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Can't orgasm during sex anymore
« on: Mon Jan 28, 2019 - 20:13:32 »
Alright, so let me give you all the details.
First, I am a Christian. I struggled with a porn addiction for many years (like more than 10). I have recently overcame that addiction with the help of the Lord Jesus Christ and also my now wife. She knew that I had an addiction to porn and it was ruining our relationship. I had enough and was tired of all the lies the enemy was telling me. So within the past 6 months or so I have stopped it and probably have been clean for at least 3 months. I just recently got married and on the honeymoon I orgasmed a lot but it started to die off and now haven't been able to even come close to orgasming. We were both virgins and she can still orgasm but I can't even get half way there it seems like. I started to look online and see articles and forums that said maybe he's cheating or orgasming by himself, which I'm definitely not doing. Also I saw that I might have more stress, which I don't think I do. So I don't know what to do and getting concerned. I have not had any change in my meds nor stopped taking any. Maybe someone out there can help me of what's going on.

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Re: Can't orgasm during sex anymore
« Reply #1 on: Thu Jan 31, 2019 - 03:17:02 »
It is undeniable that worry and stress can be a big "dampener of ardour" for sexual relations  - but it is such an exciting, irresistible and pleasurable urge, that I would guess your best bet is to talk about it with your doc - you may have some underlying physical mal-function causing your inability to orgasm! There may be all sorts of little difficulties with the proper behaviour of your "kit", prostate gland, seminal vesicles, etc, etc, - just let the doc sort you out!

On the other hand, if your partner orgasms quite happily - you may have grounds to feel some satisfaction in her pleasure.  Some chaps get over-excited and "cum-off" prematurely and then start "wilting", before their partners have got full satisfaction! Just concentrate on making a good job of it boyo - don't let your mind wander off!  If you have only been married for a relatively short while, there is the possibility that your "kit" is "tired" after much use, and needs a bit of a rest - so just be grateful that you can still get an "erection" and give pleasure to your partner!

 If, despite still being "hard" after your partner is satisfied without you "cumming-off", and your continuing pelvic thrusting doesn't distress her - then just carry on till she expresses discomfort, which might be an increasing concern due to sensitivity! That way you will both get a deep measure of mutual satisfaction and "resolution".

Also, If you happen to be on heart, blood pressure, or cholesterol-lowering style meds - that could lead to an E.D. problem.  (Am assuming you are not of an age when "everything" is beginning to get "tired" and dry-up anyway!  ::frown::)

I don't think your former addiction to porn, factors into the problem - because there is such a "drive" when you "penetrate", that nature takes over "doing what comes naturally" - just really enjoy it (dwelling on the delightful sensations), trying to pump your "load" into your partner! If you are still "hard" quite a while after your partner has orgasm-ed, without "cumming-off" yourself - then you really do need that visit to the doc! 

Where does your faith come into the picture?  That all depends on your plans as a couple.  The Lord gave you your "kit" so that you could be "fruitful" in using your semen in a Godly way, to hopefully participate in producing new life - in a child.  Since the advent of condom usage, and financial restraints etc, making the generation of a large family impractical - we express our love and desire for our partners by often using some form of contraception.  Am not sure what the Lord thinks about that - but you know what we actually do about it!


IMO the problem with condom usage is that after a "climax", most of us experience "wilt" - when our cum works it's way down the inside of the condom and can leak out through it's entrance.  (This is what a former acquaintance of mine sneeringly called "making love wearing a wet sock", he preferred to couple with ladies "on the pill" . He was a handsome young Irish rogue whose only real concern in life seemed to be coupling with ladies - I wonder what ever happened to him!?).  So in that case, an early cautionary "withdrawal" is needed - which is a bit of a hiatus. The great advantage of one's wife taking the contraceptive pill is that a chap can forget about using a condom and making an early "withdrawal" - just enjoy loving contact much longer (and not roll over, cos we're tired, to have a snooze!). If we are lucky, we (ourselves and partner) may be able/eager to "perform" again after a little rest! Yippee! I have read that ladies find a series of orgasms a real delight!

For those wishing to start a family - but whose partner seems unable to conceive, there may be ways to optimize the delivery of our cum to the upper end of our partners vagina.  I remember shortly after our marriage, my wife and I were not having much success in getting a "bun in the oven".  However, I must admit I thoroughly enjoyed the frequent trying!  Eventually, I thought of the saying "Water cannot run uphill under the effect of gravity!" and realized that by "appropriate positioning" some improvement could be made.  Despite my wife's grumble "Oh, you're almost tipping me upside down!" I put a rolled-up pillow under my wife's butt - then we started our love-making with her vagina tilted upwards and my penis pointing, almost vertically down into her vagina.  At "climax" my cum sprayed down towards the cervix at the end of her vagina - hoping that gravity would help the little spermatozoa in my cum, to swim more easily to their goal.  They did! - success!

I once read of a young couple, without a condom, wanting to give each other intimate pleasure in a "heavy petting" session without "penetration" - in which the chap repeatedly rubbed his erect penis against his partner's clitoris.  All went well, until he got too excited and "came off", spraying his cum around the entrance to his partners vagina.  His rascally little spermatozoa swam their way to their goal - and the unsurprising outcome was that she conceived! It's funny how some chaps seem to be more "sexually potent" than others, it doesn't necessarily tally with their apparent degree of masculinity - so a "weedy" looking chap may be more "potent" (and father more children) than a "hunky" one!
 

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