03, 2018 - 15:53:07 »
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I personally can't stand astrology, T.C.

Me too.  When I was teaching, I used to tell the kids when they asked about it, that I was a Gemini, and Geminis don't believe in Astrology.

Once, I had several who were adamant that astrology was true, because they followed their horoscopes and they were always spot on.   

So I suggested, that since it was a science class, we should do an experiment.   I asked for all of them to submit their birthdays with their names, and I would do a horoscope for each of them, and we could see how well it fit.

They liked that.   So we did it.

A few days later, I handed them out, telling them to not let anyone see theirs.    I had a place for them to mark how well it fit.

Most of them were surprised how well it fit them.    Then I told them to hand it to another student next to them, so they could rate how it fit the student for whom I did it.

At that point, they discovered that I had given every one of them the same horoscope.   ::smile::
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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #19 on: Tue Jul 03, 2018 - 15:58:35 »
Horoscope:

"The past year has been somewhat stressful for you, but it appears that next year might be a better one.   Your efforts to make things better are about to pay off.
You are not always a hard worker and sometimes, are even lazy, but you are willing to work very hard to get something you really want.
You wouldn't mind having more friends, but you are unwilling to compromise what you believe in, just to fit in."


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Re: What do you think Christian men struggle with the most?
« Reply #20 on: Wed Sep 18, 2019 - 13:43:00 »
Hey there,

I'm a Bible teacher who serves Christian men (age 25-44) at my church. I'm in the process of creating a new Bible study series in order to address the problems and pains that Christian men struggle with everyday. This forum seems like a good place to get feedback from other Christian men outside my church circle.

So, what do you as a Christian man struggle with the most? 

- anger
- porn addiction
- the sin and trap of lust
- constantly losing your faith
- thriving to be a Godly man against a sinful world/feminism
- finding the right Godly woman (that will lead to marriage)
- masturbation
- abstaining from sex until marriage (fornication)
- being a spiritual leader


You don't need a Bible study.   You need counseling.   Big difference.

Bible study is for people who want to argue the fine points of scripture in a scholarly fashion.

Counseling is for individuals who have problems.

For example, if you're having problems with marital infidelity should you seek a private counselor or should you wash your dirty laundry in a classroom?

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